With January saying goodbye, here comes February, a month that people around the world associate with love, romance, candlelight, flowers and the sound of sweet nothings. We even have a day dedicated to celebrating all the love in our lives – Valentine’s Day.

So where it all did started?

Valentine’s Day has its roots in an ancient (and rather risqué) Roman tradition called Lupercalia where  annually on February 15, young men stripped to their birthday suits and ran around spanking young maidens (gently) in order to boost their fertility.

You heard it right, these pagan antics remained wildly popular even after Constantine declared Christianity the official religion of the Roman Empire. Later, Lupercalia was absorbed into Christian tradition, transforming into Saint Valentine, the wayward saint who performed illegal marriages under the Roman Emperor Claudias II. For his digression, Saint Valentine was executed on February 14, and today, sweethearts around the world commemorate Saint Valentine on this day.

What people are doing on this day vary from country to country for instance lovers in the United States go all out in displaying their fondness for each other: Every year, Americans spend on average a sweet 20 billion dollars on chocolates, dinners, flowers and jewellery.

In South Korea the tradition is for men to be pampered on Valentine’s Day, women buy chocolates for their male partners, family members and co-workers as a token of affection and appreciation.

And for us in the UK, many of us get seriously romantic on Valentine’s Day, arranging candle light dinner dates, exchanging gifts, and buying flowers, chocolates and expensive jewellery.

For anyone who is single, Finland seems the place to be. You don’t have to worry about feeling left out of the festivities because in this country it’s all about celebrating with your friends. The day is even called ‘Friend’s Day’ in Finnish, not Valentine’s. The official flower is the pink rose, but mates are happy to receive gifts, cards or candy, too.

Although receiving the above mentioned gifts are a nice gesture, here are three Free Valentine gifts that most couples and single people desire:

1. The gift of Love.

Love is the exquisite healer present in all of us, it is the spark that ignites the light in us all, and it is the energy that transforms any emotional baggage we have continued to carry, our outdated and outmoded perspectives, and any other attachment that keeps us bound to the past into seeds for meaningful living.

When our heart is awakened, the light it radiates transmutes any dark negative energy we haves stored within us into powerful life changing lessons that unleash the true power of the infinite wisdom of love. Make the choice to say “yes!” to love yourself as you are, another person, place, condition or experience, to accepting love to guide and fill your life with infinite joy.

2. The Gift of Gratitude

No situation in life is beyond the act of gratitude. Many people hold on to their past traumas, fears, and pain, this way of being not only is damaging for your body-mind, but it is also the biggest lock you can put to your loving heart. Your heart’s compassion and its ability to love the unlovable is the greatest treasure you carry with you. You have the power to attract all that which you desire, open up closed doors, and mend broken relationships.

Whether you are single or not, chose this Valentine to be grateful, to say with a grateful heart“ I Love you and thank you” to anyone who may have harmed you, to dates that went wrong, and to partners that have left you to pursue their hearts desires.

If you are going on a date, be grateful that you have one, that you are alive and have this opportunity to express your highest expression of yourself.

3. The Gift of Honesty

For many of us, speaking our truth is one of the hardest hurdle to overcome. No one wants to go on a date with someone who lies, frankly, even if that person is you, your inner being does not like when you exaggerate, lie, or hold back your truth.

If you are on a date because you feel alone, say so, the other person will much prefer to listen to your honest self than the one who likes to disguise the loneliness you may feel inside. If you are on a Valentines date because you want one off sexual encounter with someone you have been dreaming about, communicate that openly and with confidence. We are all animal in our nature, sex is a greatest expression of who we are and of our love. And if you are in a long term relationship, then make sure you give your loved ones the gift of truth no matter what that may be for you.

In my professional career I have coached hundreds of couples on various relationship issues, one of the most common threads that lead to relationship breakdown is the illusion of what love is and it is not, not being grateful to your partner, and concealing the truth.

People often assume that love I support without challenge, that they need to be grateful only on the good things that their partner is doing, and do not want to speak their truth from the fear of hurting the other person. This is an unfortunate reasoning process. When we behave this way we increase the negative energy in the relationship, we forget about the person we fell in love with, and start to fill our now moment with this destructive energy and create a future moment with a similar type of damaging energy.

Few months ago I released my latest book called #Loneliness, it explores the fierce scientific, psychological and spiritual impact of loneliness in every layer of our society-in business, society, education, healthcare, elderly, family, relationship and in ourselves– a problem that has become an ironic epidemic in a world that is more interconnected than ever before.

Don’t forget to download your FREE chapter to help you feel more connected, learn how to embrace both challenge and support in your life, and create a love infused conscious relationship with yourself, your partner, family, friends, clients, and everyone you encounter in your daily life.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, decide this Valentine to apply the above three birth given Gifts and make someone’s Valentine a day their heart will always remember.

May you have love, gratitude, and truth infused Valentine.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. If you are ready to attract the right person and do not know how or are in a relationship that is challenging but do not what to do then book a two hour clarity coaching consultation and find out the root cause of your relationship issues, what prevents you from being in a love infused conscious relationship, and what you can do to have an epic 2017, accelerate your personal, professional and business growth.

If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. Check out the events calendar to attend any of my talks and seminars in 2017. Get in touch to help you inspire your audience, book a consultation, or learn more about my work. You start reading, learning and growing by daily taking ACTION!