“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”- Lao Tzu 

It is in our DNA to continuously evolve, multiply, and wake up and rise. To search for a deeper meaning to our mortal lives. The more I was learning about Taoism, the more I came to understand the meaning hidden behind Lao’s statement.

The many of the truth’s and lies that I had learned since a very young age kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation, the one of a rigid mind, and of an perfect illusionist whose illusions were so real that one could never establish the difference of what is and what’s not an illusion.

Ancient scriptures are littered with paradoxical lingo, for instance Jesus said, “Whoever tries to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will preserve it.”

Only this statement kept me searching for the deeper meaning behind these words. I came to experience the flow of life, the rhythm of striving and letting go that which hinders our evolution, conceals our truth, and keeps us holding on too tightly to our beliefs, skewed perceptions and injected values.

When we eventually awaken to our greatness, it feels like swimming against the current. It is this illusion that you must break through committing to do the hard work required to unravel the truth of who you are. Hustle and be persistent, make sure you balance this with patience, and at times, stepping away from a rigid belief, injected value, people or situation.

This was the case with Elizabeth Gilbert following the massive success of Eat, Pray, Love. She shared about the crippling pressure of any follow up work that came from this success. With millions of anxious readers, she cranked out a manuscript over the course of one year, but she shared that it just didn’t feel right “The voice didn’t sound like me.”

She decided to put the manuscript away, never to be looked at again, and focused on her garden patch. Taking a break brought her clarity; rather than writing the book for the millions anticipating, she decided to start over and wrote it for an audience of 27 close friends, who needed the message of the book.

This very same situation happened to me when I embarked writing both of my books A Path to Wisdom and #Loneliness. In both occasions the first manuscript I wrote did not feel congruent to me. I felt rushed and in a way pressured to deliver the manuscript to my publishers. I walked away from both of my original scripts and created two new ones that are now read by millions of readers globally.

Being able to listen to your true authentic voice, not the one you have developed over the years of conditioning, or disassociation, or fear, is what helped me let go of what the books had to be and created the room for them to become what they meant to be.

In your striving, acknowledge your willingness to let go and just do it.

Here are the five principles to embrace to elevate your being:

1. Unravel, Know and Grow Your Value. There’s value in simply being alive, being all you can be, and knowing your presence matters. And there’s value in what you contribute to the world; to learn to value how both your inner “devil” and “angel” are there to support you on your journey to self-actualization, and how life adversities are there to help you live your highest values and share that with the world. Keep investing in your most valuable assets: your health, knowledge, and wisdom. Get yourself a mentor or a coach, there are many out there, choose one that is credible, speaks, lives and is capable of holding a clean mirror to teach you your truth. I personally love learning and consulting with various teachers including world human behavior expert Dr John Demartini.
2. Learn the art of mastering free will and determinism. Many people out there believe that they have no free-will, that all our actions and behaviors are predetermined neurologically through upbringing and environment. Neuroplasticity experts disagree; they have now shown to us that we can change our brain, and we’re wholly and solely responsible for what takes place in life. In my recent book #Loneliness I share how our experience gives way to both; sometimes, we freely choose to pass on those delicious chocolate cakes, other times we’re possessed by the Vanilla Ice Cream Hagen Daz-monster. There are times we’re nothing like our parents, and other times we’re a splitting image. What I notice in many people is their willingness to intrude in other people’s realities, offering services and reasons why they should be in your life. To the extent that our able, self-discipline and willpower needs to be exerted. Ultimately with decision-making, joy comes in knowing you’re in the driver’s seat rather than the passenger seat. Whether or not free will is an illusion, feeling as though you’ve expressed your will is better than being a mindless robot. Remember, taking ownership is always better than seeking to blame.
3. Train your mind to think fast and slow down when it is absolutely necessary. Many of my clients struggle when it comes to making a decision if they should go ahead with their head, or with their heart. That is the question that billions of people are currently asking on the planet. When I spent six weeks meditating I learnt to master my mind, to slow it down and to think fast by recollecting vast amount of data needed to make a decision. Thinking fast, or just going with your gut, is often tied in with the unconscious mind; science has shown that it’s incredibly accurate—once we identify a goal we want to accomplish in our life, our mind draws from the vast information we’re subconsciously exposed to, and responds to triggers that support the goal. Thinking slow requires more conscious effort to fully explore an issue, but can lead to overanalysing and inaction. Whether you ultimately decide to go with logic or intuition, realizing your physical and emotional state when making the decision is just as, if not more important. Being in a stressed, tired, or negative state will never yield the best decision. Learn to be balanced, to think fast, and slow down when you need to, best way to do it is while you’re rested and in a calm state.
4. Embrace change and permanence. Universe is constantly moving, evolving, and creating and destroying stars and galaxies. You are part of the same universe governed by the very same laws. If you’ve heard the words, “Gosh, you’ve changed,” it was likely with a derogative tone, and remorse over what happened to the person they once knew. To be grounded and consistent in our values is a good thing, pretence has never been notable. Yet at the same time, returning to your high-school reunion and seeing old friends stuck in the same old thing comes with a sense of shame, blame and guilt. To grow and change is both a good and a bad thing. Whilst stagnancy has never been celebrated, it is essential part of everyone’s journey. Repetition and evolution are two great words balancing the truths of permanence and change: you may never change careers in your life, but the reality is you’ve grown in your work. You may never leave your country, but you may have fulfilled all your dreams and are daily doing actions that are elevating your being.
5. Study both Science and Spirituality. Science without spirituality is blind, spirituality without science is foolish. The integration of the knowledge they both bring is key to understanding the universe, our origins, and the next steps in our evolution. The dawn of the enlightenment and scientific revolution was the great divide between faith and reason. Positivism and Empiricism became the dominant methods for determining truth, and all else was classed as superstition. But in the recent years, we’ve seen the traditional enemies overlap, with science validating once esoteric knowledge and practices like prayer and meditation.

The five principles above are a great reminder that while truth and confidence can be grounded in facts and figures, trust and assurance can also be found in what’s not visible to the naked eye, or immediate to your senses. Belief, gratitude, and faith—less tangible experiences, supported by science, all broaden and add to meaningful experiences in life.

Learn to use the TJS Evolutionary Method to embody the mentioned five principles into your daily life. It will help you on your journey to integrate the wholeness of who you are.  For those of you who are advanced students of life, you may want to start reading my newly released book #Loneliness –The Virus of The Modern Age.  In this book is where you start the journey to unravel the hidden lies that in time become the truths that you speak. Where you learn to be authentic, speak your truth, and honour your true essence.

Lastly, remember one thing, enlightenment is not an overnight thing, it is a lifelong commitment, it is your infinite soul’s way of letting you know how powerful you are, and it is a dance between “Good” and “Evil”, “Love and “Hate”, “Day” and “Night” and the many counterparts of the two polar opposite sides of you.

“Being truthful, authentic, and grateful is the first step to healing your body, mind, and heart.”

Which one of these vital principles that resonates most with you are you going to commit daily? Which one of them is most aligned to your values, why is it so, and please feel free to share with me and readers from around the globe why is it so. Write your thoughts in the comments below, share this article on social media and invite others to engage in a life changing dialogue.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

Speaker, Coach, Human Behavior and Cognition Expert

Since a very young age I was extremely curious to know more about what makes some people extremely successful, legendary and iconic. Why is it that the majority of people in the world, the 99% per-centers cannot have what the so called 1% per-centers already had and continue to have?

Back then little I knew that one day I will have the opportunity to meet someone who is a Billionaire and find out from them what is it they think, belief and do to create an unprecedented success.

If like me, you were born to a middle class working family, you may have heard so many different beliefs about money and wealthy people. The ones that stayed with me for very long times were “money is root cause of all evil, no matter what you do, you will never be rich, money does not grow in trees, and you have to work very hard to make money.” These are only just few that I listed, in the actual fact, I could write an entire book about the many beliefs I was taught from a very young age by family members, at school, friends, religious scholars and in the environment I grew up in.

When we were growing up, many of us knew very little about the power our beliefs have in creating the reality in which we live in. By the time we start to work and earn our living we have already created many powerful beliefs about what money is or is not.

I remember back in 2009 when I was made redundant my capacity to earn money was limited by my own beliefs about how much I could earn and the injected values of others. Back then this limit was set to a maximum of £120 k for someone like me who had graduated from UCL, one of the top four universities in UK, had twelve years of experience, and was capable of running and managing multi-million-billion pounds of IT budgets and programs.

It is during this time that I experienced an epiphany that made me write down two hundred beliefs I had about money. What came out was shocking, when I questioned the validity of each of the beliefs I so strongly held dear to my heart, I realized none of them had any truth behind.

A weight was lifted off, now I was free to think bigger and truly pursue my hearts calling to help people globally heal, accelerate their human potential, and give them tool to help them become leaders of their lives. What I noticed was that the more people I started to serve, the more money I was attracting and all I had to do is find ways to reach out to more people.

This lead me to writing two books A Path to Wisdom and newly published book #Loneliness, which within months became number one best-selling and award-winning books. I started to receive e-mails and client requests from people from all around the world. Suddenly, my capacity to earn doubled and with time it tripled and quadrupled.

Somehow everything I did up to now put me on a path to meet few Billionaires that became personal friends, teachers and later on my clients. It was my dream since a very young child to unravel the secrets that the 1% have and share them with a wider audience so that I can help more people be more successful and lead prosperous lives.

I replaced my old beliefs with new ones and in the process I started to attract people and opportunities never thought possible before. I realized that to live eternally in people’s hearts, minds and thoughts is to illuminate my being so that where ever I go I leave behind a fragrance of love that people can breathe into their hearts.

The boundaries we are taught to put with the outer world are our Ego’s attempt to dim the infinite light radiating from our grateful heart. The light required to put the key on a lock that opens up the safety box of a universal bank account that enables you to create and withdraw infinite amount of wealth.

This is the moment I realized the power that Gratitude, Love and serving more people authentically are the key factors in attaining perfect health, wealth and happiness into our life. When we come from a place of sincere gratitude our energy is one of acceptance, empathy and harmony that brings about the greatest miracles and the right people that we can be of service.

We are a product of an intelligent design, yet we are constantly reminded that we are not. Purifying our inner world from the lifelong conditioning, one-sided perceptions, and limiting beliefs that pollute our true essence is what can help us move towards crowd nurtured world peace and the next stages in our evolution

In my latest award-winning book #Loneliness-The Virus of The Modern Age, I talk about why polarized way of thinking, feeling and being is the reason which prevents you from turning thoughts into matter, ideas into things, and emotions into relationships.

When we come from a place of emotional unbalance we destroy our self-worth therefore we attract less opportunities, money and people in our lives that can help us accelerate our growth. Balanced mind together with clear strategy is what attracts and creates wealth, health, and all that our heart desires.

The truth is, It is only when we are in our hearts that we can connect to the flow of this universal energy we call love, the energy that is the cure to illness and the driving force for the survival of our bio diversity.

Whether you know it or not, in the moment of your greatest inspiration you are in sync with all that is and it is in moments like this you become extremely clear on how to resolve more problems for more people.

Thank you for your time and reading this article, if you liked it, please share it and help others learn, grow, and attract more wealth and opportunities.

I trust it inspired you to think deeper, and observe the world with a new pair of glasses that help you in your personal, professional, financial, business, or relationship growth.

Get in touch if I can be of service to help you or your company in creating the outcomes, the clarity, and the plan required to deliver astronomical visions.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

The See-Through Coach