What thoughts go through your mind when you hear the word “coma”? Do you joke about it, or do you take it seriously? At difficult times in your life, do you find yourself asking the question why am I in this situation?

If the answer is YES, then you are ready to wake-up your truth, from living an illusion and being in a “technological coma” that is stripping you off your true identity, your freedom, happiness, and most importantly the time you have left in this world.

Truth is, for many of you, the word “coma” is associated with someone who has had some kind of accident or life-threatening illness that stops them from responding to any outside stimulus such as touch, voices, other sounds, or any sort of activity going on nearby. Some of you may even jokingly use the word “coma” to describe people who don’t pay attention, are sleeping deeply, or not fulfilling their true potential.

But the kind of “coma2 I am talking about has nothing to do with effects of a physical injury. It has to do with:

The psychological, behavioural, and habitual changes that are happening at a speed of light due to rapid social, technological, and economic advancements are forcing many of us to be glued and married to our phones, ipads, and countless applications designed to rob us off or priceless time and give us an instant dopamine fix.

Recall the last situation that you were in. Where you on a date, with a friend having dinner, in a social gathering, family event, or at an important meeting at work? Now, see if you can recall how many times did you or the people you were with checked and did some kind of activity on their phones?

Do you or did anyone you were with took the time to switch-off from technology and the associated applications that increase your cortisol levels thus inducing more stress and anxiety in your life?

Did you know that by not doing so, the message you are subconsciously sending to the other person when you constantly check your phone for facebook updates, what’s up messages and Instagram likes is that of “ I have something more important to do, I value something else, I don’t value your time, etc.” The bottom line is, the other person may come to their own conclusion that being with you is a total waste of time and you don’t truly value their time and them.

Perhaps you have a friend who on moments notice cancels that movie-date, exhibition you were looking forward to seeing, or simply catching with them over a coffee and decides to honour another engagement. If you do, then you may want to look deeper within you the reasons this person is still in your life.

Over time I have let go many people whose behaviours and values were different to mines and the kind of meaningful, trustworthy and loving relationship I love enjoying in my daily life.

The countless dopamine fix behaviours we have developed are not only destroying the social fabric of a healthy society, business success and the relationships we have built over a lifetime, but they are also fuelling the global problems that mankind is facing and is looking to solve.

Some to mention are the threat of terrorist attacks, extremism, extreme levels of poverty, unfair wealth distribution, the spread of HIV/AIDS and other infectious diseases, supply of clean water, providing universal primary, secondary, and university education, managing cultural, generational and gender differences, dealing with high divorce rates and instilling the morals and ethics in the “millennials” that may save humanity from destroying itself.

In my multi-award winning book # Loneliness, I call this new phenomenon, the virus of the modern age. If not caught, stopped, and cleaned in the now, it will continue to spread globally at uncontrollable rates infecting everyone with behaviours, beliefs, and actions that may take mankind into an irreversible trajectory of self-destruction.

This new gold rush for dopamine fix is also affecting every family, every relationship, and every business across the world. Many business leaders and CEO’s that seek my help to address various personal, leadership and people problems felt that many of their workers are asleep.

Some event felt that the “millennials” are to blame because they are a generation of entitlement, narcissist, self-focused, and lazy people. Unless this problem is addressed and alleviated in the now, many people will lose their jobs, some businesses will stop to exist, and those who survive will deploy Artificial Intelligence (AI).

Perhaps now is the time to wake-up humanity from this coma that pushes us to seek friendship in social networks with people we never met, create and buy AI pets, sex, sales, police and soldier robots to satisfy our endless needs.

Recently I gave a TEDx talk titled “Technological Armageddon: A Wake-Up Call” based from a chapter in my book #Loneliness that so far hundred thousands of people have watched and shared it across various social media channels. In a nutshell, this talk is a global call for us to remember what makes us human being and not human doings that we are more and more forced to become.

It is unfortunate that only when we say goodbye to some of our best known and well-loved figures – from George Michael, Bill Paxton, Gorden Kaye, John Hurt, Tara Palmer to Carrie Fisher, Prince and David Bowie that we start to awaken to issues such as depression, suicide, and loneliness that affect almost every human being.

One of my favourite actors, Robin Williams, whose movies have inspired millions of people suffered from depression and hanged himself at the age of 63. The truth is it does not matter if you are rich and famous or poor and unknown, mental and emotionally triggered health problems if not addressed can force anyone down the path of where there is no return.

We mourn their passing and we hope they have found the peace in death that they could not find in life, but many people continue to live their life doing jobs they don’t love, remaining in relationships that suffocate them, and afraid of speaking their inner truth from the fear of being judged, criticised and rejected.

So many clients I have helped over the years have shared in their sessions with me why they tend to choose antidepressant, drugs, cigarettes and alcohol as their first choice to help them deal with stressors, pressures, and situations that cause them emotional harm.

As I take them on an inside out reflective journey, a shift to their mindset happens when they start to listen to the messages that are being communicated from their inner being through their behaviours, actions, and situations they find themselves in. Unfortunately, often people seek help when is either too late or when a physical illness takes over, instead of reaching out, they close down and drown themselves in an ocean of infinite loneliness, afraid to reach out and do something about it.

According to the facts published by the office of National Statistics the deaths suicide and other mental or emotionally triggered illnesses caused, have risen to the point that if you are a man between 20 and 49, you’re more likely to die from suicide than cancer, road accidents or heart disease.

Suicide is the number one killer and the biggest threat both men and women face. The figures are chilling, and yet still it is something companies do little about, we hardly discuss in media, in public or in our private lives— which is a significant part of the problem itself.

But the statistics are clear, so are the insights from the problems that thousands of people I have helped across the world share with me. The problem has become too big for us to ignore. The question to be asked now is not just why executives, celebrities, and young men are killing themselves in record numbers, how are they joining terrorist groups that sway them to take their own lives, but what are we all going to do about it?

The thing people always want to know is: why? It is the why that encouraged the wife of a successful senior executive working for a bank in the City of London to send me the following private fb message:

“Dear Tony, we are not friends on fb, though I have been following your work for few years now. Your personal story through loneliness, bullying, and sexual abuse that you share in #Loneliness touched my soul. I felt as if you wrote the book just for me. The reason for contacting you is to see if your integrated work can help my husband and us as a family. In the last few months, due to work pressures, my husband who is a CEO of a multinational company has been struggling with depression, anxiety, stress, and having suicidal thoughts. We have tried conventional doctors who prescribed him antidepressants, gone through various therapists, and recently a friend of ours who speaks very highly of you and your integrated work asked me to get in touch and make sure I book a consultation for my husband and myself. From your fb posts I can see you are abroad, can I please book us both on your first available appointment when you are back in UK?”

I felt inspired to write this article after spending two hours with an incredible man who has achieved so many things in life, yet deep down he felt alone, unfulfilled, scared, and afraid to look me into my eyes.

Deep down, he knew that I could see his pain and the truth he was trying so hard to hide it. It reminded me of another client, Paul McMonagle, who today openly shares with the world how two years ago the consultation he had with me stopped him from committing suicide and put him on a journey to find cure to his twenty years of living with OCD and epilepsy.

Having helped thousands of men and women overcome various mental, emotional, physical health issues as well as relationship, business, and financial challenges, I know that suicide and self-harm are not mental health problems themselves, but they are linked with mental distress, emotional pain, unmet expectations, deep rooted fears, and from not living ones authentic values and truth.

I know the effects of suicidal thoughts, this virus of the modern age, first hand. In 2009 I faced redundancy and other chained events that caused me emotional harm, distress, and a mental breakdown that lead me to contemplate suicide. Every decision I made back then was based on what others thought of me, it got me to a point where I saw no way out but to contemplate suicide, a real life story which I transparently share in my book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age.

I decided to write this article about the effects of suicide, depression, and mental health to not only raise awareness in the business, but also as a call for love to save people from all walks of life who too may currently be in a situation where they see no way out and causes them considerable emotional harm that drives them on a path that leads to what I call in my book #Loneliness, the caves of the wretched solitude.

Although there is no simple solution to reducing the number of people who take their own lives, here is Five Vital Steps from the TJS Evolutionary Method: ALARM that you may want to take to help yourself or others who may be contemplating suicide.

1. Acknowledge to yourself or to others that you can trust a sudden change in behaviour. This is the first step to take in order to help yourself or others. We are born with all that we need to be able to identify the root cause of the changes that force us to create numerous coping mechanisms for the things in our life that cause us to feel angry, depressed, and disappointed about. If online resources are not helping you, seek professional help from a Dr, therapist, coach, mentor, healer, or any other qualified person who can help you.
2. Love heals, when we feel segregated from this life force we leave ourselves prone to all sort of attacks that can affect or auric, mental, emotional and physical body. Find ways to love the unlovable that causes you most distress. I use this very same technique to help thousands of clients free themselves from depression, anger, and self-harming actions.
3. Achieve mental agility by looking to have a complete awareness of the situation that causes you to want to contemplate suicide or any other forms of self-harm. Our mind is what destroys or builds perfect health in our body. Use the 25 conscious engineering steps of TJS Method to transcend the thoughts that keep you stuck, question the beliefs and the values that are programmed from a very young age, and chose to upgrade your brains systems for living.
4. Results are your creation, taking full responsibility of your life is the first step to awakening your inner doctor, genius, and scientists that can help you re engineer your reality.
5. Miracles come to those who learn to listen to every communication that comes from their inner being. See suicidal thoughts as your wakeup call that puts you on a journey to align your values, beliefs, behaviours and daily actions with the dreams they are called to pursue.

Finally, here is a quote I created to be a soothing balm for all of you who may be going through struggle, adversity, and may feel at times hopeless, alone, depressed and suicidal that you can use as a tool to help yourself or those in need.

“Careless words may kindle strife, but gracious words give hope, heal and save a life.”

Get involved by commenting and sharing which one of these vital principles resonates most with you or someone you may know that could benefit from this article.  Feel free to invite others to engage in a life changing dialogue that as the quote above says can give hope, heal and save a life.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

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If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

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