What would change in your life if you acknowledged that you are the author of your own story and can create your future? Maybe you’ll grow an award-winning book, open a coaching business, or possibly be the partner, the leader, the successful individual you always wanted to be. Or perhaps you’ll never step outside your comfort zone, and that’s okay. You’re making a difference either way.

It’s scary to put yourself out there and be successful. This was me in 2009 when I faced one of my many worst fears – the fear of being successful. Back then, having been made redundant from a job I loved, my prospects of finding a new job were weak. The pressure to fulfil all of my financial commitments kept building. Everything around me kept telling me how much I was worth, that there were not enough senior technology jobs, and I had to lower my salary expectations if I wanted to find another job.

But deep down, I knew my worth, what I was capable of achieving, and by then, I had worked with many famous and successful coaches, trainers, and healers who helped me unleash my worth and stand in my authentic power.

Before I share some of the actions you can take to accelerate your success, here are some questions you may want to ponder with:

Do you ever feel like you could be more successful? Have there been times when you are not being appreciated for the value you bring into other people’s lives? Do you find yourself wondering about your most significant success limitations in life? Are you even aware of what kind of success you can achieve?

Suppose you are constantly making excuses, procrastinating, and judging others for the success they create in their personal, relational, social, spiritual, career, business or financial life. In that case, you are most likely reading my weekly newsletter because you want to be successful and grow to your fullest potential in all critical areas of life.

No matter what major challenge you are currently facing on your journey to success, underlying emotional issues stop you from being successful in your chosen field or area of life.

Everybody gets twenty-four hours per day…no more, no less…

Through my personal and client’s journey to success, I discovered that it matters not how much money you have or don’t have,  how educated you are, and your social position. How effectively you use the twenty-four hours a day, we all get matters.

Until maybe one day we invent a back to the future time machine; for now, it is wise to acknowledge that you can’t buy, beg, borrow or steal another one second, minute, hour, day, week, month, or a year.

What you do with those twenty-four hours is entirely up to you; of course, there will be those you love that consume some of that time. We all have obligations that must be met each day. We have jobs or businesses that provide us with the necessary income; a certain amount of time is required for sleeping, eating, socialising, reading, shopping, and fulfilling our relationship commitments.  However, what many of you may not stop and think about is how the entire.
Twenty-four are not all spoken for. How there are the few hours each day that you can use
As you want to use them. What you decide to do with them will primarily determine how successful or unsuccessful you will be in life.

Suppose you are someone who spends all of our “unspoken for hours” on social media, going out drinking, on the couch in front of the TV eating chips and drinking beer, coke, etc., in three years. In that case, you will still be doing the same tedious job, be in the same unfulfilled relationship, and give yourself or others excuses for why you weren’t the success you thought you could be.

For instance, some of those free hours if be used to learn how to grow your worth, build a business, be more financially astute, do new things or try different things, which could mean that in a short amount of time, you would have better chances for a more rewarding job, attract a better relationship, be healthier, or even turn to a successful entrepreneur that makes a difference by doing what you love.

That seems like a good idea, but where does one begin? What if success is about you being truly clear on what matters most to you?

This question that I answered back in 2012 helped me write many multi-award winning and bestselling books, appear on over 800 TV/Radio/Podcast shows, give a TEDx talk, speak around the world, and build a successful global lifestyle speaking, coaching and training business. My basic premise is to assist individuals from all professions, entrepreneurs, and executives to create mental, emotional, physical, social, relational, spiritual, financial, business and career breakthroughs to become more purposeful, successful, and thrive in every area of life.

My focus has been to be the coaching partner that helps you become successful while ensuring you quench your thirst for wellbeing, purpose, fulfilment and adventure.

If you’re not growing in all areas of life, you’re not thriving.

I just came back from Gran Canaries, where I spent five days coaching and training a client who reached out and booked my Vital Planning for Elevated Living Business and Life Mastery advanced learning and training program to assist him in living his life in more alignment with his authentic values, pursuing his ambitions and taking care of his emotional, mental and physical health. At the end of this learning and unlearning experience, my client shared how I’ve become the place and why many people and business owners like him turn to me when they need extra support or guidance.

I felt thrilled! When I first launched this unique learning experience in 2008, I had no idea of the breakthroughs and the success they would create for my client. I just knew that if my clients couldn’t find what they needed, my integrated life and business coaching advanced training would take them on an inside out self-mastery journey that focuses all of their mental and emotional faculties to help them excel and grow in business, life and career, so they succeed more quickly and thrive.

Over the years, I have helped I can teach you how to make sure that every goal across all areas of your life is CLEARER, SMARTER, and PURPOSEFUL. It is what makes you more effective and more inspired!

So, here are the three actions you can take right now:

1. Write down why success is essential for you.
2. Answer what success looks like for you.
3. Set CLEARER, SMARTER, and PURPOSEFUL goals and set aside a certain amount of hours each week to work on your plan and stick to it.

It is wise to identify what you can do yourself and what is it you need to ask for help; sometimes, you might get it for free, but if you want to get far in life, my recommendation is to pay for it and get a professional coach or mentor that can be the torch that shines a light on your path to success.

If you try to re-invent the wheel, you are just wasting that valuable resource, time. One thing to keep in mind, there’s a big difference between telling yourself that you are spending money when hiring a coach and investing money in your growth. Any time you spend some money learning something that will take you closer to what you want, that’s an investment that will pay dividends for life!

Success will come much faster when you don’t waste your time trying to do it all independently.

You’ve just read about Three Actions That Accelerate Your Success. Now it’s time to take the next step and get started on your path to creating the success you dream about daily. It’s time to expand your awareness of what’s possible beyond your perceived limits, evolve your business, career, and purpose, and become the successful individual, partner, and leader you know you can be.

There’s no reason you can’t grow into your fullest potential, have a successful co-loving relationship, be a successful individual, business owner, or leader, or attract the success you deep down want. I love sharing and teaching how to get the results and where you want to be by becoming more confident, booming, credible and capable of purposefully transforming in every area of your personal, relational, social, professional, financial and business life.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Live and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, and The Unfakeable Code®.

PS – To consciously create the success you want, get in touch with me today! As your coaching partner, it will be an honour to work on addressing the issues that cause you headaches, pain, and frustrations and get you the clarity, the tools, and the plan that begins to put you on a path to success, grow you and your employees into the best purpose-driven leader possible. You’ll learn practical ways and skills to help you turn your fears into fuel for growth. You can inspire your employees and elevate them above their peers at competing companies while inspiring yourself as a leader.

I work on a virtual basis and in-person with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of personal, professional, and business goals. Here are four ways I can assist you in creating life-changing breakthroughs, growth, and accelerating your journey to excellent health, influence, transformational leadership and success.

#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an email to info@tonyselimi.com.

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of my happy students.

#3 … Make the fastest progress by hiring me to work with you on your business to train and grow your teams. Just reply to this message and put “private” in the subject line. Let me know a little about you or your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you the quote, invoice, and the necessary booking details.

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More than ever the world needs emotionally intelligent, humanity focused, and heart awakened women leaders that play an important role in the evolution of human consciousness and in the direction the world we all share is taking.

With Brexit, Syrian refugee crisis, and the rise of unprecedented extremism, nationalism, fascism, phobias, antisemitism, islamophobia, etc, it is essential to have conscious women leaders who like James Bond, can overcome the toughest challenges presented to them and from the ashes rise triumphantly like a phoenix.

Many of us grew up with super heroes like James Bond, Captain America, Jean Luke Pickard, Superman, Wonder woman, Madonna, Lady Gaga, and Oprah being our hero’s that we aspire to become.

The time has come for us all to do our part and awaken the hero within, to take action, be engaged, and have our say in the global crisis that in one form or another impacts every human being.

I grew up in the ghettos of a small town called Gostivar in western Macedonia at times where daily I saw women being abused, judged, and had very little human rights. As I started to travel around the world, I realized, just like my mother, sisters, cousins, and other women I knew back at home, millions of women continue to be treated badly.

As a kid, I knew I was different, I felt the pain, the judgment, and the loneliness and the abuse that my mother and other women endured. Ever since I wanted to do something about it, this feeling to help women globally followed me through my entire life, and it is what also inspired me to be who I am today and in my latest book write about a global problem we all share-loneliness.

In my latest book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age, I share about the extraordinary work that mother Theresa did around the world. I also share what is at the source of the chaos, the storms, and the segregation we experience worldwide in an era that is technologically advanced yet makes us extremly lonely in our hearts.

To address the global problems such as famine, inequality, job losses, war, climate change, sustainability, etc, I believe more conscious women are required in order for humanity to find the solutions to the global problems that are on the rise.

Women have an important role in building a more just, equal, and harmonious society, and in directing the course of the planet we all live, share, and call home.

My mother, together with my dad, fought for educating, empowering, and supporting my sisters to be free of religious and political dogmas that imprisoned women, treated them as non-equals, and enslaved them. Today, I continue to support their mission by carry this torch of light that my parent ignited in me.

Through my day to day coaching, healing, consulting, and speaking engagements I assist many amazing women from all professions and background to step up into their true power, their hearts intelligence, and assist them create, build, and grow iconic businesses, products, and most of all an inner wisdom required to be conscious, healthy and wealthy leaders.

As openly gay man, I know from first-hand experience what it feels like to be different, to not fit the box that someone else created for you, and to not conform to societal expectations.

Millions of women around the world still continue to endure mental, physical, emotional and sexual abuse. If we are to change the course of the future that we all want, then we all need to do our part in assisting women grow into beautiful goddesses who with their wings of love, compassion, and understanding can embrace the darkness experienced globally and turn it into light that shine’s humanity’s path to a better future.

If you have read #Loneliness, you will know how throughout my life I, you, and many people who I have met on my path at some point in our lives we all felt the pain of being rejected, abandoned, and alone in a world where we come to express our true magnificent being that is infinite in our abilites to create and destroy life.

Throughout my life, starting from my mum, sisters, friends, work colleagues, teachers, healers, and many amazing women who crossed my path, they have helped on my journey to better myself and become who I am today.

Some of them are being nominated for the “Global Woman of the Year Award 2017” organised by Mirela Sula who founded Migrant and Global Women with a mission which aims to address the following questions:

• How can women come together and become leaders in building and empowering their communities.

• How can men help in building a new paradigm for women as an equal and influential force in society.

• How can we bring together the most successful leaders from around the globe and redefine the pathways to power and diversity in businesses and communities.

Mirela, with her mission and the vision for Global Woman is the James Bond of our modern time. She is the wonderwoman who helps women globally step into their true power.

As a supporter of women, Todor and I are joining Mirela and many amazing women for this once a year event that honours the extraordinary work women do at the Global Women Magazine grand gala dinner on the 25th March 2017 where they will present the awards for the best cover stories and the ultimate “Global Women of the Year”.

Reading this article you know that you are an agent for change, love, peace, and equality. Make sure you take this opportunity and once a eyar chance to show your support and meet some extraordinary women in a relaxed, fun, and celebratory environment.

I understand only a number of tickets are available, grab yours asap by clicking HERE!

As a thank you for supporting women, all of you who have read this article, sign up to my news letter, shared it and bought a ticket to attend this celebratory event get in touch with my PA Alma at info@tonyselimi.com to receive a Voucher to download a FREE copy of my five times Award-winning Audio Book of #Loneliness worth $35!

Love and Wisdom,

P.S.

If you are ready to step into your true power and become a successful, inspired, and conscious leader, then get in touch to book a two hour clarity coaching consultation and find out what I and the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use daily to help 6-9 figure business owners resolve problems and create quantum jumps can do for you so that you have an epic 2017 and beyond by learning to accelerate your personal, professional and business growth.

If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. Check out the events calendar to attend any of my talks and seminars in 2017. Get in touch to help you inspire your audience, book a consultation, or learn more about my work. You start reading, learning and growing by daily taking ACTION!

No matter how each one of us feels, no matter what we do or not do, the truth is every time we look up, we see the sun, the moon, the sky, and an infinite universe filled with stars that at night come alive and shine their light equally on us all. What could be possible if each one of us comes out of our cocoon and just like stars, every day we shine our love and light? What would change in your life if right now you decided to make a Dent in the universe?

What if, just like I did, you too can find a way to activate your inner genius, become focused, and connect with the right people that can help you on your journey. I trust what you are about to read is going to inspire you into action so that you reach for your star, create a clear vision, and take the steps required to help you deliver your highest vision and make a dent in the universe.

So how did a homeless man who twenty-six years ago fled the atrocities of civil war, could not speak English, had no money, no family or friends to turn too ended up on a British Airways Business Class to San Diego, staying at Hard Rock Hotel in a King Suite room, being interviewed by legendary Brian Tracey, connect with Nick Nanton from Celebrity Branding You, and appear on ABC, NBC, Fox, and CBS discussing about my work, award-winning books, and real life coaching documentaries created in partnership with the founders of Vandercom, Joel Van der Molen and Timea Van der Molen. Some of you may be wondering how did I go about creating a concourse of wisdom which is helping people access, activate, and accelerate their human and business potential.

Others may be thinking how did I attract clients from all professions, sectors, and markets including Dr Emanuele Garbelli with whom we are on a mission to transform healthcare globally, Philip Carvil, a space physiology scientist on a mission to create product and services for safe travel to space, and Paul McMonagle on a mission to help people globally heal their OCD and support them on their journey to perfect health? Pretty impressive, wouldn’t you agree?

For many people what I just shared sounds mission impossible, but for me, like a phoenix, I chose to rise triumphantly from the ashes of my misery, loneliness, and emotional pain and become Human Behaviour expert known internationally as The See-Through Coach who loves inspiring others find solutions to global problems that mankind is facing now and in the not far distant future.

Looking back at my life, I now see with clarity how the pain, the adversities, and the isolation I experienced were what shaped me to daily strive to become a better person, to help others heal, and on this path to learn how both pain and pleasure in equal measure were what helped me focus, create and deliver a vision that is now making a Dent in the universe.

In 2009, my life took a very different turn, without much of a warning I was subjected to corporate backstabbing games that led me feeling stressed, emotionally weak, and destabilised my entire life. I was surprised to learn that I was far from alone on this journey; it seems that many people up and down the country faced redundancy and unfair dismissals that triggered various fears, mental and emotional health related issues, as well as stress-related problems in their personal, professional, and business life.

I started to isolate myself by avoiding seeing friends and family because I didn’t want them to know; I was ashamed, fearful, and became insecure of my worth I knew I had inside. Luckily, I am not one to dwell in this kind of state. I quickly began searching for solutions, I spent a great deal of time evaluating different online programs, I bought The Sylva Method, Hands of Light, Sedona Method, and started to attend talks, seminars and hired few healers and coaches to help me get out of this state.

Each time I passed through Piccadilly, Leicester-square, and Charing Cross Road I found myself in Waterstones, Watkins Spiritual bookshop, and Foyles. I bought and started to read two to four books a week. All of this helped a little, but I was still a long way from that light at the end of the tunnel. If losing the job I loved wasn’t bad enough, I also experienced a major breakdown and had identity crisis that lead me to give power to the voices of my injected values, beliefs, and the unmet expectations of others. Over the months that followed, I studied Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and became qualified Transformational Life Coach.

I then signed up to attend a nine-month entrepreneurial program called “How to become a Key Person of Influence (KPI).” During these nine months, I met so many entrepreneurs on a similar journey to me. I focused my time, energy and money to work with a coach, attend Dr John Demartini’s talks and seminars, and learn how to apply to my business the five simple steps of the KPI Method that Daniel Priestly, the founder of KPI, uses to help entrepreneurs become a key person of influence.

During this nine-month program I learned how to perfect my pitch, create coaching products full of value, built an international profile, create TJS Evolutionary Method, publish my unique IP, and partner up with others to take this unique work ad make a Dent in the universe by reaching, educating, healing, and touching the hearts of one billion people.

Within months of publishing my book A Path to Wisdom, it reached Amazon Number One Best-selling list in Personal Development Category ahead of many global teachers like Louise Hay, Anthony Robbins, and many other respected figures in the personal, professional, business and spiritual development industry. I just kept re-investing everything I was earning from my coaching clients, healing sessions, and business consulting in my personal, professional, and business development. Working with Dr John Demartini helped me clarify my vision, mission, and purpose and be paid my worth.

The more integrated I became inside, the more I started to attract the right clients, opportunities and partnerships to help me deliver the fruits that many of my clients were experiencing to a global audience. The more clients I coached, the more I activated my inner genius and the bigger my vision became. Supporting so many clients resolve their personal, professional and business problems as well as from personal experience I felt called to write about loneliness. A global problem that is not going away, but instead it is increasing exponentially through the power of the internet and social media.

The desire to help people breakthrough their loneliness, find solutions to their mental, physical, emotional related health problems as well as relationship, business, financial and self-love issues, is what inspired me to focus my time, energy, and money to create a powerful five-step method that when applied daily it helps them find the switch that activates their inner light, healing power and infinite wisdom of love. so that they can live more fulfilling, connected, and purposeful lives

We are so connected technologically, yet feel very alone in our hearts, this is a growing problem, we are symbiotic by design, our survival depends on our connection and collaboration with each other. Knowing this I started to think about a solution to the segregation we experience worldwide that people can use daily to live more fulfilling, connected, and purposeful lives. It is this dream to connect people in ways

It is this dream to connect people in ways that help them create heart, mind and soul coherence that inspired me to write another book. It is this thirst for being of service to humanity that gave birth to another international award-winning book#Loneliness – The Virus of The Modern Age. I spend six months researching the subject of loneliness.

I learnt how loneliness impacts our genes, weakens our immune system, and is the root cause of the separation we experience globally. Using my trademarked methodology in human development, the TJS Evolutionary Method® (TJS Method) alongside TJS Meditation Solutions, the TJS Value Alignment, as well as Vital Planning for Elevated Living Five Day Seminar to help more clients achieve results I started to attract better clients and far greater opportunities that I ever thought possible.

It is this vision to create life manual to reach, educate, and inspire one billion people to live more fulfilling, connected, and purposeful lives that gave birth to my next book #Loneliness – The Virus of The Modern Age. I spent six months researching the subject of loneliness. I learnt how loneliness impacts our genes, weakens our immune system, and is the root cause of the separation we experience globally. Using my trademarked methodology in human development, the TJS Evolutionary Method® (TJS Method) alongside TJS Meditation Solutions, the TJS Value Alignment, as well as Vital Planning for Elevated Living Five Day Seminar to help more clients achieve results I started to attract better clients and far greater opportunities that I ever thought possible.

This lead to taking my business and my life to a whole new level, one that lead me to Nick Nanton, Brian Tracey, and with their support appear on ABC, NBC, Fox, and CBS TV channels to reach more people and make a Dent in the Universe. Here are Five Vital Steps to help you on your journey to unleash your value, create a business and products that solve global problems, and in turn support you on your journey to making a Dent in the universe.

1. Acknowledge Your Worth. What I mean by that is get clear on who you are, what is your credibility, and what value you do you have that the world needs.
2. Love the unlovable. Many of you reject things that are not loving to you, true master sees the balance in everything you experience, the good and the bad. Learn to see the other side of everything that you currently may perceive as unlovable.
3. Achieve inner equilibrium. Your physiology will thank you for balancing your skewed perception, the more balanced you feel within, the more you become in your outer world.
4. Results you want are your creation. Whatever the challenge may be, remember to get the results you want you must commit your time, love and energy. Make sure you know it is your responsibility to create the happiness you deserve.
5. A miracle is what you are by design, learn to activate, accelerate and advance this wisdom that is within you to create the miracles you desire in your life. Start by having a great conversation with your higher self. Go into the future, find the man you have become, and let him write a letter to your current self on how you went about in making a Dent in the universe.

Apply these five vital steps of the TJS Evolutionary Method on a daily basis, they will awaken your purpose, wisdom, and hearts intelligence. If what you have read rings true to your heart, then please make sure you leave your comments below and let me and my subscribers know your inspirational story. Don’t forget to start reading and learning the method and the steps shared in my books and to sign up to receive my inspirational newsletter packed with food for the mind and heart, follow me on twitter, fb public page, Instagram, and connect with me on LinkedIn.

You may also choose to start your coaching journey with me, if so, my recommendation is to book a two hour of clarity coaching consultation during which we will identify what you need to do in order for you to get clear on the next steps you need to make to shine your light and make a dent in the universe.

In the next blog, I am going to share what happens next as I go through the Celebrity Branding Experience with Nick, Brian, his team of expertise at the Hard Rock Hotel in San Diego, and the live interview with Brian Tracey.

Finally, thank you for stopping by, being a valued subscriber, a reader of my books, and a fan, valued client, and most importantly a fellow light friend, on this short life journey.

Love and wisdom

Tony J. Selimi

We are born whole, yet from the moment we come into this world we are constantly told by our parents, the religion in which we were born into, and the schools that we attend that we are not. We are programmed to constantly seek validation that we are good enough from external sources and create the illusion of not being good enough within ourselves.

The truth is, it is impossible to go through our childhood, teenage years, and adulthood without some situations or someone infecting you with the belief that you are not enough. That unless you do something that others want you to do, you are made to feel you are not worthy of love. It is precisely this feeling of unworthiness that it is the root cause of the many of the humanity’s problems such as illness, poverty, high divorce rates, rise in extremism, nationalism, phobia’s, etc.

This way of perceiving our reality from a place of not being good enough is extremely painful to our human experience and therefore we spend most of our lives trying to proof we are good enough.

The feeling of not being good enough is one of the major catalysts that changes, controls, and commands our behavior, attitude, and affects the quality of our life. It also impacts our self-esteem, self-worth, and in general our overall well-being.

If you are someone who is seeking a way out of your current situation and a way in into a new reality that is more favorable to you, then you may want to keep reading on. Reason being, I am going to share with you what one powerful practice you can do daily to fill the empty hole that you feel inside from within yourself.

In every coin there are two sides, similarly, for every negative emotion, there is the opposite positive emotion that in most cases we unconsciously do not acknowledge.

For instance, this feeling of not being good enough also has a positive side, it can drive us towards achieving some astronomical goal and inspire us to become legendary. For instance, my drive to proof to my parents that I am good enough helped me go from living homeless in the streets of London, to obtaining an Engineering degree at one of the UK’s prestigious university – University College London (UCL). It also drove me to climb the career ladder, become a successful entrepreneur, and internationally award-winning author of two books.

Having spent over twenty years doing personal, professional, and spiritual development, I know now that this is not the most optimal path to achieving success, wellness, and most importantly wholeness. Reason being, doing things in your life to disapprove the model of not being good enough comes with high cost, in worst cases it costs you your health, wealth, and most importantly your time.

This way of living your life is what makes you give your power away and become dependent on others to validate your worth. Daily I see many clients who come to me for a whole range of problems, from health related issues to relationship, money, business, or leadership challenges. Recently, a client of mine who is a successful CEO came to see me because he felt his children did not appreciate him for everything he was giving them. This grow into anger, frustrations, and tremendous resentments towards his wife and his kids.

When he would come home his expectation was for his children to behave in certain way, when they would not meet his expectations he would feel rejected, unworthy, and not good enough.

This is a common behavior for many people that expect to be praised, validated, and noticed. If this expectation is not met, then they go into a tantrum, some people like my CEO client felt unappreciated, not respected, and deep down rejected.

For most of you, it is difficult to see this underlying behavior, as in those moments when this happens, you will not literally think that you are not enough.

Having read over 20,000 books from various life disciplines, attended many seminars on personal, spiritual and business development as well as working with some of the world’s best experts, I concluded that the voids we try to fill do not come as a result of rational choice – but instead by conditioning and habit. And thus, many of us live our lives feeling not good enough based on limiting crules and outdated cbeliefs about pretty much everything – health, relationships, career, education, love, work, money, parenting, sex, and so much more—which we inherit and pass on from generation to generation.

But, what if you could find most effective ways to fill in your voids that you seek in others from within yourself? What would your reality look like if you could forget the crules, brules, chabits of the past, and redefine what wholeness means for you?

This is exactly what the TJS Evolutionary Method that I use in my daily coaching practice to assist people from all walks can do for you, support you in your journey to filling an invisible hole you feel inside.

Use the first of the five step TJS Evolutionary Method to consciously engineer the reality in which you experience balance, gratitude, and feeling whole.

Acknowledge the people who trigger your emotions as they are the perfect teachers to address the unconscious voids that keep you seeking validation from outside of yourself.

For instance, if you get triggered by someone criticizing your way of parenting, then find that part of yourself that loves to criticize others, this is what is normally referred too as your disowned part.

To do so, list all of emotions you experience in that moment you feel criticized, as they are there to help you find your voids.

By owning these disowned parts of yourself i.e. recognizing that you have this trait in yourself, you start to change your behavior. In doing so, instead of pointing out the finger outwardly, thank them for being the mirror to recognize your disowned traits. This modification in your behavior is what will help you step into your true power, the one that comes from experiencing the wholeness of your being.

There are many self-help books that mention universal laws that help you break free from the shackles of not being good enough. In my best-selling book A Path to Wisdom you can learn the rest of the TJS Evolutionary Method and the other steps that you can use daily to help you address the feelings of not being good enough and equip you with the knowledge and the tools required to live in a state of wholeness.

For those of you who are already well ahead in your personal, professional and spiritual development you may also want to read my newly published international award-winning book #Loneliness –The Virus of The Modern Age where I share in more details the amount of crules (crap rules), cbeliefs (crap beliefs), and cbehaviours (crap behaviours) that are at the root cause of not feeling good enough, being rejected, and the cause of life adversities that can take you deep down into the wretched caves of isolation and deep loneliness.

Lastly, learn to dance with the angel and the devil in you that represent the many counterparts of the polar opposite of the “good” and the “bad” sides of your being, be curious about any external triggers that may put you out of equilibrium, acknowledge them, and open your heart to the power of the infinite wisdom that resides in the vibration of love.

If you are ready to breakthrough the things that keep you in the loop of not being good enough and live a more connected, inspired and purposeful life then say yes now, book a clarity coaching consultation, and get in touch asap.

To your success, dreams and abundance!

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”- Lao Tzu 

It is in our DNA to continuously evolve, multiply, and wake up and rise. To search for a deeper meaning to our mortal lives. The more I was learning about Taoism, the more I came to understand the meaning hidden behind Lao’s statement.

The many of the truth’s and lies that I had learned since a very young age kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation, the one of a rigid mind, and of an perfect illusionist whose illusions were so real that one could never establish the difference of what is and what’s not an illusion.

Ancient scriptures are littered with paradoxical lingo, for instance Jesus said, “Whoever tries to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will preserve it.”

Only this statement kept me searching for the deeper meaning behind these words. I came to experience the flow of life, the rhythm of striving and letting go that which hinders our evolution, conceals our truth, and keeps us holding on too tightly to our beliefs, skewed perceptions and injected values.

When we eventually awaken to our greatness, it feels like swimming against the current. It is this illusion that you must break through committing to do the hard work required to unravel the truth of who you are. Hustle and be persistent, make sure you balance this with patience, and at times, stepping away from a rigid belief, injected value, people or situation.

This was the case with Elizabeth Gilbert following the massive success of Eat, Pray, Love. She shared about the crippling pressure of any follow up work that came from this success. With millions of anxious readers, she cranked out a manuscript over the course of one year, but she shared that it just didn’t feel right “The voice didn’t sound like me.”

She decided to put the manuscript away, never to be looked at again, and focused on her garden patch. Taking a break brought her clarity; rather than writing the book for the millions anticipating, she decided to start over and wrote it for an audience of 27 close friends, who needed the message of the book.

This very same situation happened to me when I embarked writing both of my books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness. In both occasions the first manuscript I wrote did not feel congruent to me. I felt rushed and in a way pressured to deliver the manuscript to my publishers. I walked away from both of my original scripts and created two new ones that are now read by millions of readers globally.

Being able to listen to your true authentic voice, not the one you have developed over the years of conditioning, or disassociation, or fear, is what helped me let go of what the books had to be and created the room for them to become what they meant to be.

In your striving, acknowledge your willingness to let go and just do it.

Here are the five principles to embrace to elevate your being:

1. Unravel, Know and Grow Your Value. There’s value in simply being alive, being all you can be, and knowing your presence matters. And there’s value in what you contribute to the world; to learn to value how both your inner “devil” and “angel” are there to support you on your journey to self-actualization, and how life adversities are there to help you live your highest values and share that with the world. Keep investing in your most valuable assets: your health, knowledge, and wisdom. Get yourself a mentor or a coach, there are many out there, choose one that is credible, speaks, lives and is capable of holding a clean mirror to teach you your truth. I personally love learning and consulting with various teachers including world human behavior expert Dr John Demartini.
2. Learn the art of mastering free will and determinism. Many people out there believe that they have no free-will, that all our actions and behaviors are predetermined neurologically through upbringing and environment. Neuroplasticity experts disagree; they have now shown to us that we can change our brain, and we’re wholly and solely responsible for what takes place in life. In my recent book #Loneliness I share how our experience gives way to both; sometimes, we freely choose to pass on those delicious chocolate cakes, other times we’re possessed by the Vanilla Ice Cream Hagen Daz-monster. There are times we’re nothing like our parents, and other times we’re a splitting image. What I notice in many people is their willingness to intrude in other people’s realities, offering services and reasons why they should be in your life. To the extent that our able, self-discipline and willpower needs to be exerted. Ultimately with decision-making, joy comes in knowing you’re in the driver’s seat rather than the passenger seat. Whether or not free will is an illusion, feeling as though you’ve expressed your will is better than being a mindless robot. Remember, taking ownership is always better than seeking to blame.
3. Train your mind to think fast and slow down when it is absolutely necessary. Many of my clients struggle when it comes to making a decision if they should go ahead with their head, or with their heart. That is the question that billions of people are currently asking on the planet. When I spent six weeks meditating I learnt to master my mind, to slow it down and to think fast by recollecting vast amount of data needed to make a decision. Thinking fast, or just going with your gut, is often tied in with the unconscious mind; science has shown that it’s incredibly accurate—once we identify a goal we want to accomplish in our life, our mind draws from the vast information we’re subconsciously exposed to, and responds to triggers that support the goal. Thinking slow requires more conscious effort to fully explore an issue, but can lead to overanalysing and inaction. Whether you ultimately decide to go with logic or intuition, realizing your physical and emotional state when making the decision is just as, if not more important. Being in a stressed, tired, or negative state will never yield the best decision. Learn to be balanced, to think fast, and slow down when you need to, best way to do it is while you’re rested and in a calm state.
4. Embrace change and permanence. Universe is constantly moving, evolving, and creating and destroying stars and galaxies. You are part of the same universe governed by the very same laws. If you’ve heard the words, “Gosh, you’ve changed,” it was likely with a derogative tone, and remorse over what happened to the person they once knew. To be grounded and consistent in our values is a good thing, pretence has never been notable. Yet at the same time, returning to your high-school reunion and seeing old friends stuck in the same old thing comes with a sense of shame, blame and guilt. To grow and change is both a good and a bad thing. Whilst stagnancy has never been celebrated, it is essential part of everyone’s journey. Repetition and evolution are two great words balancing the truths of permanence and change: you may never change careers in your life, but the reality is you’ve grown in your work. You may never leave your country, but you may have fulfilled all your dreams and are daily doing actions that are elevating your being.
5. Study both Science and Spirituality. Science without spirituality is blind, spirituality without science is foolish. The integration of the knowledge they both bring is key to understanding the universe, our origins, and the next steps in our evolution. The dawn of the enlightenment and scientific revolution was the great divide between faith and reason. Positivism and Empiricism became the dominant methods for determining truth, and all else was classed as superstition. But in the recent years, we’ve seen the traditional enemies overlap, with science validating once esoteric knowledge and practices like prayer and meditation.

The five principles above are a great reminder that while truth and confidence can be grounded in facts and figures, trust and assurance can also be found in what’s not visible to the naked eye, or immediate to your senses. Belief, gratitude, and faith—less tangible experiences, supported by science, all broaden and add to meaningful experiences in life.

Learn to use the TJS Evolutionary Method to embody the mentioned five principles into your daily life. It will help you on your journey to integrate the wholeness of who you are.  For those of you who are advanced students of life, you may want to start reading my newly released book #Loneliness –The Virus of The Modern Age.  In this book is where you start the journey to unravel the hidden lies that in time become the truths that you speak. Where you learn to be authentic, speak your truth, and honour your true essence.

Lastly, remember one thing, enlightenment is not an overnight thing, it is a lifelong commitment, it is your infinite soul’s way of letting you know how powerful you are, and it is a dance between “Good” and “Evil”, “Love and “Hate”, “Day” and “Night” and the many counterparts of the two polar opposite sides of you.

“Being truthful, authentic, and grateful is the first step to healing your body, mind, and heart.”

Which one of these vital principles that resonates most with you are you going to commit daily? Which one of them is most aligned to your values, why is it so, and please feel free to share with me and readers from around the globe why is it so. Write your thoughts in the comments below, share this article on social media and invite others to engage in a life changing dialogue.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

Speaker, Coach, Human Behavior and Cognition Expert

The society we live in has a wide spectrum of patterns which unaware to us constantly transform our habits, behaviors and as a result the way in which we perceive our reality.

Each one of us exhibits a great quantum of psychological reactions as an automatic reflex respond directed toward the outer environmental appearances. In order to maintain an optimal social homeostasis, we constantly need to navigate our cognition in a multiple creative directions.

This is why we have the desire to feed our brain with information, learn new way of doing things, and new ways of thinking. Upgrading our cognition helps us to maintain and transform our energy into the fuel of infinite wisdom. It is our innate wisdom and the one we create through interaction with the outer world that generates the basic behavioral models in the society.

These models of our external reactions have to be decorated with the basic principles of a human morality and constructible ethic norms that compose healthy living environment where people can grow and progress. The hypothesis of the perfect chaos – resides exactly in the equation between our cognitive capacities versus social diffusion.

If we truly like to solve the chaos we observe in the world, the one which the way we are being we continue to create daily, we have to go back to the essence of our self-introspection. This essence is our primer mental layer, the one that is the stream of love, wisdom, and the one that knows how to produce infinite source of energy.

When our golden treasure that is buried deep within our mind and hearts is light with love, we have a flashlight that shines our path toward life of prosperity.

When the mental façades we have created since birth are removed, our super conscious brain comes alive. It is this process of inner awakening, balancing perceptions, and calming the emotions that keeps our cognition intact. It is this inner feeling of peace that helps us listen to our soul’s voice, and paint our heart with the strong paint of gratitude.

In my newly released book #Loneliness –The Virus of the Modern Age I talk about the impact that loneliness has on our cognitive abilities, on our mental health, and on our genes. Loneliness is a bigger problem than simply cognition and an emotional experience. Research shows that loneliness and social isolation are harmful to our mental, emotional, physical health.

Lacking social connections is a comparable risk factor for early death as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and is worse for us than well-known risk factors such as obesity and physical inactivity.

We live in a connected world, yet we are desperately alone. We are alone in our thoughts, emotions, relationships, at work, with family, society, and in the world we all share. It has become the norm to look down at our phones, drink coffee with our phones and laptops, and commute with looking at phones never noticing anyone who may be near us.

Whilst on one hand the rise in technology has brought us so many wonderful new ways in connecting and doing business, on the other hand we must not under estimate the negative effect this have on human touch, connection, love.

One hand our cognitive abilities are increasing at phenomenal rates, on the other hand we experience more suicide, social isolation, and loneliness. Last twenty five years I adopted an elderly lady from Persia, who never got married, had estranged brother who never visited her, and had arthritis.

I was heartbroken to learn of her struggles, her story of her lifelong loneliness was the same as the one I talk about in my book, the same story that I observe in the clients I consult. It is the same story that you, your parents, children, colleagues, friends, and partners have. Loneliness is common to us all, it is my mother’s story who brought up six of us, yet she is alone, as life has taken us all to live and work in the six corners of the world.

Many elderly and parents globally experience the same loneliness, so do the children of these parents, so do you and I. I wrote this book as a global call for humanity to come together in heart cohesion and tackle the global problems from a new awareness. It is only when we connect in our hearts that we will experience the real cohesion between us and the environment we cohabit and immerse in the state of race, love and perfection.

Whether you know it or not, in the moment of your greatest inspiration you are in sync with all that is. Developing your cognition is what contributes to create a collective social cognition that is capable of resolving any problem that we create in the first instance.

Thank you for your time and reading this article, I trust it inspired you to think deeper, and observe the world with a new pair of glasses that help you in your personal, professional, financial, business, or relationship growth. Please get in touch if I can be of service to help you or your company in creating the outcomes, the clarity, and the inspired mission you desire.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,
Tony J. Selimi
Coach, Human Behavior and Cognition Expert
To get in touch please go to www.tonyselimi.com

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Praise

“Tony’s coaching is life changing; his books are the light that guides us with his intrinsic philosophies into the age of spiritual enlightment. This is only the beginning of what the world will know of this inspiring, selfless being.” Joel Alexander Van der Molen, managing director, Vandercom

“A truly amazing coach, mentor, and writer of a magnificent book that does what it says, balances your mind, opens your heart, and elevates your soul so that you experience inner peace and manifest excellent health. A manual that every Dr in the world should read to be the best they can be. ” Dr Todorche Stamenov

“Tony J. Selimi’s new masterpiece A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness are thought provoking books that can expand your awareness, center your soul, touch your heart and heal your body-mind.” Dr John Demartini – International best-selling author of The Values Factor.

“It is in respecting, manging, and using your time effectively that you stay focused, clear, sharp, present, and build an extraordinary life.” -Tony J. Selimi

Weather you acknowledge it or not time is a precious and limited commodity of which we all are given in equal measure. Everybody gets twenty four hours per day…no more, no less…

It matters not how much money you have or don’t have, how educated you are, what your social position you belong too, if you are married, single, gay or straight, white, black, Asian, or other, the fact is…

You still get only twenty four hours a day, no more and no less. You can’t buy, beg, borrow or steal another one minute.

As much as we would like to think we are in charge of these twenty four hours, the truth is what we do with those twenty four hours is not entirely up to us.

We all have obligations that must be met each day. We have jobs that provide us with necessary income, a certain amount of time is required for eating and sleeping and our relationships with our loved ones require some amount of time each day but the entire twenty four are not all spoken for.

These are the few hours each day that we can use as we want to use them. What we decide to do with them will mostly determine how successful or unsuccessful we will be in life.

If we spend all of our “unspoken for hours” on fb, playing games, or on the couch in front of the TV eating chips and drinking coke, in five years we will still be doing the same boring job. When I decided to write my book A Path to Wisdom: How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life, I had to put in my diary minimum of 2 hours a day writting time. This helped me to remain focused, in the flow, and publish my book on time.

Some of those free hours if, used to learn new things or to try different things, could mean that in a short amount of time we would have better jobs, better relationships or even better health.

That seems like a good idea but where does one begin when clouds of confusion surround our brain?

#1: Get clear of the outcomes you wish to create. Write down in details what you want to achieve, why you want those things, and how they would make you feel once you have accomplished your goals. You can use TJS Evolutionary Method to help you in this process to help you listen from within what your being is asking you to do. Learnign how to use and apply this method will save you time and help you get step closer to your desired success.

# 2: For a plane to reach its destination safely it needs both a physical pilot and an auto pilot. Both are needed to safely reach a pre-set destination. So do you. Trying to do everything on your own will not get you the results that a good coach can help you navigate safely through the adversities that may pop out on your way to attaining your desired outcomes. Ask for help, sometimes people go for free advice, I believe if you want outstanding outcomes you might have to pay the expert that in long term saves you time, money, energy and the emotions. If you try an re-invent the wheel, you are just wasting that valuable resource that you have, time.

One thing to keep in mind when getting a good coach to help you in your journey, there’s a big difference between spending money and investing money. Any time you spend some money on learning something that will take you closer to what you want, that’s investment!

# 3: Use your time effectively by making sure you set aside a certain amount of hours each
week to work on your goal, and stick to it. Be persistent, consistent, and productive. The time that is not used effectively is the time that could be used to attain your goals.

#4: Acknowledge within you that you are part of life, part of the greater picture that knows in order to create success it must also experience the failure. Nature does the same, in order to create it must destroy life. The progress in becoming successful is messy. The very nature of any type of growth being personal, business, finance, health or spiritual means that you’ll experience distraction, disruption, confusion and what at first sight appears to be difficulty. It is in these moments you need to keep in mind that difficulties are improvement in wolf’s clothing. And that rather than falling backward, you choose to fail forward, stand up again with a knowing that your challenges are actually showing you you’re moving ahead. It’s a simple yet brilliant way to keep your perceptions balanced through your journey to attaining success.

#: Love is a powerful force that forces us to go into war with one another and equally makes us love our enemies. Align the outcomes you wish to create with your highest values, it is only then that your heart opens up and gives you the energy to create the success you desire. Success will come much faster when you don’t waste your time trying to do it all on your own.

I trust the above five steps help you bring success faster your way, get clear of what you want, and use the infinite wisdom of love as the antidote to your frustrations, fears, and stress that may come up in your pursue for success. Appreciating your time in times of crisis is what takes you from living an average life to creating an extraordinary success.

Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things by making today the day you listen to your hearts call to Success!

And, if what you have read has inspired you, please get in touch and let me help you honour your talents, be successful, unleash your leader, and make awesome things happen for you, your organization, and the clients you serve. It gives me a great pleasure through coaching, mentoring, speaking, and team work to help you and your company be successful. To get in touch please click HERE!

Be great, awesome, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

Coach, Human Behaviour and Cognition Specialist

There comes a moment in our lives where no matter what we do, we don’t seem to see an end to our troubles. We end up feeling emotional, down, and hopeless. We lose faith in our abilities, we start to ride a never ending emotional rollercoaster, and we end up feeling vulnerable to the external stimulants that have the power to create an emotional storm.

When this happens, just like the many of the clients I see daily, many of you too end up closing down, withdrawing, and pushing away the people who may be there in your reality to help you grow. It is during this time that you can understand better the reasons you feel that way and get the clarity required for you to go from feeling hopeless to being inspired and stepping into your greatness.

It is rather strange, that it is also in such moments that we stumble across people who feel amazing, are successful, and are living inspired lives. They radiate confidence, kindness, and have a very smart appeal that deep down within ourselves we tend to resent them for and equally find them irresistibly attractive.

They tend to be funny, loving, trustworthy and most of all passionate in what they do. If you make a choice you too can change the destination called hopelessness. No, this is not a blog post to tell you all about somebody who has high self-worth, self-esteem, or self-confidence so that you feel even worse about yourself.

This is not a post to talk about how everything in other people’s life is going perfectly and so can everything in your life. Also, this is not a post that is going to tell you that the world is actually less complicated, less difficult and less challenging than it actually is. This is a post to awaken you, to remind you that no matter what you are going through in your life, you have a voice. And you are important.

Whilst the world may not be perfect and you may feel hopeless at times, one important thing to remember is that you are not alone and things will get better… but you have to use your reasoning, your choice, and your voice.

Recently I delivered a speech at The Inspired Stage on the value of the instrument you all play-your voice. Your voice is your own. It is your own personal projection of the way you are inside. It is the voice of your opinions, of your thoughts, of your emotions.

It is the way in which you inform and communicate to the world about your aspirations, the struggles, the achievements, the good things and the bad things you go through. By using your voice, you are able to express yourself to the world in a way that only you can do.

My talk with the audience at The Inspired Stage was about the importance of using our voice by first telling the audience that I know what it is like to be a refugee, depressed, and homeless. I know the deep, dark despair found in the Syrian refugees that are being uprooted from their homes is the feeling of homeless, hopeless, and fearful.

Once I was a person who thought of me as kind, smart, funny and loving, I slipped into a depression, helplessness, and my self made inner prison during the times when after the civil war in former Yugoslavia broke out, I ended up homeless in the streets of London.

The fact that I was only 19, alone with no family, friends or roof over my head I went through very severe bullying as a refugee and someone who sought safe haven in UK from the atrocities of civil war.

I became very depressed and very suicidal and actually attempted suicide as back then I thought there was nothing more to lose.

While I was in the lowest point of my life, I also began to question myself and my identity. I began to question why I am here, how come many of my comrades died and I survived, and what is it I can do to take back the direction my life was going. I questioned everything about my life, my ability to speak, to be happy, be great and even to live a purposeful life.

But I know I was rescued by the many people that fortune put on my path. It is in their kindness, compassion, and love that I found the strength to overcome the post war depression, the fears from living my life in a limbo, and from not knowing if I will ever see my family again.

Despite feeling hopeless, despite feeling as if I was not valuable, worthy, and despite feeling like I didn’t want to live on this planet anymore, deep down I felt a connection with something greater than I have ever experienced before. It is this inner voice that spoke up to me, it is the love that many people showered me with that became the light that started to shine my path from the darkness that had enveloped my heart.

I knew then I had to listen to my inner voice and the many people that God put on my path or I would end up losing the life that I was born to live. The point here is that I was not strong enough to use my voice, so the many people who fortune put on my path became my voice that slowly started to take me into hope, gratitude, and access my greatness.

I was strong enough to tell few of the people I had developed trusts of my suicidal thoughts, but I was not strong enough to ask for help outright. By making the choice to listen to this inner voice, I saved my life.

If you are someone going through feeling hopeless, acknowledge within yourself the voice that knows that no matter what you are going through, you have a voice and you are important. You too can connect to your authentic voice, listen to your cry for help that can help you prevent from potentially feeling overwhelmed, depressed, and in the worst case scenario commit suicide.

Thus, the importance of using your voice, have coach, or a mentor to help you through this journey is priceless. It could save your life or even the life of a friend. We have all heard it before the saying “There is a light at the end of that tunnel.” The truth is that back then, at the age of twenty, with no family, no income, and no friends my tunnel was black, and so was the many people I came across on my frequent trips to the Home Office in Croydon.

Remember, no matter what you are going through in your life, you are a voice, an authentic being, and you are important. Use your voice. It is the only thing that is uniquely yours that can help you communicate the greatness that lives in every cell of your body. It could save your life. It could save the life of a friend, and it could save your relationship too. Either way, when you’re feeling helpless you need to listen to your voice and the ALARMs that your body is sending you and make sure you communicate them to someone. That is the only way anybody will ever know you need help, that you need support. It’s okay to need that, it’s not okay to not voice your need.

To unleash your greatness be ready to act on those emotions that can put you in the prison of your creation and do what the greatest achievers do in order to rise to be the best in world in their work and personal lives.

To help those who get a thrill in wanting to make the choice to go from hopelessness to greatness in their own lives, in their way of being, as well as create lives they adore I created TJS Evolutionary Method: The ALARM and TJS Meditation Solutions that you can learn this powerful tool that you can use to achieve greatness in all of the eight key areas of life: Spiritual, mental, Emotional, Physical, Business, finances, relationships and money.

Meditation is scientifically proven to aid your healing process, you can download them directly from ITunes, you can get your copy of the book and find the links to these powerful meditations by going to http://www.apathtowisdom.com

And I know you totally get that your days (and mine) are numbered. So this day’s the right day to start living FULL ON…

With this outcome in mind, I spent many hours reflecting on and then writing 5 of my best ideas for living in a way that will cause you to be in your greatness and make history…

May these 5 insights fuel your rise. And transform your inner game…‎

#1. ‎Dream up a vision so brave it makes all around you roll with laughter. Or reply with ridicule.

#2. Care a lot more about how many people you help than how helpless you feel inside.

#3. Become the master of your craft. The undisputed titan of your field. And–quite simply–the best there ever was.

#4. Protect your pristine reputation. It’s an asset of priceless value. And each day, make your good name worth even more by doing acts of excellence, work that astonishes and gestures that inspire.

#5. When you feel helpless, feel the pain. And then make a choice to stand up. You were born for victory. Use failure as your fuel to propel you to your greatness.

If you are ready to balance your emotions, overcome procrastination, and get deeper within your consciousness to find the root cause of you feeling hopeless, take the next step and book yourself a two hour clarity coaching consultation and let me help you in your journey to unleashing your greatness. To book click Here!

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Ok. That’s it for today. Worked hard on this post. Hope it is super valuable, inspirational, and the following five steps are actionable! Until next time, let me take this opportunity to say a big thank you and I love you to all the wonderful team at The Inspired Stage for creating a platform for speakers to Inspire People from all walks of life to be their greatness. In my next book #Loneliness The Virus of The Modern Age I go into much deeper on the global issues that we are all facing now and in the many years to come.

Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things…make today, that day you listen to your call to Greatness!

Be great, awesome, and healthy,