What would change in your life if you acknowledged that you are the author of your own story and can create your future? Maybe you’ll grow an award-winning book, open a coaching business, or possibly be the partner, the leader, the successful individual you always wanted to be. Or perhaps you’ll never step outside your comfort zone, and that’s okay. You’re making a difference either way.

It’s scary to put yourself out there and be successful. This was me in 2009 when I faced one of my many worst fears – the fear of being successful. Back then, having been made redundant from a job I loved, my prospects of finding a new job were weak. The pressure to fulfil all of my financial commitments kept building. Everything around me kept telling me how much I was worth, that there were not enough senior technology jobs, and I had to lower my salary expectations if I wanted to find another job.

But deep down, I knew my worth, what I was capable of achieving, and by then, I had worked with many famous and successful coaches, trainers, and healers who helped me unleash my worth and stand in my authentic power.

Before I share some of the actions you can take to accelerate your success, here are some questions you may want to ponder with:

Do you ever feel like you could be more successful? Have there been times when you are not being appreciated for the value you bring into other people’s lives? Do you find yourself wondering about your most significant success limitations in life? Are you even aware of what kind of success you can achieve?

Suppose you are constantly making excuses, procrastinating, and judging others for the success they create in their personal, relational, social, spiritual, career, business or financial life. In that case, you are most likely reading my weekly newsletter because you want to be successful and grow to your fullest potential in all critical areas of life.

No matter what major challenge you are currently facing on your journey to success, underlying emotional issues stop you from being successful in your chosen field or area of life.

Everybody gets twenty-four hours per day…no more, no less…

Through my personal and client’s journey to success, I discovered that it matters not how much money you have or don’t have,  how educated you are, and your social position. How effectively you use the twenty-four hours a day, we all get matters.

Until maybe one day we invent a back to the future time machine; for now, it is wise to acknowledge that you can’t buy, beg, borrow or steal another one second, minute, hour, day, week, month, or a year.

What you do with those twenty-four hours is entirely up to you; of course, there will be those you love that consume some of that time. We all have obligations that must be met each day. We have jobs or businesses that provide us with the necessary income; a certain amount of time is required for sleeping, eating, socialising, reading, shopping, and fulfilling our relationship commitments.  However, what many of you may not stop and think about is how the entire.
Twenty-four are not all spoken for. How there are the few hours each day that you can use
As you want to use them. What you decide to do with them will primarily determine how successful or unsuccessful you will be in life.

Suppose you are someone who spends all of our “unspoken for hours” on social media, going out drinking, on the couch in front of the TV eating chips and drinking beer, coke, etc., in three years. In that case, you will still be doing the same tedious job, be in the same unfulfilled relationship, and give yourself or others excuses for why you weren’t the success you thought you could be.

For instance, some of those free hours if be used to learn how to grow your worth, build a business, be more financially astute, do new things or try different things, which could mean that in a short amount of time, you would have better chances for a more rewarding job, attract a better relationship, be healthier, or even turn to a successful entrepreneur that makes a difference by doing what you love.

That seems like a good idea, but where does one begin? What if success is about you being truly clear on what matters most to you?

This question that I answered back in 2012 helped me write many multi-award winning and bestselling books, appear on over 800 TV/Radio/Podcast shows, give a TEDx talk, speak around the world, and build a successful global lifestyle speaking, coaching and training business. My basic premise is to assist individuals from all professions, entrepreneurs, and executives to create mental, emotional, physical, social, relational, spiritual, financial, business and career breakthroughs to become more purposeful, successful, and thrive in every area of life.

My focus has been to be the coaching partner that helps you become successful while ensuring you quench your thirst for wellbeing, purpose, fulfilment and adventure.

If you’re not growing in all areas of life, you’re not thriving.

I just came back from Gran Canaries, where I spent five days coaching and training a client who reached out and booked my Vital Planning for Elevated Living Business and Life Mastery advanced learning and training program to assist him in living his life in more alignment with his authentic values, pursuing his ambitions and taking care of his emotional, mental and physical health. At the end of this learning and unlearning experience, my client shared how I’ve become the place and why many people and business owners like him turn to me when they need extra support or guidance.

I felt thrilled! When I first launched this unique learning experience in 2008, I had no idea of the breakthroughs and the success they would create for my client. I just knew that if my clients couldn’t find what they needed, my integrated life and business coaching advanced training would take them on an inside out self-mastery journey that focuses all of their mental and emotional faculties to help them excel and grow in business, life and career, so they succeed more quickly and thrive.

Over the years, I have helped I can teach you how to make sure that every goal across all areas of your life is CLEARER, SMARTER, and PURPOSEFUL. It is what makes you more effective and more inspired!

So, here are the three actions you can take right now:

1. Write down why success is essential for you.
2. Answer what success looks like for you.
3. Set CLEARER, SMARTER, and PURPOSEFUL goals and set aside a certain amount of hours each week to work on your plan and stick to it.

It is wise to identify what you can do yourself and what is it you need to ask for help; sometimes, you might get it for free, but if you want to get far in life, my recommendation is to pay for it and get a professional coach or mentor that can be the torch that shines a light on your path to success.

If you try to re-invent the wheel, you are just wasting that valuable resource, time. One thing to keep in mind, there’s a big difference between telling yourself that you are spending money when hiring a coach and investing money in your growth. Any time you spend some money learning something that will take you closer to what you want, that’s an investment that will pay dividends for life!

Success will come much faster when you don’t waste your time trying to do it all independently.

You’ve just read about Three Actions That Accelerate Your Success. Now it’s time to take the next step and get started on your path to creating the success you dream about daily. It’s time to expand your awareness of what’s possible beyond your perceived limits, evolve your business, career, and purpose, and become the successful individual, partner, and leader you know you can be.

There’s no reason you can’t grow into your fullest potential, have a successful co-loving relationship, be a successful individual, business owner, or leader, or attract the success you deep down want. I love sharing and teaching how to get the results and where you want to be by becoming more confident, booming, credible and capable of purposefully transforming in every area of your personal, relational, social, professional, financial and business life.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Live and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, and The Unfakeable Code®.

PS – To consciously create the success you want, get in touch with me today! As your coaching partner, it will be an honour to work on addressing the issues that cause you headaches, pain, and frustrations and get you the clarity, the tools, and the plan that begins to put you on a path to success, grow you and your employees into the best purpose-driven leader possible. You’ll learn practical ways and skills to help you turn your fears into fuel for growth. You can inspire your employees and elevate them above their peers at competing companies while inspiring yourself as a leader.

I work on a virtual basis and in-person with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of personal, professional, and business goals. Here are four ways I can assist you in creating life-changing breakthroughs, growth, and accelerating your journey to excellent health, influence, transformational leadership and success.

#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an email to info@tonyselimi.com.

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of my happy students.

#3 … Make the fastest progress by hiring me to work with you on your business to train and grow your teams. Just reply to this message and put “private” in the subject line. Let me know a little about you or your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you the quote, invoice, and the necessary booking details.

#4 … Hire me as a speaker to educate, inspire and transform your audience at your next company or industry event. Click HERE to download my speaker sheet and fill in the form with your event info, and once I hear from you, I’ll send you the contract and fee info back.

At times of unprecedented uncertainty created by the outbreak of the Coronavirus pandemic, many of you are sitting at home wondering when will this all end? What is the prolonged impact on your life, and what will the future hold for you.

Here is the Good News!

As a human being, you are equipped with powerful tools. One is your ability to adapt, change, and find solutions to challenges presented to you. But, what most of you and companies struggle with is knowing how to apply those God-given abilities with integrity.

Why?

Because you can’t fake integrity! Building a reputation of integrity takes years, but it takes only a second to lose. With time passing by, people don’t remember your successes of failure, or what you did or did not do for them. They’ll remember you by how well you treated them and how you made them feel.

I often teach my clients; success comes and goes. Building a reputation of integrity is what changes, saves and transforms your life for better and forever. It is wise never to allow yourself to do anything that would damage your honesty, for it creates negative karma that destroys the results of all the hard work you may have put all your life.

Your dishonesty is what breaks partnerships that can transform your life, and damages all of your relationships, especially the one you have with your body, mind, heart and soul. The consequences of your lack of integrity are far-reaching. They will show up in your life as physical health problems, business failures, loneliness, rejection, lack of meaningful relationship, separation from the people who helped you get where you are, financial problems, relationship conflicts, and being seen as fake.

In the last few weeks, I have had an increase in clients booking Skype sessions looking to overcome fears, doubts, and clarify what it is they must do now to transform their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. Many of them experienced emotional charges associated with the current crisis, conspiracy theories, and the loss of identity and income. Others were searching for ways to re-invent and better adapt their business in the new conditions and help them put in place a stage plan for when all of this will be over.

Most of these people who booked are confident, strongminded, and success-driven CEO’s of prominent corporations, business owners, professional people and entrepreneurs who put growth, wealth and integrity high on their priority of values.

But, as I started to question particular actions, choices and decisions they call came to acknowledge the lack of integrity within their values. It showed up in their way of being, doing, and thinking about the long term cost of not upholding their values.

Here are the top five behaviours I observe over and over in my clients, businesses I have consulted, and the people I meet daily that are guaranteed to damage your integrity and alter your long term achievements and success in life:

1. Telling lies to mask your insecurities, intentions, and toxic behaviours.
2. Crossing personal, professional and business boundaries and manipulating others to get what you want.
3. Going silent when you are not honouring your promises and contractual agreements.
4. Ignoring people’s messages, calls, and personal or professional responsibilities.
5. You talk the talk, but you don’t walk the walk.

Before sharing the five reasons on how integrity can transform your life, let’s look at what integrity means. Integrity stems from the Latin word ‘integer’ which means whole and complete. So integrity requires for you to develop an inner sense of ‘wholeness’ and consistency of character.

In my upcoming book “The Unfakeable Code” I share how people can visibly see your integrity through your actions, words, decisions, methods, and outcomes. When you are ‘whole’ and consistent, there is only one you show to the world. You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance.

You don’t put on a mask to feed your disempowered persona’s you may have developed since childhood. You don’t leave parts of yourself behind. You don’t have a ‘dating you’, a ‘family you,’ a ‘social you’ and a ‘work you.’ You are YOUR UNFAKEABLE AUTHENTIC YOU all the time.

Given the real definition of integrity, you may recognise that it is challenging to be in honesty 100% of the time. This is why so many of my clients have taken the stay at home opportunity to focus them on doing the inner work focused on mindset and spiritual transformation.

And here are five reasons why integrity can change, save and transform your business, personal and professional life.

1. Your masked personas can mess up all of your critical areas of life by justifying your actions and behaviours using the “I am honouring my values” excuse. But your true, unfakeable, and authentic being by default aspires to be in integrity with what you and others value. It makes every effort to communicate in other peoples values and create win-win-win situations for all concerned.
2. It is a scientific fact that emotions get the best of you, can cause physical, emotional and mental illness. You feel unable to manage your behaviours, actions intentionally, and don’t permit yourself to be your true self out of fear of what others may think. Being in integrity with yourself helps you master your emotions and truly ‘integrate’ the various parts of yourself into ONE, complete WHOLE person you show to the world.
3. No matter if you are someone working for a company, a solopreneur, business owner, or a leader of a country, people don’t collaborate, engage, or trust those who lack integrity. Showing up with integrity consistently at times of crisis and blessings will lead to being known as someone they can rely on, trust, and go to for advice, service or shoulder to lean on.
4. How others view, you can close many doors or open many opportunities. It’s one thing to ponder how you think you’re perceived, but quite another to know for sure. Talk to your spouse, friends, coach, manager, employees and network contacts outside of the company about what you don’t and do well. Make it a priority in daily living with integrity, and it is what people take into consideration how they view you. Do actions that restore broken relationships and trust.
5. Living with integrity improves your ability to live and lead authentically. How honest or accurate are your behaviours, activities, and words with other people that you interact or influence depend on your intentionality and thought? I consulted recently with a CEO who on our initial session told me how much he cares deeply about values. Yet on further questioning, he realised he is out of integrity because there is a lack of honesty and authenticity in how he behaves in his everyday life. While he said that he cares about his relationship, he communicates aggressively when challenged and spends very little time with his family. While he said he cares about teamwork, he doesn’t listen to others and gets defensive when challenged with different views. He kept preaching about creating a culture of love but publicly criticises and demeans employees he had no time or respect.

Integrity is about being the same regardless of the situation. If your mood changes by the day and make rash decisions on certain days, yet calm and engaging on other days, then you are inconsistent with your actions, values and outcomes.

To remain in integrity is a conscious choice that you are capable of making every single day, even when the situation or environment is not great. You will recognise a person with integrity no matter what the environment is, being with family, friends, church, or at a boardroom. You will observe the consistency in their behaviour, actions, and words.

Working on living a life with integrity not only develops your character and wholeness but also determines how successful you become in life. You can build your integrity through various means, such as reading, getting coached, listening to the counsel of others, going to personal and leadership development courses, and reflecting daily on what is. It is not working in all of the critical areas of life.
The more you live with integrity, the more you enrol others to be on the same journey, the more others are drawn to you, the more opportunities you attract, and the more you inspire others to be on the same route of a lifelong pursuit of ‘wholeness’ and ultimately, INTEGRITY.

With love and wisdom
Tony J. Selimi

P>S. Don’t suffer alone, during the Corona Virus lockdown and stays at home period, I work on a virtual basis with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of their business, personal and professional goals. To book a real-time Crisis Management Sessions and solve your immediate problems via Skype, providing there is a compelling fit of values and vision, please email my PA at info@tonyselimi.com for payment information and arrange your Skype session.

What thoughts go through your mind when you hear the word “coma”? Do you joke about it, or do you take it seriously? At difficult times in your life, do you find yourself asking the question why am I in this situation?

If the answer is YES, then you are ready to wake-up your truth, from living an illusion and being in a “technological coma” that is stripping you off your true identity, your freedom, happiness, and most importantly the time you have left in this world.

Truth is, for many of you, the word “coma” is associated with someone who has had some kind of accident or life-threatening illness that stops them from responding to any outside stimulus such as touch, voices, other sounds, or any sort of activity going on nearby. Some of you may even jokingly use the word “coma” to describe people who don’t pay attention, are sleeping deeply, or not fulfilling their true potential.

But the kind of “coma2 I am talking about has nothing to do with effects of a physical injury. It has to do with:

The psychological, behavioural, and habitual changes that are happening at a speed of light due to rapid social, technological, and economic advancements are forcing many of us to be glued and married to our phones, ipads, and countless applications designed to rob us off or priceless time and give us an instant dopamine fix.

Recall the last situation that you were in. Where you on a date, with a friend having dinner, in a social gathering, family event, or at an important meeting at work? Now, see if you can recall how many times did you or the people you were with checked and did some kind of activity on their phones?

Do you or did anyone you were with took the time to switch-off from technology and the associated applications that increase your cortisol levels thus inducing more stress and anxiety in your life?

Did you know that by not doing so, the message you are subconsciously sending to the other person when you constantly check your phone for facebook updates, what’s up messages and Instagram likes is that of “ I have something more important to do, I value something else, I don’t value your time, etc.” The bottom line is, the other person may come to their own conclusion that being with you is a total waste of time and you don’t truly value their time and them.

Perhaps you have a friend who on moments notice cancels that movie-date, exhibition you were looking forward to seeing, or simply catching with them over a coffee and decides to honour another engagement. If you do, then you may want to look deeper within you the reasons this person is still in your life.

Over time I have let go many people whose behaviours and values were different to mines and the kind of meaningful, trustworthy and loving relationship I love enjoying in my daily life.

The countless dopamine fix behaviours we have developed are not only destroying the social fabric of a healthy society, business success and the relationships we have built over a lifetime, but they are also fuelling the global problems that mankind is facing and is looking to solve.

Some to mention are the threat of terrorist attacks, extremism, extreme levels of poverty, unfair wealth distribution, the spread of HIV/AIDS and other infectious diseases, supply of clean water, providing universal primary, secondary, and university education, managing cultural, generational and gender differences, dealing with high divorce rates and instilling the morals and ethics in the “millennials” that may save humanity from destroying itself.

In my multi-award winning book # Loneliness, I call this new phenomenon, the virus of the modern age. If not caught, stopped, and cleaned in the now, it will continue to spread globally at uncontrollable rates infecting everyone with behaviours, beliefs, and actions that may take mankind into an irreversible trajectory of self-destruction.

This new gold rush for dopamine fix is also affecting every family, every relationship, and every business across the world. Many business leaders and CEO’s that seek my help to address various personal, leadership and people problems felt that many of their workers are asleep.

Some event felt that the “millennials” are to blame because they are a generation of entitlement, narcissist, self-focused, and lazy people. Unless this problem is addressed and alleviated in the now, many people will lose their jobs, some businesses will stop to exist, and those who survive will deploy Artificial Intelligence (AI).

Perhaps now is the time to wake-up humanity from this coma that pushes us to seek friendship in social networks with people we never met, create and buy AI pets, sex, sales, police and soldier robots to satisfy our endless needs.

Recently I gave a TEDx talk titled “Technological Armageddon: A Wake-Up Call” based from a chapter in my book #Loneliness that so far hundred thousands of people have watched and shared it across various social media channels. In a nutshell, this talk is a global call for us to remember what makes us human being and not human doings that we are more and more forced to become.

In pursuit of happiness, success, and wealth you will stumble across many challenges that will either paralyze you or inspire you to take action. Which one applies to you depends on your ability to safely navigate through an ocean of emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and injected values that you have been exposed since a very young age.

It is no secret that we live in a world that is technologically advanced, economically challenging, and mentally draining. We are consumed by fears, worries, and troubles of life that push us in various directions without us having the time to realize how much we have missed out on life.

In this dynamic way of living our lives we often forget the true power that lives within each one of us. Each human being is equipped with the ability to gain the wisdom that can turn their life’s greatest adversity into opportunities and massive breakthroughs.

On this journey to learn from some of the greatest minds of our time, I concluded that what really matters to us all is directly correlated with how happy, successful, and content we are inside.

So, to understand these three key human needs I spent the last twenty five years researching, learning, and writing about my findings. It is the many personal life challenges that put me on the path I am today, what inspired me to write two best-selling books, what lead to being endorsed by Dr John Demartini, and being interviewed by legendary Brian Tracy and Jack Canfield, the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul and The success principles.

Before you continue reading the rest of this article take a moment and answer this important question:

Why is it important for you to pursue a life that brings you the success, health and wealth that you deserve? 

Truth is anyone with a grain for grey matter understands that for us to be able to pay the ever increasing rents, soaring education and medical costs, and cope with the demands of our daily lives we need to find ways to generate wealth at times where globally the salaries and the standard of living are dropping.

In simple words, you are working more and more for less and less. This is not the life you came to live nor is the American dream you may think it is. If you look at what is happening globally, you will come to understand it is more in line with one of the worst scenes from a very scary movie.

If you are reading this you are either a curious soul, on your way to creating the success you are seeking, or created the wealth and are ready for the next steps in your journey to create an unprecedented success in all of the eight key areas of life.

Whatever your reason may be, here are the Five Vital Steps of the TJS Formula I use with thousands of clients from all sectors, markets and professions to help them create unprecedented success, achieve perfect health, and create more wealth in their life.

The same five steps are also what I used in my own personal life to become an expert in my field, travel the world, coach ealite clients, meet interesting people, resolve business problems, and internationally be known as The See-Through Coach who within five years went from zero to building a seven figure coaching, speaking and consulting business.

If you are an entrepreneur, business owner, coach, author, healer, or someone who loves to grow, then you may choose to adopt this formula to create the success, credibility, and the lifestyle you want.

Clarity + Consistency + Commitment + Credibility + Collaboration = TJS Success Formula

Success means different things to different people, whatever it may be for you, use this five step formula in your day to day life to gain the clarity you require. Become consistent in your actions that are required to enhance all of the eight key areas of life.

It is your commitment to learn, grow, and educate your mind that will lead to your credibility and for many people to want to collaborate with you. Using TJS Formula on a daily basis will help you build the credibility required to be known as the expert in your field who goes out in the world and makes a major difference.

Using TJS Success Formula consistently you too can gain the clarity required to step into your greatness, by investing in your education, professional training and personal development you will build the credibility required to build a successful lifestyle business that many of my clients have today, and through collaboration with people who are in sync with your values you too can reach new heights.

Investment in time, energy and money in my personal development is what helped me create TJS Success Formula and reach new heights I never imagined I could.

In the process I overcame many of my personal and business challenges that I share in more detail in my #1Amazon best-selling books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness to help others create the success they require, achive the balance that is neccessary to build a legacy.
One of my mentors and teachers that consistently I have been learning from is Dr John Demartini, international best-selling author who’s wisdom, guidance, and support have been paramount in helping me acknowledge my truth, free my soul, and expand my vision.

The more I learned about who I truly am, the more I became of service to ever increasing number of people, and the more people started to invite me to take an expert role on a global speaking stage.

All my life I have consistently spent 10% to 20% of my income in my personal and professional development. I also worked with some of the greatest healers around the world and attended seminars designed to help me build a global business.

I used TJS Success Formula to create my own unique IP that I share in both of my award-winning books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness. I also use it when I create partnerships with other successful individuals such as Joel and Timea Van der Molen, the owners of Vandercom, a leading telecommunication and IT service provider company, Nick Nanton from Celebrity branding, and many other world renowned figures such as Steve Harrison and Jack Canfield.

TJS Success formula is just one of the many formulas that are hidden in the twenty five principles of TJS Evolutionary Method-ALARM®.

Use the above to propel you on your journey to creating unprecedented success, heal your body mind, and increase your capacity to receive by serving more people in the world.

And if you are someone who loves to be the one percenter, is ready to accelerate their human potential, and on a mission to achieve unprecedented success and wealth then pm to book your two hour initial consultation.

Using my unique approach I have helped many people reach a flow state that helped them create The Most Amazing Life Possible.

To your joy, health, and greatness,

Tony Jeton Selimi

P.S. Even when it is cloudy the sun shines every day, so can you. Get up and shine!