It is unfortunate that only when we say goodbye to some of our best known and well-loved figures – from George Michael, Bill Paxton, Gorden Kaye, John Hurt, Tara Palmer to Carrie Fisher, Prince and David Bowie that we start to awaken to issues such as depression, suicide, and loneliness that affect almost every human being.

One of my favourite actors, Robin Williams, whose movies have inspired millions of people suffered from depression and hanged himself at the age of 63. The truth is it does not matter if you are rich and famous or poor and unknown, mental and emotionally triggered health problems if not addressed can force anyone down the path of where there is no return.

We mourn their passing and we hope they have found the peace in death that they could not find in life, but many people continue to live their life doing jobs they don’t love, remaining in relationships that suffocate them, and afraid of speaking their inner truth from the fear of being judged, criticised and rejected.

So many clients I have helped over the years have shared in their sessions with me why they tend to choose antidepressant, drugs, cigarettes and alcohol as their first choice to help them deal with stressors, pressures, and situations that cause them emotional harm.

As I take them on an inside out reflective journey, a shift to their mindset happens when they start to listen to the messages that are being communicated from their inner being through their behaviours, actions, and situations they find themselves in. Unfortunately, often people seek help when is either too late or when a physical illness takes over, instead of reaching out, they close down and drown themselves in an ocean of infinite loneliness, afraid to reach out and do something about it.

According to the facts published by the office of National Statistics the deaths suicide and other mental or emotionally triggered illnesses caused, have risen to the point that if you are a man between 20 and 49, you’re more likely to die from suicide than cancer, road accidents or heart disease.

Suicide is the number one killer and the biggest threat both men and women face. The figures are chilling, and yet still it is something companies do little about, we hardly discuss in media, in public or in our private lives— which is a significant part of the problem itself.

But the statistics are clear, so are the insights from the problems that thousands of people I have helped across the world share with me. The problem has become too big for us to ignore. The question to be asked now is not just why executives, celebrities, and young men are killing themselves in record numbers, how are they joining terrorist groups that sway them to take their own lives, but what are we all going to do about it?

The thing people always want to know is: why? It is the why that encouraged the wife of a successful senior executive working for a bank in the City of London to send me the following private fb message:

“Dear Tony, we are not friends on fb, though I have been following your work for few years now. Your personal story through loneliness, bullying, and sexual abuse that you share in #Loneliness touched my soul. I felt as if you wrote the book just for me. The reason for contacting you is to see if your integrated work can help my husband and us as a family. In the last few months, due to work pressures, my husband who is a CEO of a multinational company has been struggling with depression, anxiety, stress, and having suicidal thoughts. We have tried conventional doctors who prescribed him antidepressants, gone through various therapists, and recently a friend of ours who speaks very highly of you and your integrated work asked me to get in touch and make sure I book a consultation for my husband and myself. From your fb posts I can see you are abroad, can I please book us both on your first available appointment when you are back in UK?”

I felt inspired to write this article after spending two hours with an incredible man who has achieved so many things in life, yet deep down he felt alone, unfulfilled, scared, and afraid to look me into my eyes.

Deep down, he knew that I could see his pain and the truth he was trying so hard to hide it. It reminded me of another client, Paul McMonagle, who today openly shares with the world how two years ago the consultation he had with me stopped him from committing suicide and put him on a journey to find cure to his twenty years of living with OCD and epilepsy.

Having helped thousands of men and women overcome various mental, emotional, physical health issues as well as relationship, business, and financial challenges, I know that suicide and self-harm are not mental health problems themselves, but they are linked with mental distress, emotional pain, unmet expectations, deep rooted fears, and from not living ones authentic values and truth.

I know the effects of suicidal thoughts, this virus of the modern age, first hand. In 2009 I faced redundancy and other chained events that caused me emotional harm, distress, and a mental breakdown that lead me to contemplate suicide. Every decision I made back then was based on what others thought of me, it got me to a point where I saw no way out but to contemplate suicide, a real life story which I transparently share in my book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age.

I decided to write this article about the effects of suicide, depression, and mental health to not only raise awareness in the business, but also as a call for love to save people from all walks of life who too may currently be in a situation where they see no way out and causes them considerable emotional harm that drives them on a path that leads to what I call in my book #Loneliness, the caves of the wretched solitude.

Although there is no simple solution to reducing the number of people who take their own lives, here is Five Vital Steps from the TJS Evolutionary Method: ALARM that you may want to take to help yourself or others who may be contemplating suicide.

1. Acknowledge to yourself or to others that you can trust a sudden change in behaviour. This is the first step to take in order to help yourself or others. We are born with all that we need to be able to identify the root cause of the changes that force us to create numerous coping mechanisms for the things in our life that cause us to feel angry, depressed, and disappointed about. If online resources are not helping you, seek professional help from a Dr, therapist, coach, mentor, healer, or any other qualified person who can help you.
2. Love heals, when we feel segregated from this life force we leave ourselves prone to all sort of attacks that can affect or auric, mental, emotional and physical body. Find ways to love the unlovable that causes you most distress. I use this very same technique to help thousands of clients free themselves from depression, anger, and self-harming actions.
3. Achieve mental agility by looking to have a complete awareness of the situation that causes you to want to contemplate suicide or any other forms of self-harm. Our mind is what destroys or builds perfect health in our body. Use the 25 conscious engineering steps of TJS Method to transcend the thoughts that keep you stuck, question the beliefs and the values that are programmed from a very young age, and chose to upgrade your brains systems for living.
4. Results are your creation, taking full responsibility of your life is the first step to awakening your inner doctor, genius, and scientists that can help you re engineer your reality.
5. Miracles come to those who learn to listen to every communication that comes from their inner being. See suicidal thoughts as your wakeup call that puts you on a journey to align your values, beliefs, behaviours and daily actions with the dreams they are called to pursue.

Finally, here is a quote I created to be a soothing balm for all of you who may be going through struggle, adversity, and may feel at times hopeless, alone, depressed and suicidal that you can use as a tool to help yourself or those in need.

“Careless words may kindle strife, but gracious words give hope, heal and save a life.”

Get involved by commenting and sharing which one of these vital principles resonates most with you or someone you may know that could benefit from this article.  Feel free to invite others to engage in a life changing dialogue that as the quote above says can give hope, heal and save a life.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

To learn more about what my integrated work can do for you, your company, book me to inspire your audience or have a private consultation please click HERE to send me an e-mail.

Many of you reading this article may know my story…

In 27 years I went from living homeless on the streets of London feeling depressed, anxious, lost, lonely, and rejected to climbing the corporate ladder, running multimillion/billion IT programs, being made redundant, and becoming successful entrepreneur, coach, author, and speaker who grew his business so dramatically it’s still hard to believe sometimes.

I went from serving a small number of private clients to serving a network of change makers, writing two books that became No:1 Amazon best sellers, and recently featuring in a ground breaking real life coaching documentary titled Living My Illusion. With my books, speaking, TV and Radio interviews as well as through this documentary I am now reaching out to people from almost every country on earth. Isn’t that incredible?

Three things that made the biggest difference…

Becoming a Key Person of Influence, creating Joint Ventures (JV), and consistently create products and services that resolve meaningful problems for people and business owners.

That’s why I’m so enthusiastic about recommending this strategy and spiritual intelligence path for you.

And it’s why I’m so enthusiastic about encouraging you to invest in you, as it is this investment in me that led to creating and attracting opportunities the results that I now enjoy having in my life.

As far as I know, TJS Evolutionary Method® is the most highly effective and comprehensive method that you can use to maximise your human potential, become a magnet for opportunites, and create JV that bring into existence your unique product and service.

No matter what niche you serve, you’ll find that building spiritual intelligence not only will help you remain balanced in all of the key areas of life, but also it will draw to you your ideal partners you wish to connect, collaborate, and co-create.

It is my twenty-seven years of overcoming life’s greatest adversity, learning from some of the best spiritual teachers, and consistently thrive to learn more that brought to fruition the two books that opened up the doors to many JV’s. The one I love most is with the founders of Vandercom, a telecommunication and IT service provider company, who invested in co-creating Living My Illusion Documentary Series.

The kind of spiritual intelligence that my clients gain through reading my books, working with me privately on one to one and one to many basis is not the one where you escape to silent retreats, take ayahuasca, or other drugs that make you hallucinate, it is one that helps you activate your most precious asset-YOU.

Here are three things you can do to help you attract what you want in your life by investing in you spiritual intelligence journey:

1. Stay away from any form of drugs. You have all the faculties required for you to create spiritual experiences naturally with no side effects. Whilst shortcuts may be very tempting, it also can create ireversible brain damage that I have seen in many people who use drugs as ways to grow spiritually.
2. Daily adopt one action that activates your ability to love. Gratitude is one of the many keys that opens your heart’s wisdom. Use it daily to be grateful for the things you have and don’t have in your life. Most people use gratitude for the things they have, in my experience to embrace the wholeness of life and be in sync with the laws of nature, it is essential to say thank you and I love you to both, the things we have and the things we don’t.
3. Create win-win joint ventures with people who believe in you, in your work, vision, and prefereably are already your clients who are doing your work. It is this that helped me create trustworthy joint ventures and partnerships with many of my clients from various sectors, markets, and industries.

To accelerate your results and successfully use these three points shared, hire a coach or a mentor who can help you get to where you want to be and with whom you wish to do JV’s.

As my vision expanded to reach one billion people, I hired a mentor who already is doing that and I partnered up with many people who love what I do. In doing so you not only going to open the doors to new opportunities and partnerships, but also meet amazing people through their network of clients.

I introduce all of my elite coaching clients to one another, because they are all growing inside out, they tend to get along extremly well as they share common values and end up forging great JV’s with one another. I also love to take them with me to amazing places to expose them to various learning environments where they can practice the effectiveness of the twenty-five conscious engineering steps of the TJS Evolutionary Method®, meet new people, and use spiritual intelligence to grow their business and enrich their lives.

If you want to be part of something bigger, then reach out to people, connect with them, and keep learning and investing in you. To get the same transformation my clients have when they started their journey with me, create joint ventures with inspired thought leaders, and evolve your soul, I invite you to book a private consultation with me and see what I can do to help you grow every area of your life and create JV that bring mutual growth, success, and connection.

My yearly coaching programms are customised to help you gain spiritual intelligence, life and business skills, and the wisdom required to build a gobal business and JV’s that help you reach as many people as possible with your important work.

To start your journey, please do get in touch with Alma by e-mailing  info@tonyselimi.com to learn how to activate your human potential, attract the perfect clients for you, and create the dream life that I now live and you deep down you know you deserve.