What thoughts go through your mind when you hear the word “coma”? Do you joke about it, or do you take it seriously? At difficult times in your life, do you find yourself asking the question why am I in this situation?

If the answer is YES, then you are ready to wake-up your truth, from living an illusion and being in a “technological coma” that is stripping you off your true identity, your freedom, happiness, and most importantly the time you have left in this world.

Truth is, for many of you, the word “coma” is associated with someone who has had some kind of accident or life-threatening illness that stops them from responding to any outside stimulus such as touch, voices, other sounds, or any sort of activity going on nearby. Some of you may even jokingly use the word “coma” to describe people who don’t pay attention, are sleeping deeply, or not fulfilling their true potential.

But the kind of “coma2 I am talking about has nothing to do with effects of a physical injury. It has to do with:

The psychological, behavioural, and habitual changes that are happening at a speed of light due to rapid social, technological, and economic advancements are forcing many of us to be glued and married to our phones, ipads, and countless applications designed to rob us off or priceless time and give us an instant dopamine fix.

Recall the last situation that you were in. Where you on a date, with a friend having dinner, in a social gathering, family event, or at an important meeting at work? Now, see if you can recall how many times did you or the people you were with checked and did some kind of activity on their phones?

Do you or did anyone you were with took the time to switch-off from technology and the associated applications that increase your cortisol levels thus inducing more stress and anxiety in your life?

Did you know that by not doing so, the message you are subconsciously sending to the other person when you constantly check your phone for facebook updates, what’s up messages and Instagram likes is that of “ I have something more important to do, I value something else, I don’t value your time, etc.” The bottom line is, the other person may come to their own conclusion that being with you is a total waste of time and you don’t truly value their time and them.

Perhaps you have a friend who on moments notice cancels that movie-date, exhibition you were looking forward to seeing, or simply catching with them over a coffee and decides to honour another engagement. If you do, then you may want to look deeper within you the reasons this person is still in your life.

Over time I have let go many people whose behaviours and values were different to mines and the kind of meaningful, trustworthy and loving relationship I love enjoying in my daily life.

The countless dopamine fix behaviours we have developed are not only destroying the social fabric of a healthy society, business success and the relationships we have built over a lifetime, but they are also fuelling the global problems that mankind is facing and is looking to solve.

Some to mention are the threat of terrorist attacks, extremism, extreme levels of poverty, unfair wealth distribution, the spread of HIV/AIDS and other infectious diseases, supply of clean water, providing universal primary, secondary, and university education, managing cultural, generational and gender differences, dealing with high divorce rates and instilling the morals and ethics in the “millennials” that may save humanity from destroying itself.

In my multi-award winning book # Loneliness, I call this new phenomenon, the virus of the modern age. If not caught, stopped, and cleaned in the now, it will continue to spread globally at uncontrollable rates infecting everyone with behaviours, beliefs, and actions that may take mankind into an irreversible trajectory of self-destruction.

This new gold rush for dopamine fix is also affecting every family, every relationship, and every business across the world. Many business leaders and CEO’s that seek my help to address various personal, leadership and people problems felt that many of their workers are asleep.

Some event felt that the “millennials” are to blame because they are a generation of entitlement, narcissist, self-focused, and lazy people. Unless this problem is addressed and alleviated in the now, many people will lose their jobs, some businesses will stop to exist, and those who survive will deploy Artificial Intelligence (AI).

Perhaps now is the time to wake-up humanity from this coma that pushes us to seek friendship in social networks with people we never met, create and buy AI pets, sex, sales, police and soldier robots to satisfy our endless needs.

Recently I gave a TEDx talk titled “Technological Armageddon: A Wake-Up Call” based from a chapter in my book #Loneliness that so far hundred thousands of people have watched and shared it across various social media channels. In a nutshell, this talk is a global call for us to remember what makes us human being and not human doings that we are more and more forced to become.

It is unfortunate that only when we say goodbye to some of our best known and well-loved figures – from George Michael, Bill Paxton, Gorden Kaye, John Hurt, Tara Palmer to Carrie Fisher, Prince and David Bowie that we start to awaken to issues such as depression, suicide, and loneliness that affect almost every human being.

One of my favourite actors, Robin Williams, whose movies have inspired millions of people suffered from depression and hanged himself at the age of 63. The truth is it does not matter if you are rich and famous or poor and unknown, mental and emotionally triggered health problems if not addressed can force anyone down the path of where there is no return.

We mourn their passing and we hope they have found the peace in death that they could not find in life, but many people continue to live their life doing jobs they don’t love, remaining in relationships that suffocate them, and afraid of speaking their inner truth from the fear of being judged, criticised and rejected.

So many clients I have helped over the years have shared in their sessions with me why they tend to choose antidepressant, drugs, cigarettes and alcohol as their first choice to help them deal with stressors, pressures, and situations that cause them emotional harm.

As I take them on an inside out reflective journey, a shift to their mindset happens when they start to listen to the messages that are being communicated from their inner being through their behaviours, actions, and situations they find themselves in. Unfortunately, often people seek help when is either too late or when a physical illness takes over, instead of reaching out, they close down and drown themselves in an ocean of infinite loneliness, afraid to reach out and do something about it.

According to the facts published by the office of National Statistics the deaths suicide and other mental or emotionally triggered illnesses caused, have risen to the point that if you are a man between 20 and 49, you’re more likely to die from suicide than cancer, road accidents or heart disease.

Suicide is the number one killer and the biggest threat both men and women face. The figures are chilling, and yet still it is something companies do little about, we hardly discuss in media, in public or in our private lives— which is a significant part of the problem itself.

But the statistics are clear, so are the insights from the problems that thousands of people I have helped across the world share with me. The problem has become too big for us to ignore. The question to be asked now is not just why executives, celebrities, and young men are killing themselves in record numbers, how are they joining terrorist groups that sway them to take their own lives, but what are we all going to do about it?

The thing people always want to know is: why? It is the why that encouraged the wife of a successful senior executive working for a bank in the City of London to send me the following private fb message:

“Dear Tony, we are not friends on fb, though I have been following your work for few years now. Your personal story through loneliness, bullying, and sexual abuse that you share in #Loneliness touched my soul. I felt as if you wrote the book just for me. The reason for contacting you is to see if your integrated work can help my husband and us as a family. In the last few months, due to work pressures, my husband who is a CEO of a multinational company has been struggling with depression, anxiety, stress, and having suicidal thoughts. We have tried conventional doctors who prescribed him antidepressants, gone through various therapists, and recently a friend of ours who speaks very highly of you and your integrated work asked me to get in touch and make sure I book a consultation for my husband and myself. From your fb posts I can see you are abroad, can I please book us both on your first available appointment when you are back in UK?”

I felt inspired to write this article after spending two hours with an incredible man who has achieved so many things in life, yet deep down he felt alone, unfulfilled, scared, and afraid to look me into my eyes.

Deep down, he knew that I could see his pain and the truth he was trying so hard to hide it. It reminded me of another client, Paul McMonagle, who today openly shares with the world how two years ago the consultation he had with me stopped him from committing suicide and put him on a journey to find cure to his twenty years of living with OCD and epilepsy.

Having helped thousands of men and women overcome various mental, emotional, physical health issues as well as relationship, business, and financial challenges, I know that suicide and self-harm are not mental health problems themselves, but they are linked with mental distress, emotional pain, unmet expectations, deep rooted fears, and from not living ones authentic values and truth.

I know the effects of suicidal thoughts, this virus of the modern age, first hand. In 2009 I faced redundancy and other chained events that caused me emotional harm, distress, and a mental breakdown that lead me to contemplate suicide. Every decision I made back then was based on what others thought of me, it got me to a point where I saw no way out but to contemplate suicide, a real life story which I transparently share in my book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age.

I decided to write this article about the effects of suicide, depression, and mental health to not only raise awareness in the business, but also as a call for love to save people from all walks of life who too may currently be in a situation where they see no way out and causes them considerable emotional harm that drives them on a path that leads to what I call in my book #Loneliness, the caves of the wretched solitude.

Although there is no simple solution to reducing the number of people who take their own lives, here is Five Vital Steps from the TJS Evolutionary Method: ALARM™ that you may want to take to help yourself or others who may be contemplating suicide.

1. Acknowledge to yourself or to others that you can trust a sudden change in behaviour. This is the first step to take in order to help yourself or others. We are born with all that we need to be able to identify the root cause of the changes that force us to create numerous coping mechanisms for the things in our life that cause us to feel angry, depressed, and disappointed about. If online resources are not helping you, seek professional help from a Dr, therapist, coach, mentor, healer, or any other qualified person who can help you.
2. Love heals, when we feel segregated from this life force we leave ourselves prone to all sort of attacks that can affect or auric, mental, emotional and physical body. Find ways to love the unlovable that causes you most distress. I use this very same technique to help thousands of clients free themselves from depression, anger, and self-harming actions.
3. Achieve mental agility by looking to have a complete awareness of the situation that causes you to want to contemplate suicide or any other forms of self-harm. Our mind is what destroys or builds perfect health in our body. Use the 25 conscious engineering steps of TJS Method™ to transcend the thoughts that keep you stuck, question the beliefs and the values that are programmed from a very young age, and chose to upgrade your brains systems for living.
4. Results are your creation, taking full responsibility of your life is the first step to awakening your inner doctor, genius, and scientists that can help you re engineer your reality.
5. Miracles come to those who learn to listen to every communication that comes from their inner being. See suicidal thoughts as your wakeup call that puts you on a journey to align your values, beliefs, behaviours and daily actions with the dreams they are called to pursue.

Finally, here is a quote I created to be a soothing balm for all of you who may be going through struggle, adversity, and may feel at times hopeless, alone, depressed and suicidal that you can use as a tool to help yourself or those in need.

“Careless words may kindle strife, but gracious words give hope, heal and save a life.”

Get involved by commenting and sharing which one of these vital principles resonates most with you or someone you may know that could benefit from this article.  Feel free to invite others to engage in a life changing dialogue that as the quote above says can give hope, heal and save a life.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

To learn more about what my integrated work can do for you, your company, book me to inspire your audience or have a private consultation please click HERE to send me an e-mail.

Many of you reading this article may know my story…

In 27 years I went from living homeless on the streets of London feeling depressed, anxious, lost, lonely, and rejected to climbing the corporate ladder, running multimillion/billion IT programs, being made redundant, and becoming successful entrepreneur, coach, author, and speaker who grew his business so dramatically it’s still hard to believe sometimes.

I went from serving a small number of private clients to serving a network of change makers, writing two books that became No:1 Amazon best sellers, and recently featuring in a ground breaking real life coaching documentary titled Living My Illusion. With my books, speaking, TV and Radio interviews as well as through this documentary I am now reaching out to people from almost every country on earth. Isn’t that incredible?

Three things that made the biggest difference…

Becoming a Key Person of Influence, creating Joint Ventures (JV), and consistently create products and services that resolve meaningful problems for people and business owners.

That’s why I’m so enthusiastic about recommending this strategy and spiritual intelligence path for you.

And it’s why I’m so enthusiastic about encouraging you to invest in you, as it is this investment in me that led to creating and attracting opportunities the results that I now enjoy having in my life.

As far as I know, TJS Evolutionary Method® is the most highly effective and comprehensive method that you can use to maximise your human potential, become a magnet for opportunites, and create JV that bring into existence your unique product and service.

No matter what niche you serve, you’ll find that building spiritual intelligence not only will help you remain balanced in all of the key areas of life, but also it will draw to you your ideal partners you wish to connect, collaborate, and co-create.

It is my twenty-seven years of overcoming life’s greatest adversity, learning from some of the best spiritual teachers, and consistently thrive to learn more that brought to fruition the two books that opened up the doors to many JV’s. The one I love most is with the founders of Vandercom, a telecommunication and IT service provider company, who invested in co-creating Living My Illusion Documentary Series.

The kind of spiritual intelligence that my clients gain through reading my books, working with me privately on one to one and one to many basis is not the one where you escape to silent retreats, take ayahuasca, or other drugs that make you hallucinate, it is one that helps you activate your most precious asset-YOU.

Here are three things you can do to help you attract what you want in your life by investing in you spiritual intelligence journey:

1. Stay away from any form of drugs. You have all the faculties required for you to create spiritual experiences naturally with no side effects. Whilst shortcuts may be very tempting, it also can create ireversible brain damage that I have seen in many people who use drugs as ways to grow spiritually.
2. Daily adopt one action that activates your ability to love. Gratitude is one of the many keys that opens your heart’s wisdom. Use it daily to be grateful for the things you have and don’t have in your life. Most people use gratitude for the things they have, in my experience to embrace the wholeness of life and be in sync with the laws of nature, it is essential to say thank you and I love you to both, the things we have and the things we don’t.
3. Create win-win joint ventures with people who believe in you, in your work, vision, and prefereably are already your clients who are doing your work. It is this that helped me create trustworthy joint ventures and partnerships with many of my clients from various sectors, markets, and industries.

To accelerate your results and successfully use these three points shared, hire a coach or a mentor who can help you get to where you want to be and with whom you wish to do JV’s.

As my vision expanded to reach one billion people, I hired a mentor who already is doing that and I partnered up with many people who love what I do. In doing so you not only going to open the doors to new opportunities and partnerships, but also meet amazing people through their network of clients.

I introduce all of my elite coaching clients to one another, because they are all growing inside out, they tend to get along extremly well as they share common values and end up forging great JV’s with one another. I also love to take them with me to amazing places to expose them to various learning environments where they can practice the effectiveness of the twenty-five conscious engineering steps of the TJS Evolutionary Method®, meet new people, and use spiritual intelligence to grow their business and enrich their lives.

If you want to be part of something bigger, then reach out to people, connect with them, and keep learning and investing in you. To get the same transformation my clients have when they started their journey with me, create joint ventures with inspired thought leaders, and evolve your soul, I invite you to book a private consultation with me and see what I can do to help you grow every area of your life and create JV that bring mutual growth, success, and connection.

My yearly coaching programms are customised to help you gain spiritual intelligence, life and business skills, and the wisdom required to build a gobal business and JV’s that help you reach as many people as possible with your important work.

To start your journey, please do get in touch with Alma by e-mailing  info@tonyselimi.com to learn how to activate your human potential, attract the perfect clients for you, and create the dream life that I now live and you deep down you know you deserve.

With January saying goodbye, here comes February, a month that people around the world associate with love, romance, candlelight, flowers and the sound of sweet nothings. We even have a day dedicated to celebrating all the love in our lives – Valentine’s Day.

So where it all did started?

Valentine’s Day has its roots in an ancient (and rather risqué) Roman tradition called Lupercalia where  annually on February 15, young men stripped to their birthday suits and ran around spanking young maidens (gently) in order to boost their fertility.

You heard it right, these pagan antics remained wildly popular even after Constantine declared Christianity the official religion of the Roman Empire. Later, Lupercalia was absorbed into Christian tradition, transforming into Saint Valentine, the wayward saint who performed illegal marriages under the Roman Emperor Claudias II. For his digression, Saint Valentine was executed on February 14, and today, sweethearts around the world commemorate Saint Valentine on this day.

What people are doing on this day vary from country to country for instance lovers in the United States go all out in displaying their fondness for each other: Every year, Americans spend on average a sweet 20 billion dollars on chocolates, dinners, flowers and jewellery.

In South Korea the tradition is for men to be pampered on Valentine’s Day, women buy chocolates for their male partners, family members and co-workers as a token of affection and appreciation.

And for us in the UK, many of us get seriously romantic on Valentine’s Day, arranging candle light dinner dates, exchanging gifts, and buying flowers, chocolates and expensive jewellery.

For anyone who is single, Finland seems the place to be. You don’t have to worry about feeling left out of the festivities because in this country it’s all about celebrating with your friends. The day is even called ‘Friend’s Day’ in Finnish, not Valentine’s. The official flower is the pink rose, but mates are happy to receive gifts, cards or candy, too.

Although receiving the above mentioned gifts are a nice gesture, here are three Free Valentine gifts that most couples and single people desire:

1. The gift of Love.

Love is the exquisite healer present in all of us, it is the spark that ignites the light in us all, and it is the energy that transforms any emotional baggage we have continued to carry, our outdated and outmoded perspectives, and any other attachment that keeps us bound to the past into seeds for meaningful living.

When our heart is awakened, the light it radiates transmutes any dark negative energy we haves stored within us into powerful life changing lessons that unleash the true power of the infinite wisdom of love. Make the choice to say “yes!” to love yourself as you are, another person, place, condition or experience, to accepting love to guide and fill your life with infinite joy.

2. The Gift of Gratitude

No situation in life is beyond the act of gratitude. Many people hold on to their past traumas, fears, and pain, this way of being not only is damaging for your body-mind, but it is also the biggest lock you can put to your loving heart. Your heart’s compassion and its ability to love the unlovable is the greatest treasure you carry with you. You have the power to attract all that which you desire, open up closed doors, and mend broken relationships.

Whether you are single or not, chose this Valentine to be grateful, to say with a grateful heart“ I Love you and thank you” to anyone who may have harmed you, to dates that went wrong, and to partners that have left you to pursue their hearts desires.

If you are going on a date, be grateful that you have one, that you are alive and have this opportunity to express your highest expression of yourself.

3. The Gift of Honesty

For many of us, speaking our truth is one of the hardest hurdle to overcome. No one wants to go on a date with someone who lies, frankly, even if that person is you, your inner being does not like when you exaggerate, lie, or hold back your truth.

If you are on a date because you feel alone, say so, the other person will much prefer to listen to your honest self than the one who likes to disguise the loneliness you may feel inside. If you are on a Valentines date because you want one off sexual encounter with someone you have been dreaming about, communicate that openly and with confidence. We are all animal in our nature, sex is a greatest expression of who we are and of our love. And if you are in a long term relationship, then make sure you give your loved ones the gift of truth no matter what that may be for you.

In my professional career I have coached hundreds of couples on various relationship issues, one of the most common threads that lead to relationship breakdown is the illusion of what love is and it is not, not being grateful to your partner, and concealing the truth.

People often assume that love I support without challenge, that they need to be grateful only on the good things that their partner is doing, and do not want to speak their truth from the fear of hurting the other person. This is an unfortunate reasoning process. When we behave this way we increase the negative energy in the relationship, we forget about the person we fell in love with, and start to fill our now moment with this destructive energy and create a future moment with a similar type of damaging energy.

Few months ago I released my latest book called #Loneliness, it explores the fierce scientific, psychological and spiritual impact of loneliness in every layer of our society-in business, society, education, healthcare, elderly, family, relationship and in ourselves– a problem that has become an ironic epidemic in a world that is more interconnected than ever before.

Don’t forget to download your FREE chapter to help you feel more connected, learn how to embrace both challenge and support in your life, and create a love infused conscious relationship with yourself, your partner, family, friends, clients, and everyone you encounter in your daily life.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, decide this Valentine to apply the above three birth given Gifts and make someone’s Valentine a day their heart will always remember.

May you have love, gratitude, and truth infused Valentine.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. If you are ready to attract the right person and do not know how or are in a relationship that is challenging but do not what to do then book a two hour clarity coaching consultation and find out the root cause of your relationship issues, what prevents you from being in a love infused conscious relationship, and what you can do to have an epic 2017, accelerate your personal, professional and business growth.

Since a very young age I was extremely curious to know more about what makes some people extremely successful, legendary and iconic. Why is it that the majority of people in the world, the 99% per-centers cannot have what the so called 1% per-centers already had and continue to have?

Back then little I knew that one day I will have the opportunity to meet someone who is a Billionaire and find out from them what is it they think, belief and do to create an unprecedented success.

If like me, you were born to a middle class working family, you may have heard so many different beliefs about money and wealthy people. The ones that stayed with me for very long times were “money is root cause of all evil, no matter what you do, you will never be rich, money does not grow in trees, and you have to work very hard to make money.” These are only just few that I listed, in the actual fact, I could write an entire book about the many beliefs I was taught from a very young age by family members, at school, friends, religious scholars and in the environment I grew up in.

When we were growing up, many of us knew very little about the power our beliefs have in creating the reality in which we live in. By the time we start to work and earn our living we have already created many powerful beliefs about what money is or is not.

I remember back in 2009 when I was made redundant my capacity to earn money was limited by my own beliefs about how much I could earn and the injected values of others. Back then this limit was set to a maximum of £120 k for someone like me who had graduated from UCL, one of the top four universities in UK, had twelve years of experience, and was capable of running and managing multi-million-billion pounds of IT budgets and programs.

It is during this time that I experienced an epiphany that made me write down two hundred beliefs I had about money. What came out was shocking, when I questioned the validity of each of the beliefs I so strongly held dear to my heart, I realized none of them had any truth behind.

A weight was lifted off, now I was free to think bigger and truly pursue my hearts calling to help people globally heal, accelerate their human potential, and give them tool to help them become leaders of their lives. What I noticed was that the more people I started to serve, the more money I was attracting and all I had to do is find ways to reach out to more people.

This lead me to writing two books A Path to Wisdom and newly published book #Loneliness, which within months became number one best-selling and award-winning books. I started to receive e-mails and client requests from people from all around the world. Suddenly, my capacity to earn doubled and with time it tripled and quadrupled.

Somehow everything I did up to now put me on a path to meet few Billionaires that became personal friends, teachers and later on my clients. It was my dream since a very young child to unravel the secrets that the 1% have and share them with a wider audience so that I can help more people be more successful and lead prosperous lives.

I replaced my old beliefs with new ones and in the process I started to attract people and opportunities never thought possible before. I realized that to live eternally in people’s hearts, minds and thoughts is to illuminate my being so that where ever I go I leave behind a fragrance of love that people can breathe into their hearts.

The boundaries we are taught to put with the outer world are our Ego’s attempt to dim the infinite light radiating from our grateful heart. The light required to put the key on a lock that opens up the safety box of a universal bank account that enables you to create and withdraw infinite amount of wealth.

This is the moment I realized the power that Gratitude, Love and serving more people authentically are the key factors in attaining perfect health, wealth and happiness into our life. When we come from a place of sincere gratitude our energy is one of acceptance, empathy and harmony that brings about the greatest miracles and the right people that we can be of service.

We are a product of an intelligent design, yet we are constantly reminded that we are not. Purifying our inner world from the lifelong conditioning, one-sided perceptions, and limiting beliefs that pollute our true essence is what can help us move towards crowd nurtured world peace and the next stages in our evolution

In my latest award-winning book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age, I talk about why polarized way of thinking, feeling and being is the reason which prevents you from turning thoughts into matter, ideas into things, and emotions into relationships.

When we come from a place of emotional unbalance we destroy our self-worth therefore we attract less opportunities, money and people in our lives that can help us accelerate our growth. Balanced mind together with clear strategy is what attracts and creates wealth, health, and all that our heart desires.

The truth is, It is only when we are in our hearts that we can connect to the flow of this universal energy we call love, the energy that is the cure to illness and the driving force for the survival of our bio diversity.

Whether you know it or not, in the moment of your greatest inspiration you are in sync with all that is and it is in moments like this you become extremely clear on how to resolve more problems for more people.

Thank you for your time and reading this article, if you liked it, please share it and help others learn, grow, and attract more wealth and opportunities.

I trust it inspired you to think deeper, and observe the world with a new pair of glasses that help you in your personal, professional, financial, business, or relationship growth.

Get in touch if I can be of service to help you or your company in creating the outcomes, the clarity, and the plan required to deliver astronomical visions.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

The See-Through Coach

“It is in respecting, manging, and using your time effectively that you stay focused, clear, sharp, present, and build an extraordinary life.” -Tony J. Selimi

Weather you acknowledge it or not time is a precious and limited commodity of which we all are given in equal measure. Everybody gets twenty four hours per day…no more, no less…

It matters not how much money you have or don’t have, how educated you are, what your social position you belong too, if you are married, single, gay or straight, white, black, Asian, or other, the fact is…

You still get only twenty four hours a day, no more and no less. You can’t buy, beg, borrow or steal another one minute.

As much as we would like to think we are in charge of these twenty four hours, the truth is what we do with those twenty four hours is not entirely up to us.

We all have obligations that must be met each day. We have jobs that provide us with necessary income, a certain amount of time is required for eating and sleeping and our relationships with our loved ones require some amount of time each day but the entire twenty four are not all spoken for.

These are the few hours each day that we can use as we want to use them. What we decide to do with them will mostly determine how successful or unsuccessful we will be in life.

If we spend all of our “unspoken for hours” on fb, playing games, or on the couch in front of the TV eating chips and drinking coke, in five years we will still be doing the same boring job. When I decided to write my book A Path to Wisdom: How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life, I had to put in my diary minimum of 2 hours a day writting time. This helped me to remain focused, in the flow, and publish my book on time.

Some of those free hours if, used to learn new things or to try different things, could mean that in a short amount of time we would have better jobs, better relationships or even better health.

That seems like a good idea but where does one begin when clouds of confusion surround our brain?

#1: Get clear of the outcomes you wish to create. Write down in details what you want to achieve, why you want those things, and how they would make you feel once you have accomplished your goals. You can use TJS Evolutionary Method to help you in this process to help you listen from within what your being is asking you to do. Learnign how to use and apply this method will save you time and help you get step closer to your desired success.

# 2: For a plane to reach its destination safely it needs both a physical pilot and an auto pilot. Both are needed to safely reach a pre-set destination. So do you. Trying to do everything on your own will not get you the results that a good coach can help you navigate safely through the adversities that may pop out on your way to attaining your desired outcomes. Ask for help, sometimes people go for free advice, I believe if you want outstanding outcomes you might have to pay the expert that in long term saves you time, money, energy and the emotions. If you try an re-invent the wheel, you are just wasting that valuable resource that you have, time.

One thing to keep in mind when getting a good coach to help you in your journey, there’s a big difference between spending money and investing money. Any time you spend some money on learning something that will take you closer to what you want, that’s investment!

# 3: Use your time effectively by making sure you set aside a certain amount of hours each
week to work on your goal, and stick to it. Be persistent, consistent, and productive. The time that is not used effectively is the time that could be used to attain your goals.

#4: Acknowledge within you that you are part of life, part of the greater picture that knows in order to create success it must also experience the failure. Nature does the same, in order to create it must destroy life. The progress in becoming successful is messy. The very nature of any type of growth being personal, business, finance, health or spiritual means that you’ll experience distraction, disruption, confusion and what at first sight appears to be difficulty. It is in these moments you need to keep in mind that difficulties are improvement in wolf’s clothing. And that rather than falling backward, you choose to fail forward, stand up again with a knowing that your challenges are actually showing you you’re moving ahead. It’s a simple yet brilliant way to keep your perceptions balanced through your journey to attaining success.

#: Love is a powerful force that forces us to go into war with one another and equally makes us love our enemies. Align the outcomes you wish to create with your highest values, it is only then that your heart opens up and gives you the energy to create the success you desire. Success will come much faster when you don’t waste your time trying to do it all on your own.

I trust the above five steps help you bring success faster your way, get clear of what you want, and use the infinite wisdom of love as the antidote to your frustrations, fears, and stress that may come up in your pursue for success. Appreciating your time in times of crisis is what takes you from living an average life to creating an extraordinary success.

Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things by making today the day you listen to your hearts call to Success!

And, if what you have read has inspired you, please get in touch and let me help you honour your talents, be successful, unleash your leader, and make awesome things happen for you, your organization, and the clients you serve. It gives me a great pleasure through coaching, mentoring, speaking, and team work to help you and your company be successful. To get in touch please click HERE!

Be great, awesome, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

Coach, Human Behaviour and Cognition Specialist

I just got back from Israel where i was visiting and coaching a very close friend of mine Amir who i met in London 15 years ago. Since then, so much has happened, changed and we have both evolved as spiritual beings.

Back then we were both in our early 30’s, full of life and we were both doing something different from what we are doing now. Although our paths have taken us to different directions, one thing for sure has not changed is our friendship, closeness and the Love we share for one another.

We had few great conversations the other day about his current challenges he was facing in his personal life and the direction he wanted to take in his career. We talked at length about what he wants to create in 10 years’ time, and got some clarity on what kind of jobs he needed to do to achieve his dream. One thing for sure we all have a choice and must think about who we chose to serve and what that means for the work you may be currently doing.

This trip gave me a lot of food for thought; it also gave me an idea of what I wanted to share with you in this post.

As i am writing this blog post I’m drinking a delicious vanilla shake from Juice Plus that my very dear friend Farhan got for me to try. I must confess it is tasty though….I am reflecting on the week gone, the people i helped and also planning my next year.

What i have noticed with myself and many thousands of clients i have helped so far is: once people focus all of their energy in their chosen path, they naturally become clearer about the next steps and have a lot of energy. They start feeling more confident each day, feel proud about what they have achieved and start to consciously choose and make the choices that helps them remain on their chosen path no matter what.

I can tell you for sure it is not easy to remain on your chosen path as by the second we get easily distracted, this is where working with a good life coach can help you overcome those challenges and purposefully move forward.

So what about you? Are you clear about your path?

Your path is the deep alignment of your values and beliefs with the pursuit of your missions and goals. For some people, just thinking about all that is a bit tricky, because maybe you’re working at some “job” that doesn’t really match your intentions. Maybe you’re stuck somewhere. Or maybe you’re in between pursuits.

More dangerously, maybe you have no clue what path matters to you.

How do you find a path?

We could probably create a framework to do that. I’m sure someone or other sells such a thing. But let’s just make one right now. Here are the ingredients which i share in my book A Path to Wisdom, which you will have to answer (please don’t just read this. Take a moment and jot some responses to yourself – or to me!):

• What actions or activities make you happiest?
• What actions or activities make time seem to disappear?
• Do you prefer working with people or alone?
• In what ways do you prefer to serve others? (For instance, I work much better with groups than one-on-one, though I can do both).
• Where have you seen even the smallest glimmer of impact from your actions when you’ve done something? (What has made a difference?)

Does this get you thinking? Does it fill you with despair? Do you have regrets that bubble right to the top?

Believe it or not, the thoughts that don’t immediately align with the questions above might be more valid than the actual answers to what I asked of you. Listen. Don’t throw anything away for a moment. Just listen to what your insides are telling you. That’s the work of figuring out your path.

Working on my own business, with so many business owners, and many entrepreneurs i came to understand the business implications of not understanding your path.

I shifted from doing consulting projects with big companies (I still do some, when asked, but I’m not actively seeking them) to working as Elite Life Coach, Mentor and Spiritual Healer with a range of individuals from all walks of life. I did that because I love what i do. I like working with likeminded professionals who seek to improve their capabilities, no matter where they are in the corporate hierarchy or work for themselves.

This wasn’t entirely easy. It’s harder for people to decide to invest in their own personal development when it comes from their own wallet, instead of when they willingly spend corporate pounds. It’s harder still because sometimes, people have been employees in servitude for so long that they don’t realize that investments in their growth almost always yield MORE money than what was spent in the process.

I am asked so many times the question: how did i become a Life Coach? Well i invested a lot of time, money, and energy. I have my own coach, mentor, PT and healer. Growing, expanding and learning is a lifelong process. So right now let go of the idea that you know it all, and if you have not got a coach get one and invest in your chosen path.

But that was a choice. That’s the path I took. And I’m thrilled to serve you because it’s always a lot more rewarding than watching great ideas sink into the blur of daily corporate life.

The same is true for you. You have to know the business implications of your path. Can you make money doing what you want to do? Can you find buyers? If you can demonstrate value, the answer is always yes. It just might take a while for it to come.

Tell me about your path.

And if you want to make yours solid and highly profitable, read “A Path to Wisdom-How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life” or get in touch and book a two hour discovery coaching session. I’d love to see you on your path to higher levels of consciousness with me.

If you see yourself in any of the above, get in touch now to start your Elite Life Coaching or your spirit healing journey with me. Together, you too can change your circumstances and start living your best Life.

Tony Jeton Selimi
Learn, Live, Love and be Light, because that’s what you are!

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Just like cars, your body too if maintained, regularly checked, and is finely tuned can operate at its maximum capacity.

The problem is, most of us have never been taught to look after our bodies and often we ignore our body’s until it is too late to do something about it. One of the reasons we don’t operate at our maximum capacity is that we’re not aligning what we do on a day to day basis with who we really are.

Ask yourself the following questions and write down your answers in your journal:

What do I truly love doing?
What am I gifted at doing?
What gives me the greatest satisfaction?
What is not work to me?
What do I naturally gravitate towards?
What do others consistently tell me I am good at?

You too can start your journey to operating at you maximum capacity, all you need is clarity on who you are, what you love doing and why you love doing what you do.

Your answers to these questions will begin to unveil your strengths. Identify your strengths and then strengthen those strengths through practice. Happiness and peace occur every time you’re operating in your strengths.

Birds have wings – they fly. Fish have gills – they swim. Humans have strengths – the things they dream of, they love doing and are naturally talented to do, or find themselves gravitating to all the time. This is where they must live if they are to ever reach their maximum capacity.

But know this – that you have a lifetime to discover these. Never fear trying – for it is in trying and even in failing that you will learn and clarify what are your strengths, and where you should expend your energies.

So, what are you waiting for? Get busy strengthening, wake up each day and do something that brings you closer to what you gravitate towards. Live and let love lead your path.

If you want to go on a deeper journey, learn a unique methodology that can help you listen to your soul’s voice and align your life with your purpose then i highly recommend to book a two hour consultation session by clicking here, or to download a copy of “ A Path to Wisdom. How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life.”

Love, light and be blessed!
Tony J Selimi
Elite Life Coach and Master Healer