In my recent TV interview with Zërijeta Jajaga for her show @Open I was asked:

Why would people not want to invest in the greatest asset -you? What is it that holds people back to have a coach or a mentor? What can coaches do for you?

There are many reasons why people may not use a coach. Some to mention are having lack of financial resources, not having personal development high on their highest values, time rstrictions, and in many cases simply not knowing what a great life coach can do for them.

I went on to explain to her audience that a Life Coach is someone who through powerful questioning is ale to be the mirror the client needs to reflect back at themselves the clarity, certainty, and credibility needed to make better life choices, decisions, and create the healthy habits designed to create their dream life.

Throughout centuries the greatest rulers of all times used trusted advisers to help them direct their kingdom and win wars. In the recent real life coaching Hollywood and Los Angeles Award Winning documentary “Living My Illusion,” that I co-created with my elite coaching clients Joel and Timea Van der Molen, it highlights how having a coach it is not a new age thing. In contrary, it is the advisory services of the great philosopher Aristotle that helped the world-conqueror Alexander the Great win battles and conquer new lands.

As the end of 2016 approaches, it is perfect time reflect on the year passed by, revaluate our life, and start planning the year ahead.

If you are ready to take the reins of your life and in need of some form of guidance then you have come to the rigth place. In this blog I am going to share with you five vital steps to help you consciously decide what is going to be in store for you in 2017.

For many people out there 2016 has been a turbulent year full of uncertainty, fear, and unexpected events that equally shocked and awakened humanity in profound ways.

Throughout history we have had similar events that brought about all of the good and bad things we today love or like to criticise.

The truth is all that we observe in life is the creation of our collective consciousness, but our human awareness barely recognizes this. We have become blinded to the existence of a higher order, the intelligence that governs all life, the equilibrium that already is in place, and our individual contribution.

It is precisely this vail that I observe in many of my clients who seek my help to accelerate their human and business potential.

Our brain is always balanced but our human awareness is blinded by our skewed perceptions and limiting beliefs. It is this that stops many people from creating the life they truly want and dream about.

All of the successful people that I have studied, been mentored by, and have come across know this. They all had mentors, coaches, and a great plan that they followed in order to achieve unprecedented success they now enjoy.

It is this same choice that I made back in 2010 that helped me accelerate my growth and create a very successful global coaching, training, speaking, and consulting business that I now love.

We hear it all the time, been told by our parents, society, friends, etc that succeeding at anything you need to work hard and it takes a lot of time to achieve the results we want.

Over the period of time they become our beliefs that subconsciously create the reality we so desperately want to change.

It is this kind of outdated beliefs that are running programs in your subconscious mind that sabotage your success. Many of you fall in the same trap that your parents, friends, and other people around you might be caught.

What coaching did for me and can do for you is to help you change this, to bring to your conscious awareness your beliefs that sabotage everything you may be working hard to create.

To help you accelerate your success it is essential to work with someone who can be a clean mirror and a fine tuned ear that picks up traces of injected values and beliefs that may be incapacitating your inborn abilities to succeed.

Up to 2010 I used to work very long hours to make ends meet. Like most people around me I felt frustrated, fearful of what future has on hold for me, and lacked the direction my life was going to take.

What happened in the last six years forever changed the way I perceive and create my reality. Instead of working hard for the things I wanted to achieve in my life, I now live daily with new empowering beliefs that support me to work smarter. I now help people do the same so just like me they too are also able to create conscious quantum jumps that pitch into existence the things they truly want.

Here are the five vital steps I use daily, teach my clients, and you too can adopt to accelerate your human potential and help you focus, plan, and create your desired outcomes in 2017.

Step 1: Clarify what Success means to You

One of the major problems that most of my clients face is the lack of clarity behind the success they are seeking. Before you go to step two, take pen and paper and write down how your life will change when you achieve the success you are seeking. For instance if you want more money, write down what will you do once you had money, what meaning will those experiences have for you.

Step 2: Create a Detailed Plan

A plan is like a road map that shows you where you are now and the best route to use to get to where you want to be. Being a student of wisdom I love learning from Dr John Demartini. In one of his seminars I heard him say “Those who fail to plan, plan to fail”. It is this that inspired me to create my Vital Planning for Elevated Living document that helped me accelerate my success and has now become very popular coaching program that clients from all professional backgrounds use to plan their purpose driven life.

Don’t just think “I have a plan in my head”, the truth is you won’t remember all the little twists and turns along the road…write it down in black and white and in as much detail as you can. Each and every day, do at least one thing that will advance your progress toward the outcomes you want to achieve in 2017 and beyond.

Step 3: Invest in Your Continues Learning

My grandfather used to say to me, the water that does not flow becomes polluted. Similarly, if you are not continuously learning, your knowledge becomes outdated and toxic for your body-mind and heart. Learn everything you can about what inspires you, invest in you by working with an expert to help you advance your learning. Knowledge is power. Surround yourself with people that achieved the success you are seeking, and find ways to serve people who are seeking the knowledge and the success you already have achieved.
Step 4: Find a Great Role Model, Coach or a Mentor

If you start to associate with someone who has succeeded in the field you are pursuing, associate yourself as closely as you can with that person. Get them to be your mentor, coach, or find ways to be of service to them. First-hand knowledge is more valuable than any other kind. Successful people have already made mistakes and they can help you avoid some pitfalls. They can open doors for you that would remain firmly closed without their help.

The truth is, the more you learn about yourself, the more you can organize this information in ways that you can easily access when you need it. The more you invest in your personal and business development, the faster you will grow. Continues investment in myself helped me become a global expert in human behaviour and cognition known as The See-Through Coach. A best-selling and five times award-winning author who now loves helping the owners of 6,7,8 and 9 figure businesses resolve problems, advance their learning, and accelerate their results whatever they may be.
Step 5: Take Action and Apply What You Learn

I come across so many amazing people who have spent years of learning that are struggling in their life. The only thing that stops them is not having the clarity required in order for them to apply what they know and take the appropriate action to achieve the success they want. Make sure you use the knowledge that you gain from your coach, mentor, seminars you attend or from doing your own research and put it into action now.

The overnight success people observe in me happened because I chose daily to not take “no” for an answer. When I get knocked down…I tell yourself to get up. When a door closes…I find ways to crawl through a window. If you too did what successful people do, you too one day end up becoming an overnight success in the eyes of those who did not take action during the time you kept trying.

If you find yourself stuck in situations that stress you out or make you frustrated, take action now and make 2017 the year you accelerate your success. If you have procrastinated about stuff for months or even years – perhaps being more confident, address mental or emotional issues, getting fit, starting your own business or finding a loving partner – why not make 2017 the year you really go for it!

If your life has been a bit flat for a while, make 2017 the year you embrace something amazing! Experience the world in a different way, step out of your comfort zone, be daring.

I have a selection of Coaching Programs that together with my signature five day Vital Planning for Elevated Living Program will help you get your life back on track, do what you love and be abundantly rewarded, so what are you waiting for?

Schedule a clarity coaching consultation in 2017 and start taking back control of your life, your business, your organization.

If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. Check out the events calendar to attend any of my talks and seminars in 2017. Get in touch to help you inspire your audience, book a consultation, or learn more about my work. You start reading, learning and growing by daily taking ACTION!

We are born whole, yet from the moment we come into this world we are constantly told by our parents, the religion in which we were born into, and the schools that we attend that we are not. We are programmed to constantly seek validation that we are good enough from external sources and create the illusion of not being good enough within ourselves.

The truth is, it is impossible to go through our childhood, teenage years, and adulthood without some situations or someone infecting you with the belief that you are not enough. That unless you do something that others want you to do, you are made to feel you are not worthy of love. It is precisely this feeling of unworthiness that it is the root cause of the many of the humanity’s problems such as illness, poverty, high divorce rates, rise in extremism, nationalism, phobia’s, etc.

This way of perceiving our reality from a place of not being good enough is extremely painful to our human experience and therefore we spend most of our lives trying to proof we are good enough.

The feeling of not being good enough is one of the major catalysts that changes, controls, and commands our behavior, attitude, and affects the quality of our life. It also impacts our self-esteem, self-worth, and in general our overall well-being.

If you are someone who is seeking a way out of your current situation and a way in into a new reality that is more favorable to you, then you may want to keep reading on. Reason being, I am going to share with you what one powerful practice you can do daily to fill the empty hole that you feel inside from within yourself.

In every coin there are two sides, similarly, for every negative emotion, there is the opposite positive emotion that in most cases we unconsciously do not acknowledge.

For instance, this feeling of not being good enough also has a positive side, it can drive us towards achieving some astronomical goal and inspire us to become legendary. For instance, my drive to proof to my parents that I am good enough helped me go from living homeless in the streets of London, to obtaining an Engineering degree at one of the UK’s prestigious university – University College London (UCL). It also drove me to climb the career ladder, become a successful entrepreneur, and internationally award-winning author of two books.

Having spent over twenty years doing personal, professional, and spiritual development, I know now that this is not the most optimal path to achieving success, wellness, and most importantly wholeness. Reason being, doing things in your life to disapprove the model of not being good enough comes with high cost, in worst cases it costs you your health, wealth, and most importantly your time.

This way of living your life is what makes you give your power away and become dependent on others to validate your worth. Daily I see many clients who come to me for a whole range of problems, from health related issues to relationship, money, business, or leadership challenges. Recently, a client of mine who is a successful CEO came to see me because he felt his children did not appreciate him for everything he was giving them. This grow into anger, frustrations, and tremendous resentments towards his wife and his kids.

When he would come home his expectation was for his children to behave in certain way, when they would not meet his expectations he would feel rejected, unworthy, and not good enough.

This is a common behavior for many people that expect to be praised, validated, and noticed. If this expectation is not met, then they go into a tantrum, some people like my CEO client felt unappreciated, not respected, and deep down rejected.

For most of you, it is difficult to see this underlying behavior, as in those moments when this happens, you will not literally think that you are not enough.

Having read over 20,000 books from various life disciplines, attended many seminars on personal, spiritual and business development as well as working with some of the world’s best experts, I concluded that the voids we try to fill do not come as a result of rational choice – but instead by conditioning and habit. And thus, many of us live our lives feeling not good enough based on limiting crules and outdated cbeliefs about pretty much everything – health, relationships, career, education, love, work, money, parenting, sex, and so much more—which we inherit and pass on from generation to generation.

But, what if you could find most effective ways to fill in your voids that you seek in others from within yourself? What would your reality look like if you could forget the crules, brules, chabits of the past, and redefine what wholeness means for you?

This is exactly what the TJS Evolutionary Method that I use in my daily coaching practice to assist people from all walks can do for you, support you in your journey to filling an invisible hole you feel inside.

Use the first of the five step TJS Evolutionary Method to consciously engineer the reality in which you experience balance, gratitude, and feeling whole.

Acknowledge the people who trigger your emotions as they are the perfect teachers to address the unconscious voids that keep you seeking validation from outside of yourself.

For instance, if you get triggered by someone criticizing your way of parenting, then find that part of yourself that loves to criticize others, this is what is normally referred too as your disowned part.

To do so, list all of emotions you experience in that moment you feel criticized, as they are there to help you find your voids.

By owning these disowned parts of yourself i.e. recognizing that you have this trait in yourself, you start to change your behavior. In doing so, instead of pointing out the finger outwardly, thank them for being the mirror to recognize your disowned traits. This modification in your behavior is what will help you step into your true power, the one that comes from experiencing the wholeness of your being.

There are many self-help books that mention universal laws that help you break free from the shackles of not being good enough. In my best-selling book A Path to Wisdom you can learn the rest of the TJS Evolutionary Method and the other steps that you can use daily to help you address the feelings of not being good enough and equip you with the knowledge and the tools required to live in a state of wholeness.

For those of you who are already well ahead in your personal, professional and spiritual development you may also want to read my newly published international award-winning book #Loneliness –The Virus of The Modern Age where I share in more details the amount of crules (crap rules), cbeliefs (crap beliefs), and cbehaviours (crap behaviours) that are at the root cause of not feeling good enough, being rejected, and the cause of life adversities that can take you deep down into the wretched caves of isolation and deep loneliness.

Lastly, learn to dance with the angel and the devil in you that represent the many counterparts of the polar opposite of the “good” and the “bad” sides of your being, be curious about any external triggers that may put you out of equilibrium, acknowledge them, and open your heart to the power of the infinite wisdom that resides in the vibration of love.

If you are ready to breakthrough the things that keep you in the loop of not being good enough and live a more connected, inspired and purposeful life then say yes now, book a clarity coaching consultation, and get in touch asap.

To your success, dreams and abundance!

Since a very young age I was extremely curious to know more about what makes some people extremely successful, legendary and iconic. Why is it that the majority of people in the world, the 99% per-centers cannot have what the so called 1% per-centers already had and continue to have?

Back then little I knew that one day I will have the opportunity to meet someone who is a Billionaire and find out from them what is it they think, belief and do to create an unprecedented success.

If like me, you were born to a middle class working family, you may have heard so many different beliefs about money and wealthy people. The ones that stayed with me for very long times were “money is root cause of all evil, no matter what you do, you will never be rich, money does not grow in trees, and you have to work very hard to make money.” These are only just few that I listed, in the actual fact, I could write an entire book about the many beliefs I was taught from a very young age by family members, at school, friends, religious scholars and in the environment I grew up in.

When we were growing up, many of us knew very little about the power our beliefs have in creating the reality in which we live in. By the time we start to work and earn our living we have already created many powerful beliefs about what money is or is not.

I remember back in 2009 when I was made redundant my capacity to earn money was limited by my own beliefs about how much I could earn and the injected values of others. Back then this limit was set to a maximum of £120 k for someone like me who had graduated from UCL, one of the top four universities in UK, had twelve years of experience, and was capable of running and managing multi-million-billion pounds of IT budgets and programs.

It is during this time that I experienced an epiphany that made me write down two hundred beliefs I had about money. What came out was shocking, when I questioned the validity of each of the beliefs I so strongly held dear to my heart, I realized none of them had any truth behind.

A weight was lifted off, now I was free to think bigger and truly pursue my hearts calling to help people globally heal, accelerate their human potential, and give them tool to help them become leaders of their lives. What I noticed was that the more people I started to serve, the more money I was attracting and all I had to do is find ways to reach out to more people.

This lead me to writing two books A Path to Wisdom and newly published book #Loneliness, which within months became number one best-selling and award-winning books. I started to receive e-mails and client requests from people from all around the world. Suddenly, my capacity to earn doubled and with time it tripled and quadrupled.

Somehow everything I did up to now put me on a path to meet few Billionaires that became personal friends, teachers and later on my clients. It was my dream since a very young child to unravel the secrets that the 1% have and share them with a wider audience so that I can help more people be more successful and lead prosperous lives.

I replaced my old beliefs with new ones and in the process I started to attract people and opportunities never thought possible before. I realized that to live eternally in people’s hearts, minds and thoughts is to illuminate my being so that where ever I go I leave behind a fragrance of love that people can breathe into their hearts.

The boundaries we are taught to put with the outer world are our Ego’s attempt to dim the infinite light radiating from our grateful heart. The light required to put the key on a lock that opens up the safety box of a universal bank account that enables you to create and withdraw infinite amount of wealth.

This is the moment I realized the power that Gratitude, Love and serving more people authentically are the key factors in attaining perfect health, wealth and happiness into our life. When we come from a place of sincere gratitude our energy is one of acceptance, empathy and harmony that brings about the greatest miracles and the right people that we can be of service.

We are a product of an intelligent design, yet we are constantly reminded that we are not. Purifying our inner world from the lifelong conditioning, one-sided perceptions, and limiting beliefs that pollute our true essence is what can help us move towards crowd nurtured world peace and the next stages in our evolution

In my latest award-winning book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age, I talk about why polarized way of thinking, feeling and being is the reason which prevents you from turning thoughts into matter, ideas into things, and emotions into relationships.

When we come from a place of emotional unbalance we destroy our self-worth therefore we attract less opportunities, money and people in our lives that can help us accelerate our growth. Balanced mind together with clear strategy is what attracts and creates wealth, health, and all that our heart desires.

The truth is, It is only when we are in our hearts that we can connect to the flow of this universal energy we call love, the energy that is the cure to illness and the driving force for the survival of our bio diversity.

Whether you know it or not, in the moment of your greatest inspiration you are in sync with all that is and it is in moments like this you become extremely clear on how to resolve more problems for more people.

Thank you for your time and reading this article, if you liked it, please share it and help others learn, grow, and attract more wealth and opportunities.

I trust it inspired you to think deeper, and observe the world with a new pair of glasses that help you in your personal, professional, financial, business, or relationship growth.

Get in touch if I can be of service to help you or your company in creating the outcomes, the clarity, and the plan required to deliver astronomical visions.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

The See-Through Coach

The society we live in has a wide spectrum of patterns which unaware to us constantly transform our habits, behaviors and as a result the way in which we perceive our reality.

Each one of us exhibits a great quantum of psychological reactions as an automatic reflex respond directed toward the outer environmental appearances. In order to maintain an optimal social homeostasis, we constantly need to navigate our cognition in a multiple creative directions.

This is why we have the desire to feed our brain with information, learn new way of doing things, and new ways of thinking. Upgrading our cognition helps us to maintain and transform our energy into the fuel of infinite wisdom. It is our innate wisdom and the one we create through interaction with the outer world that generates the basic behavioral models in the society.

These models of our external reactions have to be decorated with the basic principles of a human morality and constructible ethic norms that compose healthy living environment where people can grow and progress. The hypothesis of the perfect chaos – resides exactly in the equation between our cognitive capacities versus social diffusion.

If we truly like to solve the chaos we observe in the world, the one which the way we are being we continue to create daily, we have to go back to the essence of our self-introspection. This essence is our primer mental layer, the one that is the stream of love, wisdom, and the one that knows how to produce infinite source of energy.

When our golden treasure that is buried deep within our mind and hearts is light with love, we have a flashlight that shines our path toward life of prosperity.

When the mental façades we have created since birth are removed, our super conscious brain comes alive. It is this process of inner awakening, balancing perceptions, and calming the emotions that keeps our cognition intact. It is this inner feeling of peace that helps us listen to our soul’s voice, and paint our heart with the strong paint of gratitude.

In my newly released book #Loneliness –The Virus of the Modern Age I talk about the impact that loneliness has on our cognitive abilities, on our mental health, and on our genes. Loneliness is a bigger problem than simply cognition and an emotional experience. Research shows that loneliness and social isolation are harmful to our mental, emotional, physical health.

Lacking social connections is a comparable risk factor for early death as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and is worse for us than well-known risk factors such as obesity and physical inactivity.

We live in a connected world, yet we are desperately alone. We are alone in our thoughts, emotions, relationships, at work, with family, society, and in the world we all share. It has become the norm to look down at our phones, drink coffee with our phones and laptops, and commute with looking at phones never noticing anyone who may be near us.

Whilst on one hand the rise in technology has brought us so many wonderful new ways in connecting and doing business, on the other hand we must not under estimate the negative effect this have on human touch, connection, love.

One hand our cognitive abilities are increasing at phenomenal rates, on the other hand we experience more suicide, social isolation, and loneliness. Last twenty five years I adopted an elderly lady from Persia, who never got married, had estranged brother who never visited her, and had arthritis.

I was heartbroken to learn of her struggles, her story of her lifelong loneliness was the same as the one I talk about in my book, the same story that I observe in the clients I consult. It is the same story that you, your parents, children, colleagues, friends, and partners have. Loneliness is common to us all, it is my mother’s story who brought up six of us, yet she is alone, as life has taken us all to live and work in the six corners of the world.

Many elderly and parents globally experience the same loneliness, so do the children of these parents, so do you and I. I wrote this book as a global call for humanity to come together in heart cohesion and tackle the global problems from a new awareness. It is only when we connect in our hearts that we will experience the real cohesion between us and the environment we cohabit and immerse in the state of race, love and perfection.

Whether you know it or not, in the moment of your greatest inspiration you are in sync with all that is. Developing your cognition is what contributes to create a collective social cognition that is capable of resolving any problem that we create in the first instance.

Thank you for your time and reading this article, I trust it inspired you to think deeper, and observe the world with a new pair of glasses that help you in your personal, professional, financial, business, or relationship growth. Please get in touch if I can be of service to help you or your company in creating the outcomes, the clarity, and the inspired mission you desire.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,
Tony J. Selimi
Coach, Human Behavior and Cognition Expert
To get in touch please go to www.tonyselimi.com

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Praise

“Tony’s coaching is life changing; his books are the light that guides us with his intrinsic philosophies into the age of spiritual enlightment. This is only the beginning of what the world will know of this inspiring, selfless being.” Joel Alexander Van der Molen, managing director, Vandercom

“A truly amazing coach, mentor, and writer of a magnificent book that does what it says, balances your mind, opens your heart, and elevates your soul so that you experience inner peace and manifest excellent health. A manual that every Dr in the world should read to be the best they can be. ” Dr Todorche Stamenov

“Tony J. Selimi’s new masterpiece A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness are thought provoking books that can expand your awareness, center your soul, touch your heart and heal your body-mind.” Dr John Demartini – International best-selling author of The Values Factor.

It’s summertime in London, where ever you go you see trees, flowers, and bushes in full bloom. The leaves protect you from the hot summer sun. The warm breezes flow to cool you down from the heat radiating back at you from the heated concreate pathways, buildings, and other objects that easily store suns energy.

We are born great, yet we are taught otherwise. It is this thought that has occupied my mind from an early age that lead me to pursue a life time of learning, studying many life disciplines, and seeking great teachers that helped me in my journey to understand how to unleash the greatness in me, the infinite wisdom that deep down my heart knew I had, and live a meaningful life.

This journey of seeking the truth led me to travel the world and seek opportunities, possibilities, and people who were on a similar journey to not unleash their own greatness, but also to travel the world and teach others the love and the wisdom that is built in each and every one of us.

I know there are many teachers, prophets, and studies that have been around for years but one man that truly helped me integrate the work that started at a very young age is Dr John Demartini.

Following a talk that Dr Demartini held in London I felt that this man was speaking all that I knew, as if he had gone inside my brain and was able to articulate everything that I then did find it very hard to do.

I attended his Breakthrough Experience where I truly let go of the illusion that I held for many years. The story about my relationship with my mother that kept me imprisoned and deny myself the permission to be, shine, and pursue my dreams.

The shift I experienced was amazing, I was fortunate enough to have John as my surrogate during the collapse process, the room disappeared, and all I could see is my mum and me embodied by pure love. Tears of inspiration kept coming out of my eyes, my heart opened, and I could see clearly the path ahead.

I knew John was absolutely relentless in his pursuit of truth, perfection, and greater understanding of life. A year passed by fast, many things started to shift in my life, most importantly I published my book A Path to Wisdom that within four months made it to the Number One List of Amazon Best Selling List in the Personal Development and Spiritual Development Categories.

My personal, family and professional life started to shift fast. As part of my ongoing commitment to my personal development as well as add more value to my clients, my heart knew I wanted to continue to learn from John.

I committed to attend his Prophecy Experience in Johannesburg, I paid for the course in advance, and few days down the line as if by magic I had a coaching request from a client from Johannesburg who having read my book him and his wife decided to fly me over to do some work together. Once again applying the wisdom John shares in his bestselling book “How to Make a Hell of a Profit and Still Go to Heaven” got me to see the magic that unleashes when we honour universal truths.

The Prophecy Experience in Johannesburg helped me witness the pure mastery born of an adult lifetime of learning, practice, and gorgeously expressing itself.

His commitment to his work, monomaniacal focus, study, and sacrifice allowed him to produce teachings that quenched my souls yearning for wisdom, truth, and unleashing the greatness I knew I had since I was a five year child. Each of the seven days John took us through in-depth study of each of the seven areas of life: Business, Mental, Emotional, Physical, Spiritual, Financial, and Relationship.

At the end of seven days intensive work, I felt my already thirty years of study were just given a full upgrade that was needed to go globally and share my work and wisdom to inspire others to embrace their greatness, truth, and love.

So what did John teach me that created immense impact, achievement, and inspired me to go global and have a greater impact?

….It was the 5 Attitudes of Unleashing Your Inner Genius that I am about to share with you all

#1. Do The Work, Walk the Talk.

I do not come often people who sleep on average five hours a day, do a lot of research, and love what they do. John is not seeking fame, fortune, glory, or happiness. He is in pursue of universal truth and teaches how “Balance” just isn’t the game of most people playing at legendary performance. Their lives are all about their craft. It’s their true love, their greatest passion and their central mission. And because of this, they overcome the impatience, self-doubt, fear of stumbling and attraction to distraction that causes most of us to give up prior to genius showing up.

#2. Perfect Your Processes.

Observing John for real, watching all of his videos, and reading his books helped me get that elite performance that takes years of deep training. John sees himself as apprentice, learning the skill (often at the feet of a master) step by step, day by day until he perfects the process and then he goes on and teaches it. He just like me was committed to his education and overcome life adversities in pursue of universal truths. He has ritualized the discipline and now teaches is to those who are called to be more. Spending time with John, sharing few breakfast meetings got me to understand how greatness takes time to master, and I felt inspired to continue to write, learn, and teach all that I have learnt to my clients (Darwin had the devotion to study barnacles for 8 years as part of forging his scientific understanding).

#3. The Courageousness of Originality Is Living Your Dream.

John is no different to me, or you. Like many great teachers out there, he too went through a series of phases. He started as a beginner (every pro was once an amateur). In this period, watch the masters and copy their moves. With focus, grit and practice you too can reach the next part: technical brilliance. Attendees of Prophecy were delighted by John’s proficiency, so was I. As he continued with his teachings, he reached the final stage where he now globally teaches what he has learned. This is where world-class skill meets serious heart. I saw how John has the guts to express his own voice. Do his own thing. Misbehave in ways no one has ever seen or has the courage to do, his natural wit, charm, and love for his work left me feeling inspired to be even more authentic in my teachings, writings and in showing my own greatness. This is the goal of every A-Player. To become a phenomenon, a legend, a timeless being.

#4. Access Your Inner Genius

You are born great, you know that it’s you inner play that prevents you from winning the game of your life. What I mean by this observation is that that being a genius is less about natural gifts than internal character. The titans of all time are not the smartest nor the most talented, the best of the best are those with the character traits that allow them to stick to the vision, transcend insecurity, endure the pain of intense practice and ignore the envious ridicule of their critics. It is what John, I and many of you must do to pursue your greatness, honour your life mission, and live purposeful. It is through accessing my inner genius that I am now bringing into this world my next book #Loneliness The Virus of The Modern Age due to be published in August.

#5 Invest in Your Personal and Spiritual Development

Driving a car without rear and mid mirror is dangerous to you and others on the road. Similarly for you to drive safely through your journey to greatness it is essential to find a teacher, coach, and a mentor that can be your mirrors through your journey to greatness. I am not talking about friend or people who offer you free advice, I am talking about you investing your money, time and energy in someone who can help you achieve the greatness you are seeking.

As a Speaker, Elite Life Coach, and a Spiritual Teacher I am committed to my personal and spiritual development. It is one of the many reasons that I will continue to invest in learning from the best teachers around the world such as Dr John Demartini so that I am constantly providing greater value to every client I am of service to. To unleash your greatness be ready to do what the greatest achievers do in order to rise to be the best in world in their work and personal lives.

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Ok. That’s it for today. Worked hard on this post. Hope it is super valuable, inspirational, and actionable! Until next time, let me take this opportunity to say a big thank you and I love you to DR John Demartini for all of the teachings you bring into this world, for the Prophecy Experience that helped me further acknowledge the lies that concealed my truth, for being an inspired teacher in my life, and for your time, love, and support by writing a foreword for my next book #Loneliness The Virus of The Modern Age.

Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things…make today, that day you listen to your call to Greatness!

P.S Photo taken by Dianna Bonner

We are born into an environment in which we learn to resist. Through years of conditioning we develop many coping mechanisms to protect ourselves.

We are conditioned to believe in things that were passed on through generations and in most cases most of us when we become adults we create an identity that is so far from the one we were born.

As we experience this separation from the light being we were born to be, we start to seek perfection, subordinate to other peoples values and become uncomfortable with the person we have become.

To search for a more perfect version of yourself is futile. To have gratitude for who you are as you are is wiser. Since I was a kid I observed that those who count their blessings and are grateful, have more to be grateful for. This is a simple principle and yet it has the power to change your life.

We are built on universal principles and the universe behaves like us on a grander scale. Let’s look at a real example that most of us have encountered in our day to day life. If you were to give someone a gift and they just looked at it and then tossed it aside without thanks, would you be inclined to give them another?

Of course not and through the Law of Attraction universe responds in the same manner. The universe bestows its gifts where they are most appreciated. If you’re not grateful for who you are and what you’ve been given, why would the universe want to give you more?

True gratitude is a quiet state of poise and inner calm where you are truly thankful, where you sense the divine order and wouldn’t want anything about you or your life to change. It arises when you are truly thankful for what has already been given.

With this type of thanksgiving you recognize the order and perfection of what is. As a result you receive ever more of life’s gifts. The more i became grateful, the more the universe started to send me things to be grateful for.

Here are five tips on how you can experience more gratitude.

• Say ‘Thank you and I Love You’ – Observe people who say this how much love they generate. Frankly, there is no limit to how many times you can thank a person, including yourself, and while it may only be two simple words, their meaning is universal and their effects can be profound.
• Write letters about things you are grateful for – Sometimes our best thoughts and ideas are those we do not try to edit, so let the message you write come to you in the moment. There is no need for the words to make sense to anyone else but the person it is intended for.
• Give Yourself a Treat – The greatest relationship we will ever have is with ourselves and it’s wise to take the time to show ourselves that we are grateful for who we are and what we choose to be. How you treat yourself all depends on what you like, for some there would be nothing better than a treatment at their favourite spa, for others it’s a new computer.
• Smile – Have you noticed that when you smile it is impossible to be sad. A smile can be contagious if it comes from the heart and often tells a person so much more than what words can say. Giving the gift of a smile can be a great way to show you are grateful.
• Give a gift that counts – We all love to give and to receive. The power of a gift when it comes to being a token of gratitude is ultimately the thought that goes into it. Start with yourself, take the time to really look at who the gift is intended for and what they value most in life. Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated for who they are.

I hope that i have inspired you to let go seeking perfection and accept the divine being you already are. Start your day with living through gratitude and see how after about three months of daily practice will awaken your heart and balance your emotions allowing you to become inspired and enthused by your life as it is.

If you have been inspired and ready to deal with the voice of perfection, get in touch to book your Clarity Coaching Consultation and start your journey to living in gratitude.

…I’m here to help, coach, develop and inspire you in your pathway to wisdom …over the long run.

So together we get you to your finest life. You just deserve no less than enjoying your best.

P.S. VERY IMPORTANT…

…Congratulations to everyone who downloaded my Awaken and Open Your Heart Meditation, do this meditation daily to live from grattitude and awaken your natural healing abilities….

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Release tensions, any disharmony in your body, and heal any parts of your body with healing white light and the healing power of your heart.

Some that i personaly coach have rewired their mindset for deep gratitude, daily happiness and their finest health of their lives. The success stories still pour in…

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Tony J Selimi

Elite Life and Business Success Coach, Mentor, Healer and Author.

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Last week two of my personal heroes and people who have had a profound influence on my personal development and healing journey were the great actor Robin Williams and the world’s greatest healer Martin Brofman crossed over into the spirit world.

All of you may know Robin, though few of you may know Martin Brofman despite touching and healing the lives of millions of people around the world. This got me thinking, reflecting and inspired me to write this blog not just to honour these two souls who crossed over to the other side but also to millions of people around the globe who suffer from emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual challenges.

Let me ask you a question, would you drive a car if you knew it was not safe for you to drive it? Probably not….So why do you think your soul would love to go on a journey with you if it does not feel safe being with you in any moment in time?

The sad irony of Robin’s life and untimely death is that he brought so much joy and laughter to so many people’s lives, yet he was unable to give himself the same gift he gave to others.

As an actor, i remember when i first saw him in “Dead Poet Society” and “Good Morning Vietnam” he was a genius at getting into role and putting on an amazing act in front of the screen to entertain his audience.

But what about his emotional wellbeing, who was Robin behind the many masks and facets by which the world knew him? He was just another vulnerable soul, he was you, he was me….Despite the many facets, he was a unable to step out of the role he was really playing in real life: a movie that was far from a comedy, but rather a tragedy behind the scenes.

Just like many of my clients that i help, from the outside, it seemed like he had it all: money, success, fame, family, friends and an outpour of love from millions of fans around the world yet from the recent news it’s obvious, there was something deeply spiritually missing in his life which kept him in the depths of depression.

Why is it that despite having everything one can have so many people suffer in silence?

This reminds me of my own journey, the pain, the suffering, and the abuse i was subjected for many years. The truth is that deep down I knew all of that, but it was the inner game within me that stopped me for years to take action and remove myself from people and environment which were not nurturing.

I never had the confidence to speak about it until the moment i decided to draw the line and promised myself i will do all that i can do to bring myself back to balance. My book “A Path to Wisdom-How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life” is all about taking people on this journey in which they feel empowered to listen to their own voice.

If we don’t listen to our own voice, everything we attempt and strive for will leave us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and a knowing that we have failed to recognise what is truly important to us; we’ve failed to interpret our own definition of happiness and our personal needs; we’ve failed to decipher who we really are; a price that can prove to be too costly for some of us to bare, as last week we saw this with Robin Williams.

Today is a chance for you to reflect and find out about the battle you may be fighting, make investing in your personal development your choice number one. That is exactly what i did 24 years ago when due to the atrocities of the civil war in Former Yugoslavia i ended up in the streets of London.

The truth is, there are many Robin Williams around the world right now who are silently fighting incomprehensible battles that we are totally unaware of, maybe you are one of them. Everyone’s battle is their own, it’s not for us to judge or compare because it’s not the size of the battle that counts, it’s the size that’s perceived by the person who is fighting it that matters.

Businesses and companies around the world are recognising more and more the importance of emotional wellbeing, the importance of getting help for stress, depression and the importance of cultivating a positive psychology.

Revealing my own experiences of loneliness, lack of belonging, abandonment, depression, emotional challenges and adversities I have been through in the introduction of my book led to inspiring thousands of people to come forward and seek help.

Let’s not shun away from the fact that we’ve all been through some hard times at some point or another! There’s no shame in it; it’s not a sign of weakness to share our shortcomings, we all have them, but rather it is a sign of courage, boldness and self-confidence because it’s a demonstration of having risen above our fears of being ridiculed, judged or criticised.

However, most people struggle to open up because the perception of our reality, we still live in a culture and society which has made it very difficult for us to feel comfortable about revealing our vulnerabilities, yet we all face them. This has led to people isolating themselves and wallowing in their own troubles without asking for help because of their fear of not good enough, judgement, and most of all failure.

Not acknowledging those fears lead people to wear many energy draining facades and people not feeling like they can really be who they really are.

Whilst this coping mechanism may give those individuals only temporary ability to face the world, in long term wearing different facades can have a detrimental effect on their wellbeing.

I faced this inner separation so many times, each time i tried to ignore it, the issues would come back, this is the time when i went ahead and booked few coaches and healers to help me with the obstacles that kept me away from my true self.

Before i came out to my family and friends, i was torn apart from living double life, living the small lies and living with the shame of my own incongruence and most of all stripped off the courage to even look at myself in the mirror to so the man i have become.

I knew this had to stop, as i made this decision my friend Sabine introduced me to Martin Brofman, a world class healer who helped me in my journey to self-love, acceptance, and freeing myself from living in the shadow o f my family’s image of who i must be.

If you are struggling to make that decision, not able to escape from your own grim reality, or feel powerless, it is time for you to draw a line, take action and invest in you.

Hence, more than ever before making time and investing in your personal development is not a luxury; it is a necessity to bringing your life back on track.

This is why I invite you to join my face book page, be a part of a inspired positive and supportive community where it’s safe to share your challenges, goals and dreams is more important than ever before.

The benefits of meditation are well known, you can download and use “Awaken and Open Your Heart ” guided meditation to tap into your heart space and center your inner self by helping you connect to the source of your awareness in its purest form. Release tensions, any disharmony in your body, and heal any parts of your body with healing white light. You will awaken into a conscious awareness feeling energised, loved, calm and loved.

You can also get a copy of my book from www.apathtowisdom.com, sign up to my monthly inspirational newsletter, attend my future workshops or book a one to one consultation and let me help you and be your mirror and the light that shines your path bright.

Just like if you don’t take care of your body on a consistent basis, you will inevitably invite a physical disease. In the same way, if you don’t nurture yourself emotionally and spiritually, slowly but surely, you will invite an emotional and spiritual disease.

The disease is a feedback mechanism from your body to you where you have not loved and need to love. It is the destination driven by the constant emotional neglect but the sad part of overlooking our emotional health is not just the eventual tragic destination, but the road there is also likely to be a path paved with pain and suffering if we don’t make time for emotional care on a daily basis; because besides our body, mind and emotions, the other home we can choose to live is our heart.

Therefore, we must take full responsibility for our own choices, happiness and wellbeing; nobody can do that for us, we must find our own definition of happiness and plant the seeds that enable us to blossom physically, emotionally and spiritually and water it daily so we are constantly growing and blooming because as the popular Personal Development saying goes: ‘If you’re not growing, you are dying’!!

On that note, I really look forward to see you at my workshops, socially, or at my next speaking engagement in September. Without a doubt, you will leave feeling inspired, energised and uplifted.

Helping you become healthy, wealthy and wise. To your joy, success and lifelong happiness,

Tony J Selimi
Elite Life Coach, Healer, Author and Teacher of Inner Wisdom.