With January saying goodbye, here comes February, a month that people around the world associate with love, romance, candlelight, flowers and the sound of sweet nothings. We even have a day dedicated to celebrating all the love in our lives – Valentine’s Day.

So where it all did started?

Valentine’s Day has its roots in an ancient (and rather risqué) Roman tradition called Lupercalia where  annually on February 15, young men stripped to their birthday suits and ran around spanking young maidens (gently) in order to boost their fertility.

You heard it right, these pagan antics remained wildly popular even after Constantine declared Christianity the official religion of the Roman Empire. Later, Lupercalia was absorbed into Christian tradition, transforming into Saint Valentine, the wayward saint who performed illegal marriages under the Roman Emperor Claudias II. For his digression, Saint Valentine was executed on February 14, and today, sweethearts around the world commemorate Saint Valentine on this day.

What people are doing on this day vary from country to country for instance lovers in the United States go all out in displaying their fondness for each other: Every year, Americans spend on average a sweet 20 billion dollars on chocolates, dinners, flowers and jewellery.

In South Korea the tradition is for men to be pampered on Valentine’s Day, women buy chocolates for their male partners, family members and co-workers as a token of affection and appreciation.

And for us in the UK, many of us get seriously romantic on Valentine’s Day, arranging candle light dinner dates, exchanging gifts, and buying flowers, chocolates and expensive jewellery.

For anyone who is single, Finland seems the place to be. You don’t have to worry about feeling left out of the festivities because in this country it’s all about celebrating with your friends. The day is even called ‘Friend’s Day’ in Finnish, not Valentine’s. The official flower is the pink rose, but mates are happy to receive gifts, cards or candy, too.

Although receiving the above mentioned gifts are a nice gesture, here are three Free Valentine gifts that most couples and single people desire:

  1. The gift of Love.

Love is the exquisite healer present in all of us, it is the spark that ignites the light in us all, and it is the energy that transforms any emotional baggage we have continued to carry, our outdated and outmoded perspectives, and any other attachment that keeps us bound to the past into seeds for meaningful living.

When our heart is awakened, the light it radiates transmutes any dark negative energy we haves stored within us into powerful life changing lessons that unleash the true power of the infinite wisdom of love. Make the choice to say “yes!” to love yourself as you are, another person, place, condition or experience, to accepting love to guide and fill your life with infinite joy.

  1. The Gift of Gratitude

No situation in life is beyond the act of gratitude. Many people hold on to their past traumas, fears, and pain, this way of being not only is damaging for your body-mind, but it is also the biggest lock you can put to your loving heart. Your heart’s compassion and its ability to love the unlovable is the greatest treasure you carry with you. You have the power to attract all that which you desire, open up closed doors, and mend broken relationships.

Whether you are single or not, chose this Valentine to be grateful, to say with a grateful heart“ I Love you and thank you” to anyone who may have harmed you, to dates that went wrong, and to partners that have left you to pursue their hearts desires.

If you are going on a date, be grateful that you have one, that you are alive and have this opportunity to express your highest expression of yourself.

  1. The Gift of Honesty