What would change in your life if you acknowledged that you are the author of your own story and can create your future? Maybe you’ll grow an award-winning book, open a coaching business, or possibly be the partner, the leader, the successful individual you always wanted to be. Or perhaps you’ll never step outside your comfort zone, and that’s okay. You’re making a difference either way.

It’s scary to put yourself out there and be successful. This was me in 2009 when I faced one of my many worst fears – the fear of being successful. Back then, having been made redundant from a job I loved, my prospects of finding a new job were weak. The pressure to fulfil all of my financial commitments kept building. Everything around me kept telling me how much I was worth, that there were not enough senior technology jobs, and I had to lower my salary expectations if I wanted to find another job.

But deep down, I knew my worth, what I was capable of achieving, and by then, I had worked with many famous and successful coaches, trainers, and healers who helped me unleash my worth and stand in my authentic power.

Before I share some of the actions you can take to accelerate your success, here are some questions you may want to ponder with:

Do you ever feel like you could be more successful? Have there been times when you are not being appreciated for the value you bring into other people’s lives? Do you find yourself wondering about your most significant success limitations in life? Are you even aware of what kind of success you can achieve?

Suppose you are constantly making excuses, procrastinating, and judging others for the success they create in their personal, relational, social, spiritual, career, business or financial life. In that case, you are most likely reading my weekly newsletter because you want to be successful and grow to your fullest potential in all critical areas of life.

No matter what major challenge you are currently facing on your journey to success, underlying emotional issues stop you from being successful in your chosen field or area of life.

Everybody gets twenty-four hours per day…no more, no less…

Through my personal and client’s journey to success, I discovered that it matters not how much money you have or don’t have,  how educated you are, and your social position. How effectively you use the twenty-four hours a day, we all get matters.

Until maybe one day we invent a back to the future time machine; for now, it is wise to acknowledge that you can’t buy, beg, borrow or steal another one second, minute, hour, day, week, month, or a year.

What you do with those twenty-four hours is entirely up to you; of course, there will be those you love that consume some of that time. We all have obligations that must be met each day. We have jobs or businesses that provide us with the necessary income; a certain amount of time is required for sleeping, eating, socialising, reading, shopping, and fulfilling our relationship commitments.  However, what many of you may not stop and think about is how the entire.
Twenty-four are not all spoken for. How there are the few hours each day that you can use
As you want to use them. What you decide to do with them will primarily determine how successful or unsuccessful you will be in life.

Suppose you are someone who spends all of our “unspoken for hours” on social media, going out drinking, on the couch in front of the TV eating chips and drinking beer, coke, etc., in three years. In that case, you will still be doing the same tedious job, be in the same unfulfilled relationship, and give yourself or others excuses for why you weren’t the success you thought you could be.

For instance, some of those free hours if be used to learn how to grow your worth, build a business, be more financially astute, do new things or try different things, which could mean that in a short amount of time, you would have better chances for a more rewarding job, attract a better relationship, be healthier, or even turn to a successful entrepreneur that makes a difference by doing what you love.

That seems like a good idea, but where does one begin? What if success is about you being truly clear on what matters most to you?

This question that I answered back in 2012 helped me write many multi-award winning and bestselling books, appear on over 800 TV/Radio/Podcast shows, give a TEDx talk, speak around the world, and build a successful global lifestyle speaking, coaching and training business. My basic premise is to assist individuals from all professions, entrepreneurs, and executives to create mental, emotional, physical, social, relational, spiritual, financial, business and career breakthroughs to become more purposeful, successful, and thrive in every area of life.

My focus has been to be the coaching partner that helps you become successful while ensuring you quench your thirst for wellbeing, purpose, fulfilment and adventure.

If you’re not growing in all areas of life, you’re not thriving.

I just came back from Gran Canaries, where I spent five days coaching and training a client who reached out and booked my Vital Planning for Elevated Living Business and Life Mastery advanced learning and training program to assist him in living his life in more alignment with his authentic values, pursuing his ambitions and taking care of his emotional, mental and physical health. At the end of this learning and unlearning experience, my client shared how I’ve become the place and why many people and business owners like him turn to me when they need extra support or guidance.

I felt thrilled! When I first launched this unique learning experience in 2008, I had no idea of the breakthroughs and the success they would create for my client. I just knew that if my clients couldn’t find what they needed, my integrated life and business coaching advanced training would take them on an inside out self-mastery journey that focuses all of their mental and emotional faculties to help them excel and grow in business, life and career, so they succeed more quickly and thrive.

Over the years, I have helped I can teach you how to make sure that every goal across all areas of your life is CLEARER, SMARTER, and PURPOSEFUL. It is what makes you more effective and more inspired!

So, here are the three actions you can take right now:

1. Write down why success is essential for you.
2. Answer what success looks like for you.
3. Set CLEARER, SMARTER, and PURPOSEFUL goals and set aside a certain amount of hours each week to work on your plan and stick to it.

It is wise to identify what you can do yourself and what is it you need to ask for help; sometimes, you might get it for free, but if you want to get far in life, my recommendation is to pay for it and get a professional coach or mentor that can be the torch that shines a light on your path to success.

If you try to re-invent the wheel, you are just wasting that valuable resource, time. One thing to keep in mind, there’s a big difference between telling yourself that you are spending money when hiring a coach and investing money in your growth. Any time you spend some money learning something that will take you closer to what you want, that’s an investment that will pay dividends for life!

Success will come much faster when you don’t waste your time trying to do it all independently.

You’ve just read about Three Actions That Accelerate Your Success. Now it’s time to take the next step and get started on your path to creating the success you dream about daily. It’s time to expand your awareness of what’s possible beyond your perceived limits, evolve your business, career, and purpose, and become the successful individual, partner, and leader you know you can be.

There’s no reason you can’t grow into your fullest potential, have a successful co-loving relationship, be a successful individual, business owner, or leader, or attract the success you deep down want. I love sharing and teaching how to get the results and where you want to be by becoming more confident, booming, credible and capable of purposefully transforming in every area of your personal, relational, social, professional, financial and business life.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Live and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, and The Unfakeable Code®.

PS – To consciously create the success you want, get in touch with me today! As your coaching partner, it will be an honour to work on addressing the issues that cause you headaches, pain, and frustrations and get you the clarity, the tools, and the plan that begins to put you on a path to success, grow you and your employees into the best purpose-driven leader possible. You’ll learn practical ways and skills to help you turn your fears into fuel for growth. You can inspire your employees and elevate them above their peers at competing companies while inspiring yourself as a leader.

I work on a virtual basis and in-person with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of personal, professional, and business goals. Here are four ways I can assist you in creating life-changing breakthroughs, growth, and accelerating your journey to excellent health, influence, transformational leadership and success.

#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an email to info@tonyselimi.com.

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of my happy students.

#3 … Make the fastest progress by hiring me to work with you on your business to train and grow your teams. Just reply to this message and put “private” in the subject line. Let me know a little about you or your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you the quote, invoice, and the necessary booking details.

#4 … Hire me as a speaker to educate, inspire and transform your audience at your next company or industry event. Click HERE to download my speaker sheet and fill in the form with your event info, and once I hear from you, I’ll send you the contract and fee info back.

So what are some of the factors that influence fear of Growing Into Your Fullest Potential?

Do you ever feel like you could do more? Have there been times when you felt creed, race, or culture had influenced your life and work experience? Do you find yourself wondering what your most significant limitations in life are? Are you even aware of what kind of fear you are afraid of? Suppose you are constantly making excuses, procrastinating, and not feeling at peace with yourself and others. In that case, you are most likely reading my weekly newsletter because you want to grow into your fullest potential in all critical areas of life.

No matter what major challenge you are currently facing, an underlying fear stops you from taking that step.

Let’s start by acknowledging the following…

Your fear plays a role in fulfilling your potential.

Fear is one of the primary emotions that we experience, and while the primary role of fear is to protect you, fear very often becomes a significant obstacle between you and your goals. To a large extent, success relies on knowing how to leverage fear.

Fear comes in many different forms. There are a variety of things that we are afraid of. Some may be afraid of heights or spiders; others may be afraid of failure or embarrassment. Fear comes in different shapes and sizes, but no matter what form it takes, it’s essential to understand how this emotion can work for you instead of against you.

What are some of the most common fears?

We all have fears. They are natural and part of what makes us human. But the fear of not being good enough, worthy enough, smart enough or any other reason we use to put off going after what we want can keep us from living a fulfilling and prosperous life.

The key is to recognise the fear, acknowledge it but don’t give into it. Fear is a bully that demands your attention and will taunt you with your worst insecurities if you let it. Don’t give in! You can do anything you set your mind to!

Is fear stopping you from experiencing life fully?

Suppose you are not showing up in the world as your authentic self daily. In that case, you are most likely wearing one of the masks created by your inauthentic being who has experienced a lifetime of threats, pains, disappointments, and rejections.  In my book The Unfakeable Code®, I share how various personas we adopt as we go through life can build protective mechanisms that imprison us in the prison of our creations. Reading the book, you’ll learn why those of you who are afraid to take off the mask, face your worst fears, and take risks are the ones who never achieve, never fulfil their dreams and never experience life fully. You may have beautiful intentions for better health, relationship, career, business, finances, social life, and a more kind and loving world.

However, fear can stop many of you from experiencing life fully. Fear’s insidious nature makes it hard to detect, but it is often the most significant factor holding you back from experiencing your fullest potential.

Why Fear Stops You?

Fear stops you because you think something has gone wrong when you feel it. You forget the very role of your amygdala, to fight, flight, freeze, or, as I mention in all of my books, create the freedom you always want.

Fear is a normal human emotion.

As you will see below, the list of how fear impacts your life is a long one. There are many benefits if you can avoid the pitfalls of being fearful and live more in the present.

You may feel that you have little or no control over your destiny, you may not value yourself enough to believe that you deserve to be happy and prosperous, or that it is too risky to follow your heart in case everything goes wrong. In short, if we were not worried about how things might turn out, we would have a lot less to worry about!

What are some of the drawbacks of fear?

First of all, fear stops you from authentically showing up. In other words, it keeps you from living your fullest and most colourful life. A life that is rich in emotion and rich in love.

Whether the client is an individual seeking to overcome personal challenges or a business seeking to improve productivity, performance, and profits, the first step is to assist them in identifying the specific fears related to whatever they wish to work on. Why? Because, no matter what they learn, no matter what instruction they are given, if those fears are not brought to light, it will stop them from creating the results they truly want. For every client I have helped, specific worries related to their life-long experiences have consciously and unconsciously influenced them to remain stuck.

Fear is also something that gets in the way of your happiness and can even prevent you from being able to live a happy life at all. Fear stops us from doing what we want to do or being whom we want to be.

Fear has so many different meanings for each one of us, but no matter how you look at it, anxiety can be detrimental to our health and well-being as individuals and societies.

Suppose your goal is to live a happy and fulfilling life full of meaning and purpose. In that case, I trust this article, as part of the Unfakeably Influencing the World newsletter, will help you understand why it’s essential to overcome your fears to achieve these goals.

Understanding the role of fear in your surrounding environment

Fear gives us a false sense of security. It limits your choices, doesn’t let you breathe, and generates anxiety and stress.

It can numb you, leaving you running in circles without direction. It creates low self-confidence, making it difficult to accomplish anything. And it keeps you from experiencing the joys of life because all you see is the negative side of everything.

But fear has an upside: it protects us from predators and makes us more potent after facing it.

Your subconscious mind thinks that if it holds back on its full potential, then nothing terrible will happen. That’s where fear enters the picture – as a friend who wants to protect you from harm and keep things status quo – even though this is not always true or helpful.

What can you do to overcome fear?

Those who resist facing the fears that make them uncomfortable are often those who don’t know they exist. It’s worth clarifying what aspects of your life may be causing you to fear taking your goals and dreams seriously, so you can improve your understanding of the situation and take steps towards a solution. Perhaps you aren’t afraid to invest more time in studying and getting better at a new skill, but what about investing more time in developing yourself as a lover, leader, business owner, or celebrity person? Fear is nothing more than an issue of perspective.

You’ll find it helpful if you clarify what types of activities cause you such negative feelings; keeping these on hand will be beneficial when seeking out professional help or counselling, as this list is meant to be used as a starting point for further research into areas where some form of growth may occur.

What are the benefits of fear in unfakeably influencing the world?

“You’re not alone,” I told one of my clients after booking himself to my ten-days Vital Planning Business, and Life Mastery focused coaching and training experience. “You don’t have to be afraid of what you can do, just the people who tell you that you’re not capable of achieving anything great. They’ll fail and tell you it’s your fault they failed… but they’re wrong.”

“Yeah,” he responded as he put his hand on my shoulder. “It’s a hard road, it’s tough to remain focused in these seven hours a day breakthrough coaching with you, Tony, but I now see how it leads to freedom and, as you say in The Unfakeable Code®, Book, live freely on your terms.”

I smiled thinking about this; this was beautiful client feedback. He understood the value of fearlessness, even though he had experienced failure in the past.

You’ve just read about Factors That Influence Fear of Growing Into Your Fullest Potential. Now it’s time to take the next step and get started on your path to knowing the fears behind your repeated patterns, failures, and unfulfilled dreams. It’s time to expand your awareness of what’s possible beyond your perceived fears, grow your purpose, become an authentic individual, partner, and leader and activate purpose across your entire life, including your business.

Get in touch with me today! As your coaching partner, it will be an honour to work on addressing the issues that cause you headaches, pain, and frustrations and get you the clarity, the tools, and the plan that begins to grow you and your employees into the best purpose-driven leader possible. You’ll learn practical ways and skills to help you turn your fears into fuel for growth. You can inspire your employees and elevate them above their peers at competing companies while inspiring yourself as a leader.

There’s no reason you can’t grow into your fullest potential, have a co-loving relationship, develop your leadership skills, boost your business, attract better opportunities and clients,  and improve the well-being of your organisation.  I love sharing how to get the results and where you want to be by becoming more confident, sure, credible and capable of purposefully transforming in every area of your personal, professional and business life.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Live and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, and The Unfakeable Code®.

PS – I work on a virtual basis and in-person with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of personal, professional, and business goals. Here are four ways I can assist you in creating life-changing breakthroughs, growth, and accelerating your journey to excellent health, influence, transformational leadership and success.

#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an email to info@tonyselimi.com.

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of my happy students.

#3 … Make the fastest progress by hiring me to work with you on your business to train and grow your teams. Just reply to this message and put “private” in the subject line. Let me know a little about you or your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you the quote, invoice, and the necessary booking details.

#4 … Hire me as a speaker to educate, inspire and transform your audience at your next company or industry event. Click HERE to download my speaker sheet and fill in the form with your event info, and once I hear from you, I’ll send you the contract and fee info back.

For more information, go to https://tonyselimi.com.

Dear growth seeker,

Thank you for choosing to invest your time in reading this article about the importance of transformative leadership and growing the most precious asset you will ever possess – You.

So many of you have messaged me here on my website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook and on WhatsUp to ask me to share some insights on the recent most spoken two topics that affect every human being – Will Smith’s violent response after the comedian Chris Rock made a joke about his wife Jada Pinkett Smith which not only shocked the live audience at the Oscars but also sparked media attention around the world and the invasion of Ukraine. So I decided to write this article and share my thoughts in a way that can start the so needed leadership conversations not only in every business and organisation but also in governments around the world.

Both incidents mentioned above are great examples of the destructive power of our inability to control ourselves when emotions, biases, and judgment get the best of us. Perhaps it is time to shape the narratives around the kind of distraction we as human beings and what Authoritarian and Transactional Leadership are capable of. But it is also a great example of how the same distraction can create a rippling effect of uniting leaders to step up and focus on the safety, growth and protection of their people and the very same foundation upon which democracy is built.

The Ukrainian leader Volodymyr Oleksandrovych Zelensky, a former actor and comedian who became the sixth and incumbent president of Ukraine, is an excellent example of the traits of Transformational Leadership. He rose to the challenges he as an individual faced when the war in Ukraine started, but he also managed to mobilise his people to fight one of the strongest armies in the world and managed to galvanise the EU and NATO leaders to step up their game.

The truth is…

Transformational leaders are focused on the safety, wellbeing, growth and development of their people. They set clear expectations, honour commitments, and keep their employees accountable to goals. Transformational leadership has been shown to result in higher morale, decreased turnover, greater motivation (both for the leader and for team members), more innovation and creativity, increased productivity, better communication between employees and management, improved performance in high-stress situations (such as emergencies), increased trust among employees and higher earnings for the company as a whole.

As an employee or a manager, you’re already great at hitting your deadlines, completing projects on time and under budget, and maintaining positive relationships with your direct reports. But when there’s a big, hairy project that needs to be completed—like launching a new product or implementing an organisational change—that’s where you fall short. You feel like you’re spinning your wheels trying to rally the troops. You don’t know what steps to take to get out of this rut and gain traction.

One of the main benefits to use coaching, training, and development as an empowering tool to activate leadership in everyone in your organisation is this:

Transformational Leaders Are Excellent at Asking Quality Questions and at Listening.

They ask questions to understand how people feel about a situation. They ask questions to help people get to the root of a complex problem. They ask questions to help people find solutions. They ask questions that help people move forward in life, whether it is by identifying their blind spots or providing direction and inspiration for a new way forward.

What better way to transform your people than by asking questions that will help them think outside the box, consider new perspectives and improve their performance, decision-making and communication?

For instance, in The Unfakeable Code®, I share more about what questions could you ask your people to help them rethink their approach to a provocation or a project? What questions could you ask them to encourage them to take off the mask and be open to exploring new ideas or looking at things differently? What questions could you ask that would help them make more effective decisions? Or communicate more effectively with customers or colleagues?

Another reason to promote authentic leadership in your organisation is this:

Transformational Leaders Are Excellent at Empowering Others.

Empowerment is a simple concept to understand. It means giving people the freedom to make decisions and act on them. Empowerment is essential in an organisation since the manager won’t always be there to guide others, so they need to be empowered to make their own decisions.

Over the years, I have had the pleasure to coach and mentor businesses from all market sectors and leaders of some of the fortune 500 companies to create a culture where empowerment thrives by building trust within the board,  teams, and every employee in the organisation. As we worked together on achieving their objectives, every client has realised how trust and empowerment go hand in hand; if you don’t trust someone, you’re unlikely to empower them with decision-making authority.

In our professional careers, we all come across transactional leaders and managers. They are perceived as inauthentic, dull, and unworthy of our trust because of how they act, behave, and treat the people they manage. Such leaders don’t get many opportunities to practice being exciting and original, so they stay disempowered.

With enough encouragement, coaching, and training, anyone can be anything. So why not invest in activating leadership across your entire organisation?

Transformational Leaders Inspire Vision and Purpose.

You may have heard the old saying, “dance like no one is watching.” Maybe you’ve said it yourself. Dancing like no one is watching has become a cliché for letting go, but what if it were more than just a feel-good adage?

What if dancing like no one was watching was the first step toward achieving something you want – dancing on Broadway, winning an Olympic medal, or just shedding a few pounds and feeling better about yourself?

Most people are afraid to take that first step because they’re worried about what other people will think. But we believe there’s a real opportunity to achieve your goals if you ignore everyone else and focus on what you want.

Transformational Leaders Encourage Innovation.

Good leaders are open-minded, and this openness is a crucial part of what makes them suitable. They’re willing to consider new ideas and ways, encouraging others to do the same. This makes it easier for their employees to think creatively, which can help the team address challenges or identify new opportunities.

Transformational Leaders Set Challenging Goals.

Transformational leaders set challenging goals and can mobilise people to achieve them. Volodymyr Zelensky, NATO and the EU are great examples of this. They also create a sense of urgency, setting deadlines and milestones to keep things on track. Finally, they empower followers by giving them the freedom to achieve the end in their way.

This doesn’t mean that you can say: “I have a great idea! We should build an Android Artificial Intelligence Powered phone!” Then hand the team a blank canvas, walk away and expect results. Setting challenging goals is essential but not enough; these leaders also ensure that followers understand their role in achieving the outcome and providing the necessary resources. Both NATO and the EU are giving Ukraine many resources to help them fight back Russia Invasion. And finally, they make sure team members have sufficient time for reflection to plan their next steps appropriately (rather than jumping from crisis to crisis).

Transformational Leadership Assist in Creating Effective, Efficient and Energised Managers and Employees.

In one of the companies, I was hired to assist them in addressing low productivity, poor performance, and high turnover staff issues. I observed how many did not like working for the company because they felt not listened to, not necessary, and did not want to face colleagues used to moaning, criticising, and bringing other people down. Their leaders were not listening to what everyone in the company felt, which many found to be demoralising and destructive.

What I did as their coaching partner was to clarify the behaviours that fuel transactional leadership and management and use it to:

• Motivate and inspire staff to achieve their full potential
• Build loyalty and trust
• Create a positive and supportive environment
• Encourage teamwork, innovation and collaboration
• Set challenging and values-driven goals
• Improve employee’s mental health, performance and wellbeing
• Grow their reputation, productivity and profits

I love travelling the world and assisting others in creating transformational results. One thing that inspired me throughout my life to keep learning, growing, and sharing my gifts for the benefit of others is what my father, a successful restaurateur told me as I was growing up:

“My son, if you want your business to grow, then assist others to grow by leading by example.”

You’ve just read about the transformative leadership possible for you and your organisation. Now it’s time to take the next step and get started on your path to being a transformative leader and activating leadership across your entire business.

Get in touch with me today! As your coaching partner, it will be an honour to work on addressing the issues that cause you headaches, pain, and frustrations and get you the clarity, the tools, and the plan that begins to grow you and your employees into the best transformational leader possible. You’ll learn practical ways and skills that will help you to inspire your employees and elevate them above their peers at competing companies while also inspiring yourself as a leader.

There’s no reason your organisation can’t become the market leader, and I love sharing how to get the results and where you want to be by becoming a transformative leader.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Live and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, and The Unfakeable Code®.

PS – I work on a virtual basis and in-person with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of personal, professional, and business goals. Here are four ways I can assist you in creating life-changing breakthroughs, growth, and accelerating your journey to excellent health, influence, transformational leadership and success.

#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an email to info@tonyselimi.com

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of my happy students.

#3 … Make the fastest progress by hiring me to work with you on your business and train your teams. Just reply to this message and put “private” in the subject line. Let me know a little about you or your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you the quote, invoice, and the necessary booking details.

#4 … Hire me as a speaker to educate, inspire and transform your audience at your next company or industry event. Click HERE to download my speaker sheet and fill in the form with your event info, and once I hear from you, I’ll send you the contract and fee info back.

In pursuit of happiness, success, and wealth you will stumble across many challenges that will either paralyze you or inspire you to take action. Which one applies to you depends on your ability to safely navigate through an ocean of emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and injected values that you have been exposed since a very young age.

It is no secret that we live in a world that is technologically advanced, economically challenging, and mentally draining. We are consumed by fears, worries, and troubles of life that push us in various directions without us having the time to realize how much we have missed out on life.

In this dynamic way of living our lives we often forget the true power that lives within each one of us. Each human being is equipped with the ability to gain the wisdom that can turn their life’s greatest adversity into opportunities and massive breakthroughs.

On this journey to learn from some of the greatest minds of our time, I concluded that what really matters to us all is directly correlated with how happy, successful, and content we are inside.

So, to understand these three key human needs I spent the last twenty five years researching, learning, and writing about my findings. It is the many personal life challenges that put me on the path I am today, what inspired me to write two best-selling books, what lead to being endorsed by Dr John Demartini, and being interviewed by legendary Brian Tracy and Jack Canfield, the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul and The success principles.

Before you continue reading the rest of this article take a moment and answer this important question:

Why is it important for you to pursue a life that brings you the success, health and wealth that you deserve? 

Truth is anyone with a grain for grey matter understands that for us to be able to pay the ever increasing rents, soaring education and medical costs, and cope with the demands of our daily lives we need to find ways to generate wealth at times where globally the salaries and the standard of living are dropping.

In simple words, you are working more and more for less and less. This is not the life you came to live nor is the American dream you may think it is. If you look at what is happening globally, you will come to understand it is more in line with one of the worst scenes from a very scary movie.

If you are reading this you are either a curious soul, on your way to creating the success you are seeking, or created the wealth and are ready for the next steps in your journey to create an unprecedented success in all of the eight key areas of life.

Whatever your reason may be, here are the Five Vital Steps of the TJS Formula I use with thousands of clients from all sectors, markets and professions to help them create unprecedented success, achieve perfect health, and create more wealth in their life.

The same five steps are also what I used in my own personal life to become an expert in my field, travel the world, coach ealite clients, meet interesting people, resolve business problems, and internationally be known as The See-Through Coach who within five years went from zero to building a seven figure coaching, speaking and consulting business.

If you are an entrepreneur, business owner, coach, author, healer, or someone who loves to grow, then you may choose to adopt this formula to create the success, credibility, and the lifestyle you want.

Clarity + Consistency + Commitment + Credibility + Collaboration = TJS Success Formula

Success means different things to different people, whatever it may be for you, use this five step formula in your day to day life to gain the clarity you require. Become consistent in your actions that are required to enhance all of the eight key areas of life.

It is your commitment to learn, grow, and educate your mind that will lead to your credibility and for many people to want to collaborate with you. Using TJS Formula on a daily basis will help you build the credibility required to be known as the expert in your field who goes out in the world and makes a major difference.

Using TJS Success Formula consistently you too can gain the clarity required to step into your greatness, by investing in your education, professional training and personal development you will build the credibility required to build a successful lifestyle business that many of my clients have today, and through collaboration with people who are in sync with your values you too can reach new heights.

Investment in time, energy and money in my personal development is what helped me create TJS Success Formula and reach new heights I never imagined I could.

In the process I overcame many of my personal and business challenges that I share in more detail in my #1Amazon best-selling books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness to help others create the success they require, achive the balance that is neccessary to build a legacy.
One of my mentors and teachers that consistently I have been learning from is Dr John Demartini, international best-selling author who’s wisdom, guidance, and support have been paramount in helping me acknowledge my truth, free my soul, and expand my vision.

The more I learned about who I truly am, the more I became of service to ever increasing number of people, and the more people started to invite me to take an expert role on a global speaking stage.

All my life I have consistently spent 10% to 20% of my income in my personal and professional development. I also worked with some of the greatest healers around the world and attended seminars designed to help me build a global business.

I used TJS Success Formula to create my own unique IP that I share in both of my award-winning books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness. I also use it when I create partnerships with other successful individuals such as Joel and Timea Van der Molen, the owners of Vandercom, a leading telecommunication and IT service provider company, Nick Nanton from Celebrity branding, and many other world renowned figures such as Steve Harrison and Jack Canfield.

TJS Success formula is just one of the many formulas that are hidden in the twenty five principles of TJS Evolutionary Method-ALARM®.

Use the above to propel you on your journey to creating unprecedented success, heal your body mind, and increase your capacity to receive by serving more people in the world.

And if you are someone who loves to be the one percenter, is ready to accelerate their human potential, and on a mission to achieve unprecedented success and wealth then pm to book your two hour initial consultation.

Using my unique approach I have helped many people reach a flow state that helped them create The Most Amazing Life Possible.

To your joy, health, and greatness,

Tony Jeton Selimi

P.S. Even when it is cloudy the sun shines every day, so can you. Get up and shine!

If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. Check out the events calendar to attend any of my talks and seminars in 2017. Get in touch to help you inspire your audience, book a consultation, or learn more about my work. You start reading, learning and growing by daily taking ACTION!

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”- Lao Tzu 

It is in our DNA to continuously evolve, multiply, and wake up and rise. To search for a deeper meaning to our mortal lives. The more I was learning about Taoism, the more I came to understand the meaning hidden behind Lao’s statement.

The many of the truth’s and lies that I had learned since a very young age kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation, the one of a rigid mind, and of an perfect illusionist whose illusions were so real that one could never establish the difference of what is and what’s not an illusion.

Ancient scriptures are littered with paradoxical lingo, for instance Jesus said, “Whoever tries to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will preserve it.”

Only this statement kept me searching for the deeper meaning behind these words. I came to experience the flow of life, the rhythm of striving and letting go that which hinders our evolution, conceals our truth, and keeps us holding on too tightly to our beliefs, skewed perceptions and injected values.

When we eventually awaken to our greatness, it feels like swimming against the current. It is this illusion that you must break through committing to do the hard work required to unravel the truth of who you are. Hustle and be persistent, make sure you balance this with patience, and at times, stepping away from a rigid belief, injected value, people or situation.

This was the case with Elizabeth Gilbert following the massive success of Eat, Pray, Love. She shared about the crippling pressure of any follow up work that came from this success. With millions of anxious readers, she cranked out a manuscript over the course of one year, but she shared that it just didn’t feel right “The voice didn’t sound like me.”

She decided to put the manuscript away, never to be looked at again, and focused on her garden patch. Taking a break brought her clarity; rather than writing the book for the millions anticipating, she decided to start over and wrote it for an audience of 27 close friends, who needed the message of the book.

This very same situation happened to me when I embarked writing both of my books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness. In both occasions the first manuscript I wrote did not feel congruent to me. I felt rushed and in a way pressured to deliver the manuscript to my publishers. I walked away from both of my original scripts and created two new ones that are now read by millions of readers globally.

Being able to listen to your true authentic voice, not the one you have developed over the years of conditioning, or disassociation, or fear, is what helped me let go of what the books had to be and created the room for them to become what they meant to be.

In your striving, acknowledge your willingness to let go and just do it.

Here are the five principles to embrace to elevate your being:

1. Unravel, Know and Grow Your Value. There’s value in simply being alive, being all you can be, and knowing your presence matters. And there’s value in what you contribute to the world; to learn to value how both your inner “devil” and “angel” are there to support you on your journey to self-actualization, and how life adversities are there to help you live your highest values and share that with the world. Keep investing in your most valuable assets: your health, knowledge, and wisdom. Get yourself a mentor or a coach, there are many out there, choose one that is credible, speaks, lives and is capable of holding a clean mirror to teach you your truth. I personally love learning and consulting with various teachers including world human behavior expert Dr John Demartini.
2. Learn the art of mastering free will and determinism. Many people out there believe that they have no free-will, that all our actions and behaviors are predetermined neurologically through upbringing and environment. Neuroplasticity experts disagree; they have now shown to us that we can change our brain, and we’re wholly and solely responsible for what takes place in life. In my recent book #Loneliness I share how our experience gives way to both; sometimes, we freely choose to pass on those delicious chocolate cakes, other times we’re possessed by the Vanilla Ice Cream Hagen Daz-monster. There are times we’re nothing like our parents, and other times we’re a splitting image. What I notice in many people is their willingness to intrude in other people’s realities, offering services and reasons why they should be in your life. To the extent that our able, self-discipline and willpower needs to be exerted. Ultimately with decision-making, joy comes in knowing you’re in the driver’s seat rather than the passenger seat. Whether or not free will is an illusion, feeling as though you’ve expressed your will is better than being a mindless robot. Remember, taking ownership is always better than seeking to blame.
3. Train your mind to think fast and slow down when it is absolutely necessary. Many of my clients struggle when it comes to making a decision if they should go ahead with their head, or with their heart. That is the question that billions of people are currently asking on the planet. When I spent six weeks meditating I learnt to master my mind, to slow it down and to think fast by recollecting vast amount of data needed to make a decision. Thinking fast, or just going with your gut, is often tied in with the unconscious mind; science has shown that it’s incredibly accurate—once we identify a goal we want to accomplish in our life, our mind draws from the vast information we’re subconsciously exposed to, and responds to triggers that support the goal. Thinking slow requires more conscious effort to fully explore an issue, but can lead to overanalysing and inaction. Whether you ultimately decide to go with logic or intuition, realizing your physical and emotional state when making the decision is just as, if not more important. Being in a stressed, tired, or negative state will never yield the best decision. Learn to be balanced, to think fast, and slow down when you need to, best way to do it is while you’re rested and in a calm state.
4. Embrace change and permanence. Universe is constantly moving, evolving, and creating and destroying stars and galaxies. You are part of the same universe governed by the very same laws. If you’ve heard the words, “Gosh, you’ve changed,” it was likely with a derogative tone, and remorse over what happened to the person they once knew. To be grounded and consistent in our values is a good thing, pretence has never been notable. Yet at the same time, returning to your high-school reunion and seeing old friends stuck in the same old thing comes with a sense of shame, blame and guilt. To grow and change is both a good and a bad thing. Whilst stagnancy has never been celebrated, it is essential part of everyone’s journey. Repetition and evolution are two great words balancing the truths of permanence and change: you may never change careers in your life, but the reality is you’ve grown in your work. You may never leave your country, but you may have fulfilled all your dreams and are daily doing actions that are elevating your being.
5. Study both Science and Spirituality. Science without spirituality is blind, spirituality without science is foolish. The integration of the knowledge they both bring is key to understanding the universe, our origins, and the next steps in our evolution. The dawn of the enlightenment and scientific revolution was the great divide between faith and reason. Positivism and Empiricism became the dominant methods for determining truth, and all else was classed as superstition. But in the recent years, we’ve seen the traditional enemies overlap, with science validating once esoteric knowledge and practices like prayer and meditation.

The five principles above are a great reminder that while truth and confidence can be grounded in facts and figures, trust and assurance can also be found in what’s not visible to the naked eye, or immediate to your senses. Belief, gratitude, and faith—less tangible experiences, supported by science, all broaden and add to meaningful experiences in life.

Learn to use the TJS Evolutionary Method to embody the mentioned five principles into your daily life. It will help you on your journey to integrate the wholeness of who you are.  For those of you who are advanced students of life, you may want to start reading my newly released book #Loneliness –The Virus of The Modern Age.  In this book is where you start the journey to unravel the hidden lies that in time become the truths that you speak. Where you learn to be authentic, speak your truth, and honour your true essence.

Lastly, remember one thing, enlightenment is not an overnight thing, it is a lifelong commitment, it is your infinite soul’s way of letting you know how powerful you are, and it is a dance between “Good” and “Evil”, “Love and “Hate”, “Day” and “Night” and the many counterparts of the two polar opposite sides of you.

“Being truthful, authentic, and grateful is the first step to healing your body, mind, and heart.”

Which one of these vital principles that resonates most with you are you going to commit daily? Which one of them is most aligned to your values, why is it so, and please feel free to share with me and readers from around the globe why is it so. Write your thoughts in the comments below, share this article on social media and invite others to engage in a life changing dialogue.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

Speaker, Coach, Human Behavior and Cognition Expert