Welcome back, fellow growth seeker and change-maker!

I am writing this newsletter in Northern Macedonia, where I just finished teaching my ten-day Vital Planning Life and Business Mastery client-focused coaching and training program and helping my clients dissolve many mental and emotional blockages and solve business and employee issues that were causing them headaches, sleepless nights, and lead to him feeling stressed and burnout. I also coached an army general, a private hospital owner, a celebrity singer, and aspiring entrepreneurs.

Furthermore, I was interviewed on five T.V. stations in Northern Macedonia and Kosova on various business, leadership, human behaviour, personal success, and relationship-related topics. It also included stories and experiences of the recent Quilly® Award I received in Hollywood for The Unfakeable Code® book, Book Excellence and the Maincrest Media Book Award for A Path to Excellence book and the Hollywood Premier of The Truth About Reading documentary that tackles the growing illiteracy crisis in the USA.

This week’s newsletter was inspired by the growth, success, and breakthroughs I helped my clients achieve and the gratitude comments I received from everyone I met and interviewed. It is about The Octagon of Excellence® Method I describe in more detail in A Path to Excellence book, and how it can help you through tricky times and when you feel powerless, stuck, stressed and uninspired.

Before I share more, I trust my previous newsletter topic, So Busy That You Have No Time for Love, was valuable for you and your family, relationship, entrepreneurial, career, business, and financial growth and saying yes to love. For those looking for a more empowered and meaningful relationship, check out this article published by ISSUU magazine and learn why love is the destroyer and creator of life.

Let’s get your creative juices flowing by answering the following questions first:

Are you ready to break free from your current limits and get unstuck? Do you want to be more productive, create change in your life and reach the goals you have worked on for a long time faster? Would focusing your mental faculties on the things that help you achieve personal excellence benefit you?

If so, then this week’s newsletter is the guide for you!

One topic that has interested me since I was very young is what makes some live an average life and others willingly strive for personal excellence. My fascination with top mathematicians, physicians, and inventors such as Nikola Tesla, Albert Einstein, and Thomas Edison inspired me to study their lives more thoroughly. I learned that they all showed attributes of personal excellence and what it takes to leave a legacy that stands the test of time.

Having coached and mentored businesses from all market sectors and individuals from all professional backgrounds, I realised they faced similar issues. What was happening in their heads was the root of all their challenges. After I wrote and published The Unfakeable Code® in 2021, I felt inspired to write and recently publish A Path to Excellence book.

The reason is I wanted to share the process I used to help myself and all of my clients achieve personal, relationship, professional, financial and busienss breakthroughs and attain unshakeable confidence in The Octagon Method® with a mission to help others create phenomenal growth, fulfilment, and success. It is a step-by-step system that shows you how to transform your life by transforming perceived blocks into life breakthroughs and creating new opportunities.

It’s based on the teachings that took me over thirty years to acquire, teach, and master. As someone who has delivered over 25,000 coaching and training hours and helped thousands of people do just that, I know those who learn the eight principles shared and apply them daily will increase their chances of success in any of the critical areas of life they want to empower.

What is The Octagon of Excellence®?

It is a set of principles, a tool that helps you to get unstuck and move forward. It’s an eight-step process that can help you get unstuck and move forward. The Octagon of Excellence is a way to transform your life. You can read more about the book and the eight steps HERE!

A Path to Excellence Tony J. Selimi Leadership and Growth-Focused Development Book

Each step will help you clarify what you truly want in life; it will show you how to break down each item on the list you will be creating as you answer the questions into its most essential parts, then show you how to ask yourself what you need to do or change to achieve each item on your list. The key is focusing on one part at a time until it’s done right before moving on to the next.

The Octagon of Excellence® is a revolutionary approach to getting unstuck and achieving excellence as you move from one life cycle into the other. For instance, the end of a job, career, or relationship and the start of a new one. Throughout life, you will experience identity crises and lose a loved one. Sometimes you need to close one chapter of your life and start a new one. This robust framework can help you move forward and achieve whatever you desire as you go through various life cycles.

The first step to this method is understanding what each side of the octagon represents and looks like in your life. An octagon has eight cycles, transition, regeneration, focus, rebirth, balance, service, unity, and infinity, just like how you have eight areas of your life that are wise to focus on empowering simultaneously as you go through the various life cycles: Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Physical, Relationship, Social, Career/Business and Finances. When these eight sides and eight processes are managed effectively and mindfully, there’s no limit to what you can accomplish!

To help you get unstuck, it’s time to get what blocks you out of your head and here are four questions that can help you do this:

1. What is the worst thing that could happen?
2. What am I terrified of?
3. What is the best possible outcome?
4. How can I turn this into an opportunity?

Do write down your answers before you continue reading. What came up for you? Have you noticed how many people often respond to the question “Why?” with “That’s the way it is. Because that’s what I chose, it’s not personal; it is what it is.”

But when you have a problem and you don’t know why, or any other thing or situation in life where there isn’t an obvious answer right away (or even at all), you can use this technique to help yourself find your reasons for things and situations in life by asking yourself questions such as:

Why did I do that? What was my reason? How did I feel at the time? How do I feel now? What else could I have done instead?

You are reading this article because you want personal excellence deep down. To help you don’t his journey, here are three truths worth remembering:

1. The first truth is that we are all worthy of excellence. That means you, me, the athlete across from you at practice, that guy who’s been struggling in class… Everyone has the potential to achieve excellence. We can do it with hard work and persistence, but most importantly, with being smart and believing in ourselves and our abilities.
2. The second truth is that we are all capable of excellence. You may think, “Well yeah, but I’m not a natural athlete, singer, scientist, engineer, entrepreneur, CEO, etc.” Or maybe your schoolwork isn’t coming easy for some reason—you’re getting B’s instead of As or A pluses like everyone else seems to be getting. That doesn’t mean anything! Anyone can become excellent at anything if they want to and put forth the effort required for success (the same way anyone can get better at any skill if they practice enough). I never imagined going from homeless to being honoured and celebrated in Hollywood for my work that took over thirty years to bring forward.
3. The third truth is that we all have the potential to achieve excellence through hard work and persistence. The key here is being persistent—no matter how often something doesn’t seem right or feels uncomfortable (like failing a couple of tests, failing in busienss, a relationship, creating a fashion brand, etc.), keep working on it until finally, one day,y everything clicks into place!

As I was coaching my client in Northern Macedonia, I wrote this quote I created a while back on one of the white stackable whiteboard sheets I use when I coach clients:

“Don’t give up on yourself; give up the gremlins in your head.” Tony J. Selimi ( do share it)

If you’re going to get anywhere in life, you need to believe in yourself. Don’t give up on your goals. Your goal isn’t the only thing keeping you going—your goals keep you going! Don’t give up on your dreams. You’ve got this! Nothing stops you from reaching them but yourself; if there were, we’d be too busy being happy with our lives to stop and think about it.

Don’t give up on your family (unless they’re gremlins, some of my family members are, and I learned to appreciate and love them from a distance). It can be tempting when things get tough or when everyone seems so much happier without us around—but trust me: no one is ever pleased without their family around to annoy them occasionally for their good.

Don’t give up on your friends (unless they’re gremlins). Take it from someone who knows: sometimes the most challenging part of an argument is remembering that neither side has a monopoly over truth; both sides have valid points that deserve respect and consideration before coming to any conclusion about which side deserves more empathy than another.*

Don’t give up on your health (unless you are already dead, in which case you aren’t reading this). Sometimes, something gets in the way of our exercise routines or eating habits; humans are imperfect creatures, prone as we are by nature toward laziness and gluttony!

But that doesn’t mean we should throw in the towel entirely; rather than giving into temptation every time something comes along that makes us feel guilty or distracted from our goals…why not try asking ourselves, “Is there anything I can do right now?” instead?

Chances are good that there is at least one small thing within our reach right now (like walking downstairs instead of taking the elevator) which would make all those oversized things seem less daunting tomorrow morning when everyone else is off doing their best while we’re stuck lying awake again thinking about how hard.

Another quote I shared and used to help my client grow is this:

“To achieve personal excellence is to master self-discipline and commit to achieving values-driven goals and a vision beyond oneself.” – Tony J. Selimi

Let’s go ahead and get right to it.

Self-discipline is a skill that can be learned, but it takes time and effort. You can start small by focusing on one thing at a time until you’ve mastered that skill. Then move on to the next task or project aligned with your values and goals. The key is to keep going; don’t give up when you feel like quitting or getting sidetracked. Investing in coaching and mentoring can significantly increase your self-discipline.

You can use tools and apps to help you stay motivated and self-disciplined when working toward your big dreams (like I did use The Octagon of Excellence® Method), but ultimately, improving your self-discipline comes down to doing more of what you already do well!

Here are Eight Simple Steps To Transform Your Life

Now that you’ve familiarised yourself with the Octagon of Excellence Method, it’s time to put it into practice. Here are eight simple steps to get you started:

1. Take daily inspired action.
2. Appreciate the negative and the positive, and focus on the positive.
3. Be grateful for what you have now. (And who you are now)
4. Forgive yourself and others as needed.
5. Invest in coaching and work with a qualified coach and experienced mentor that equally challenges and supports you.
6. Be patient with yourself and others when they make mistakes or fail to get back on track.
7. Be kind to yourself and others in your life.
8. Have fun!

By following the above eight steps, you can get unstuck, heal your life and reach your goals without feeling like you’re doing anything special! Use The Octagon of Excellence® Method to help you navigate the eight inevitable cycles of life transition, regeneration, focus, rebirth, balance, service, unity and infinity.

This method is based on what I have learned from ancient wisdom, the world’s best teachers, thirty years of working experience and the latest scientific discoveries, which provides you with a proven map for navigating through the ups and downs of life.

It offers practical tools to understand what is happening at any time in whatever life cycle you find yourself in and how to deal with it to create more freedom and order from stressful situations. By following this method step by step, as outlined in A Path to Excellence book – which essentially involves paying attention to what is happening inside and around you – you can obtain clarity about your own lives as well as other people’s lives too and what you can do to grow into your fullest potential.

To conclude,

When you read the word “excellence,” do you immediately think of something lofty and unattainable?

I know I used to. But as it turns out, excellence is pretty simple. The Octagon of Excellence® Method will show you how to reach your potential in all areas of your life by following just eight simple principles:

1. To break free from ambiguity, clarify what you want, why you want it, and when you want it, this will help you identify what’s necessary;
2. Awakening your astronomical vision requires committing to something bigger than yourself. This will help you focus on those things that will get you there;
3. To build resilience, it is wise to immediately confront any issues and respond mindfully and objectively. This will help you get unstuck from negative thoughts;
4. Making mistakes is human, correcting them awakens your excellence. Asking yourself quality questions when faced with mistakes and obstacles is a wise thing to do;
5. For better, more efficient and more effective results seek expert advice, coaching is a great way to help you remember that whatever happened yesterday is today’s lesson for tomorrow;
6. To grow on the inside and expand on the outside, collaborate. This will assist you practice self-discipline through daily connecting with others in more meaningful ways;
7. To unleash the power of gratitude, graciously give and accept compliments. Appreciating others promotes trust and learning from other people’s experiences by listening closely and empathempathisingothers’ feelings.
8. 8) Continuously celebrating small wins can change your physiology, strengthen your psychology, and maximise your potential.

I trust you got much inspiration and value from this week’s article on the importance of striving for personal excellence. For those of you who want to create unique relationships, careers, business, leadership, team and financial breakthroughs, as your coaching partner, my focus is to work together on finding out exactly the root cause of your blocks and effectively and efficiently find solutions to your frustrations, problems and create the mindset and the plan on accelerating your journey to self-mastery, living in abundance, develop personal and leadership excellence, grow your influence, success, fulfilment and inspiration.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Life and Business Coach SpeciaSpecialisingman Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award, and Maincreast Media Book, New York City Big Book, Book Excellence, and the Quilly® Award for A Path to Wisdom, Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and A Path to Excellence.

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#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an e-mail to info@tonyselimi.com. I invite entrepreneurs, influencers, growth seekers, high achievers and change-makers to spend five or ten incredible growth-focused days transforming what pains you into what inspires you by being privately coached and trained by me—taking place in beautiful locations worldwide. Booking yourself on Vital Planning Business and Life Mastery Training will assist you in learning new and more productive ways and proven methods, tools, and principles that can help you upgrade your psychology and achieve your wildest dreams. We will work together on expanding your vision and delivering the ever-evolving purpose you want to share with the world.

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, A Path to Excellence and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of happy students.

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So what are some of the factors that influence fear of Growing Into Your Fullest Potential?

Do you ever feel like you could do more? Have there been times when you felt creed, race, or culture had influenced your life and work experience? Do you find yourself wondering what your most significant limitations in life are? Are you even aware of what kind of fear you are afraid of? Suppose you are constantly making excuses, procrastinating, and not feeling at peace with yourself and others. In that case, you are most likely reading my weekly newsletter because you want to grow into your fullest potential in all critical areas of life.

No matter what major challenge you are currently facing, an underlying fear stops you from taking that step.

Let’s start by acknowledging the following…

Your fear plays a role in fulfilling your potential.

Fear is one of the primary emotions that we experience, and while the primary role of fear is to protect you, fear very often becomes a significant obstacle between you and your goals. To a large extent, success relies on knowing how to leverage fear.

Fear comes in many different forms. There are a variety of things that we are afraid of. Some may be afraid of heights or spiders; others may be afraid of failure or embarrassment. Fear comes in different shapes and sizes, but no matter what form it takes, it’s essential to understand how this emotion can work for you instead of against you.

What are some of the most common fears?

We all have fears. They are natural and part of what makes us human. But the fear of not being good enough, worthy enough, smart enough or any other reason we use to put off going after what we want can keep us from living a fulfilling and prosperous life.

The key is to recognise the fear, acknowledge it but don’t give into it. Fear is a bully that demands your attention and will taunt you with your worst insecurities if you let it. Don’t give in! You can do anything you set your mind to!

Is fear stopping you from experiencing life fully?

Suppose you are not showing up in the world as your authentic self daily. In that case, you are most likely wearing one of the masks created by your inauthentic being who has experienced a lifetime of threats, pains, disappointments, and rejections.  In my book The Unfakeable Code®, I share how various personas we adopt as we go through life can build protective mechanisms that imprison us in the prison of our creations. Reading the book, you’ll learn why those of you who are afraid to take off the mask, face your worst fears, and take risks are the ones who never achieve, never fulfil their dreams and never experience life fully. You may have beautiful intentions for better health, relationship, career, business, finances, social life, and a more kind and loving world.

However, fear can stop many of you from experiencing life fully. Fear’s insidious nature makes it hard to detect, but it is often the most significant factor holding you back from experiencing your fullest potential.

Why Fear Stops You?

Fear stops you because you think something has gone wrong when you feel it. You forget the very role of your amygdala, to fight, flight, freeze, or, as I mention in all of my books, create the freedom you always want.

Fear is a normal human emotion.

As you will see below, the list of how fear impacts your life is a long one. There are many benefits if you can avoid the pitfalls of being fearful and live more in the present.

You may feel that you have little or no control over your destiny, you may not value yourself enough to believe that you deserve to be happy and prosperous, or that it is too risky to follow your heart in case everything goes wrong. In short, if we were not worried about how things might turn out, we would have a lot less to worry about!

What are some of the drawbacks of fear?

First of all, fear stops you from authentically showing up. In other words, it keeps you from living your fullest and most colourful life. A life that is rich in emotion and rich in love.

Whether the client is an individual seeking to overcome personal challenges or a business seeking to improve productivity, performance, and profits, the first step is to assist them in identifying the specific fears related to whatever they wish to work on. Why? Because, no matter what they learn, no matter what instruction they are given, if those fears are not brought to light, it will stop them from creating the results they truly want. For every client I have helped, specific worries related to their life-long experiences have consciously and unconsciously influenced them to remain stuck.

Fear is also something that gets in the way of your happiness and can even prevent you from being able to live a happy life at all. Fear stops us from doing what we want to do or being whom we want to be.

Fear has so many different meanings for each one of us, but no matter how you look at it, anxiety can be detrimental to our health and well-being as individuals and societies.

Suppose your goal is to live a happy and fulfilling life full of meaning and purpose. In that case, I trust this article, as part of the Unfakeably Influencing the World newsletter, will help you understand why it’s essential to overcome your fears to achieve these goals.

Understanding the role of fear in your surrounding environment

Fear gives us a false sense of security. It limits your choices, doesn’t let you breathe, and generates anxiety and stress.

It can numb you, leaving you running in circles without direction. It creates low self-confidence, making it difficult to accomplish anything. And it keeps you from experiencing the joys of life because all you see is the negative side of everything.

But fear has an upside: it protects us from predators and makes us more potent after facing it.

Your subconscious mind thinks that if it holds back on its full potential, then nothing terrible will happen. That’s where fear enters the picture – as a friend who wants to protect you from harm and keep things status quo – even though this is not always true or helpful.

What can you do to overcome fear?

Those who resist facing the fears that make them uncomfortable are often those who don’t know they exist. It’s worth clarifying what aspects of your life may be causing you to fear taking your goals and dreams seriously, so you can improve your understanding of the situation and take steps towards a solution. Perhaps you aren’t afraid to invest more time in studying and getting better at a new skill, but what about investing more time in developing yourself as a lover, leader, business owner, or celebrity person? Fear is nothing more than an issue of perspective.

You’ll find it helpful if you clarify what types of activities cause you such negative feelings; keeping these on hand will be beneficial when seeking out professional help or counselling, as this list is meant to be used as a starting point for further research into areas where some form of growth may occur.

What are the benefits of fear in unfakeably influencing the world?

“You’re not alone,” I told one of my clients after booking himself to my ten-days Vital Planning Business, and Life Mastery focused coaching and training experience. “You don’t have to be afraid of what you can do, just the people who tell you that you’re not capable of achieving anything great. They’ll fail and tell you it’s your fault they failed… but they’re wrong.”

“Yeah,” he responded as he put his hand on my shoulder. “It’s a hard road, it’s tough to remain focused in these seven hours a day breakthrough coaching with you, Tony, but I now see how it leads to freedom and, as you say in The Unfakeable Code®, Book, live freely on your terms.”

I smiled thinking about this; this was beautiful client feedback. He understood the value of fearlessness, even though he had experienced failure in the past.

You’ve just read about Factors That Influence Fear of Growing Into Your Fullest Potential. Now it’s time to take the next step and get started on your path to knowing the fears behind your repeated patterns, failures, and unfulfilled dreams. It’s time to expand your awareness of what’s possible beyond your perceived fears, grow your purpose, become an authentic individual, partner, and leader and activate purpose across your entire life, including your business.

Get in touch with me today! As your coaching partner, it will be an honour to work on addressing the issues that cause you headaches, pain, and frustrations and get you the clarity, the tools, and the plan that begins to grow you and your employees into the best purpose-driven leader possible. You’ll learn practical ways and skills to help you turn your fears into fuel for growth. You can inspire your employees and elevate them above their peers at competing companies while inspiring yourself as a leader.

There’s no reason you can’t grow into your fullest potential, have a co-loving relationship, develop your leadership skills, boost your business, attract better opportunities and clients,  and improve the well-being of your organisation.  I love sharing how to get the results and where you want to be by becoming more confident, sure, credible and capable of purposefully transforming in every area of your personal, professional and business life.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Live and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, and The Unfakeable Code®.

PS – I work on a virtual basis and in-person with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of personal, professional, and business goals. Here are four ways I can assist you in creating life-changing breakthroughs, growth, and accelerating your journey to excellent health, influence, transformational leadership and success.

#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an email to info@tonyselimi.com.

#2 … Grab your copy of my #1 Amazon bestselling and Multi-Award-Winning books, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and enrol in my Mindfulness for Higher Productivity, Performance, and Profitable Life Udemy Course! Click here to join thousands of my happy students.

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As the end of 2016 approaches, it is perfect time reflect on the year passed by, revaluate our life, and start planning the year ahead.

If you are ready to take the reins of your life and in need of some form of guidance then you have come to the rigth place. In this blog I am going to share with you five vital steps to help you consciously decide what is going to be in store for you in 2017.

For many people out there 2016 has been a turbulent year full of uncertainty, fear, and unexpected events that equally shocked and awakened humanity in profound ways.

Throughout history we have had similar events that brought about all of the good and bad things we today love or like to criticise.

The truth is all that we observe in life is the creation of our collective consciousness, but our human awareness barely recognizes this. We have become blinded to the existence of a higher order, the intelligence that governs all life, the equilibrium that already is in place, and our individual contribution.

It is precisely this vail that I observe in many of my clients who seek my help to accelerate their human and business potential.

Our brain is always balanced but our human awareness is blinded by our skewed perceptions and limiting beliefs. It is this that stops many people from creating the life they truly want and dream about.

All of the successful people that I have studied, been mentored by, and have come across know this. They all had mentors, coaches, and a great plan that they followed in order to achieve unprecedented success they now enjoy.

It is this same choice that I made back in 2010 that helped me accelerate my growth and create a very successful global coaching, training, speaking, and consulting business that I now love.

We hear it all the time, been told by our parents, society, friends, etc that succeeding at anything you need to work hard and it takes a lot of time to achieve the results we want.

Over the period of time they become our beliefs that subconsciously create the reality we so desperately want to change.

It is this kind of outdated beliefs that are running programs in your subconscious mind that sabotage your success. Many of you fall in the same trap that your parents, friends, and other people around you might be caught.

What coaching did for me and can do for you is to help you change this, to bring to your conscious awareness your beliefs that sabotage everything you may be working hard to create.

To help you accelerate your success it is essential to work with someone who can be a clean mirror and a fine tuned ear that picks up traces of injected values and beliefs that may be incapacitating your inborn abilities to succeed.

Up to 2010 I used to work very long hours to make ends meet. Like most people around me I felt frustrated, fearful of what future has on hold for me, and lacked the direction my life was going to take.

What happened in the last six years forever changed the way I perceive and create my reality. Instead of working hard for the things I wanted to achieve in my life, I now live daily with new empowering beliefs that support me to work smarter. I now help people do the same so just like me they too are also able to create conscious quantum jumps that pitch into existence the things they truly want.

Here are the five vital steps I use daily, teach my clients, and you too can adopt to accelerate your human potential and help you focus, plan, and create your desired outcomes in 2017.

Step 1: Clarify what Success means to You

One of the major problems that most of my clients face is the lack of clarity behind the success they are seeking. Before you go to step two, take pen and paper and write down how your life will change when you achieve the success you are seeking. For instance if you want more money, write down what will you do once you had money, what meaning will those experiences have for you.

Step 2: Create a Detailed Plan

A plan is like a road map that shows you where you are now and the best route to use to get to where you want to be. Being a student of wisdom I love learning from Dr John Demartini. In one of his seminars I heard him say “Those who fail to plan, plan to fail”. It is this that inspired me to create my Vital Planning for Elevated Living document that helped me accelerate my success and has now become very popular coaching program that clients from all professional backgrounds use to plan their purpose driven life.

Don’t just think “I have a plan in my head”, the truth is you won’t remember all the little twists and turns along the road…write it down in black and white and in as much detail as you can. Each and every day, do at least one thing that will advance your progress toward the outcomes you want to achieve in 2017 and beyond.

Step 3: Invest in Your Continues Learning

My grandfather used to say to me, the water that does not flow becomes polluted. Similarly, if you are not continuously learning, your knowledge becomes outdated and toxic for your body-mind and heart. Learn everything you can about what inspires you, invest in you by working with an expert to help you advance your learning. Knowledge is power. Surround yourself with people that achieved the success you are seeking, and find ways to serve people who are seeking the knowledge and the success you already have achieved.
Step 4: Find a Great Role Model, Coach or a Mentor

If you start to associate with someone who has succeeded in the field you are pursuing, associate yourself as closely as you can with that person. Get them to be your mentor, coach, or find ways to be of service to them. First-hand knowledge is more valuable than any other kind. Successful people have already made mistakes and they can help you avoid some pitfalls. They can open doors for you that would remain firmly closed without their help.

The truth is, the more you learn about yourself, the more you can organize this information in ways that you can easily access when you need it. The more you invest in your personal and business development, the faster you will grow. Continues investment in myself helped me become a global expert in human behaviour and cognition known as The See-Through Coach. A best-selling and five times award-winning author who now loves helping the owners of 6,7,8 and 9 figure businesses resolve problems, advance their learning, and accelerate their results whatever they may be.
Step 5: Take Action and Apply What You Learn

I come across so many amazing people who have spent years of learning that are struggling in their life. The only thing that stops them is not having the clarity required in order for them to apply what they know and take the appropriate action to achieve the success they want. Make sure you use the knowledge that you gain from your coach, mentor, seminars you attend or from doing your own research and put it into action now.

The overnight success people observe in me happened because I chose daily to not take “no” for an answer. When I get knocked down…I tell yourself to get up. When a door closes…I find ways to crawl through a window. If you too did what successful people do, you too one day end up becoming an overnight success in the eyes of those who did not take action during the time you kept trying.

If you find yourself stuck in situations that stress you out or make you frustrated, take action now and make 2017 the year you accelerate your success. If you have procrastinated about stuff for months or even years – perhaps being more confident, address mental or emotional issues, getting fit, starting your own business or finding a loving partner – why not make 2017 the year you really go for it!

If your life has been a bit flat for a while, make 2017 the year you embrace something amazing! Experience the world in a different way, step out of your comfort zone, be daring.

I have a selection of Coaching Programs that together with my signature five day Vital Planning for Elevated Living Program will help you get your life back on track, do what you love and be abundantly rewarded, so what are you waiting for?

Schedule a clarity coaching consultation in 2017 and start taking back control of your life, your business, your organization.

If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. Check out the events calendar to attend any of my talks and seminars in 2017. Get in touch to help you inspire your audience, book a consultation, or learn more about my work. You start reading, learning and growing by daily taking ACTION!

We are born whole, yet from the moment we come into this world we are constantly told by our parents, the religion in which we were born into, and the schools that we attend that we are not. We are programmed to constantly seek validation that we are good enough from external sources and create the illusion of not being good enough within ourselves.

The truth is, it is impossible to go through our childhood, teenage years, and adulthood without some situations or someone infecting you with the belief that you are not enough. That unless you do something that others want you to do, you are made to feel you are not worthy of love. It is precisely this feeling of unworthiness that it is the root cause of the many of the humanity’s problems such as illness, poverty, high divorce rates, rise in extremism, nationalism, phobia’s, etc.

This way of perceiving our reality from a place of not being good enough is extremely painful to our human experience and therefore we spend most of our lives trying to proof we are good enough.

The feeling of not being good enough is one of the major catalysts that changes, controls, and commands our behavior, attitude, and affects the quality of our life. It also impacts our self-esteem, self-worth, and in general our overall well-being.

If you are someone who is seeking a way out of your current situation and a way in into a new reality that is more favorable to you, then you may want to keep reading on. Reason being, I am going to share with you what one powerful practice you can do daily to fill the empty hole that you feel inside from within yourself.

In every coin there are two sides, similarly, for every negative emotion, there is the opposite positive emotion that in most cases we unconsciously do not acknowledge.

For instance, this feeling of not being good enough also has a positive side, it can drive us towards achieving some astronomical goal and inspire us to become legendary. For instance, my drive to proof to my parents that I am good enough helped me go from living homeless in the streets of London, to obtaining an Engineering degree at one of the UK’s prestigious university – University College London (UCL). It also drove me to climb the career ladder, become a successful entrepreneur, and internationally award-winning author of two books.

Having spent over twenty years doing personal, professional, and spiritual development, I know now that this is not the most optimal path to achieving success, wellness, and most importantly wholeness. Reason being, doing things in your life to disapprove the model of not being good enough comes with high cost, in worst cases it costs you your health, wealth, and most importantly your time.

This way of living your life is what makes you give your power away and become dependent on others to validate your worth. Daily I see many clients who come to me for a whole range of problems, from health related issues to relationship, money, business, or leadership challenges. Recently, a client of mine who is a successful CEO came to see me because he felt his children did not appreciate him for everything he was giving them. This grow into anger, frustrations, and tremendous resentments towards his wife and his kids.

When he would come home his expectation was for his children to behave in certain way, when they would not meet his expectations he would feel rejected, unworthy, and not good enough.

This is a common behavior for many people that expect to be praised, validated, and noticed. If this expectation is not met, then they go into a tantrum, some people like my CEO client felt unappreciated, not respected, and deep down rejected.

For most of you, it is difficult to see this underlying behavior, as in those moments when this happens, you will not literally think that you are not enough.

Having read over 20,000 books from various life disciplines, attended many seminars on personal, spiritual and business development as well as working with some of the world’s best experts, I concluded that the voids we try to fill do not come as a result of rational choice – but instead by conditioning and habit. And thus, many of us live our lives feeling not good enough based on limiting crules and outdated cbeliefs about pretty much everything – health, relationships, career, education, love, work, money, parenting, sex, and so much more—which we inherit and pass on from generation to generation.

But, what if you could find most effective ways to fill in your voids that you seek in others from within yourself? What would your reality look like if you could forget the crules, brules, chabits of the past, and redefine what wholeness means for you?

This is exactly what the TJS Evolutionary Method that I use in my daily coaching practice to assist people from all walks can do for you, support you in your journey to filling an invisible hole you feel inside.

Use the first of the five step TJS Evolutionary Method to consciously engineer the reality in which you experience balance, gratitude, and feeling whole.

Acknowledge the people who trigger your emotions as they are the perfect teachers to address the unconscious voids that keep you seeking validation from outside of yourself.

For instance, if you get triggered by someone criticizing your way of parenting, then find that part of yourself that loves to criticize others, this is what is normally referred too as your disowned part.

To do so, list all of emotions you experience in that moment you feel criticized, as they are there to help you find your voids.

By owning these disowned parts of yourself i.e. recognizing that you have this trait in yourself, you start to change your behavior. In doing so, instead of pointing out the finger outwardly, thank them for being the mirror to recognize your disowned traits. This modification in your behavior is what will help you step into your true power, the one that comes from experiencing the wholeness of your being.

There are many self-help books that mention universal laws that help you break free from the shackles of not being good enough. In my best-selling book A Path to Wisdom you can learn the rest of the TJS Evolutionary Method and the other steps that you can use daily to help you address the feelings of not being good enough and equip you with the knowledge and the tools required to live in a state of wholeness.

For those of you who are already well ahead in your personal, professional and spiritual development you may also want to read my newly published international award-winning book #Loneliness –The Virus of The Modern Age where I share in more details the amount of crules (crap rules), cbeliefs (crap beliefs), and cbehaviours (crap behaviours) that are at the root cause of not feeling good enough, being rejected, and the cause of life adversities that can take you deep down into the wretched caves of isolation and deep loneliness.

Lastly, learn to dance with the angel and the devil in you that represent the many counterparts of the polar opposite of the “good” and the “bad” sides of your being, be curious about any external triggers that may put you out of equilibrium, acknowledge them, and open your heart to the power of the infinite wisdom that resides in the vibration of love.

If you are ready to breakthrough the things that keep you in the loop of not being good enough and live a more connected, inspired and purposeful life then say yes now, book a clarity coaching consultation, and get in touch asap.

To your success, dreams and abundance!

There comes a moment in our lives where no matter what we do, we don’t seem to see an end to our troubles. We end up feeling emotional, down, and hopeless. We lose faith in our abilities, we start to ride a never ending emotional rollercoaster, and we end up feeling vulnerable to the external stimulants that have the power to create an emotional storm.

When this happens, just like the many of the clients I see daily, many of you too end up closing down, withdrawing, and pushing away the people who may be there in your reality to help you grow. It is during this time that you can understand better the reasons you feel that way and get the clarity required for you to go from feeling hopeless to being inspired and stepping into your greatness.

It is rather strange, that it is also in such moments that we stumble across people who feel amazing, are successful, and are living inspired lives. They radiate confidence, kindness, and have a very smart appeal that deep down within ourselves we tend to resent them for and equally find them irresistibly attractive.

They tend to be funny, loving, trustworthy and most of all passionate in what they do. If you make a choice you too can change the destination called hopelessness. No, this is not a blog post to tell you all about somebody who has high self-worth, self-esteem, or self-confidence so that you feel even worse about yourself.

This is not a post to talk about how everything in other people’s life is going perfectly and so can everything in your life. Also, this is not a post that is going to tell you that the world is actually less complicated, less difficult and less challenging than it actually is. This is a post to awaken you, to remind you that no matter what you are going through in your life, you have a voice. And you are important.

Whilst the world may not be perfect and you may feel hopeless at times, one important thing to remember is that you are not alone and things will get better… but you have to use your reasoning, your choice, and your voice.

Recently I delivered a speech at The Inspired Stage on the value of the instrument you all play-your voice. Your voice is your own. It is your own personal projection of the way you are inside. It is the voice of your opinions, of your thoughts, of your emotions.

It is the way in which you inform and communicate to the world about your aspirations, the struggles, the achievements, the good things and the bad things you go through. By using your voice, you are able to express yourself to the world in a way that only you can do.

My talk with the audience at The Inspired Stage was about the importance of using our voice by first telling the audience that I know what it is like to be a refugee, depressed, and homeless. I know the deep, dark despair found in the Syrian refugees that are being uprooted from their homes is the feeling of homeless, hopeless, and fearful.

Once I was a person who thought of me as kind, smart, funny and loving, I slipped into a depression, helplessness, and my self made inner prison during the times when after the civil war in former Yugoslavia broke out, I ended up homeless in the streets of London.

The fact that I was only 19, alone with no family, friends or roof over my head I went through very severe bullying as a refugee and someone who sought safe haven in UK from the atrocities of civil war.

I became very depressed and very suicidal and actually attempted suicide as back then I thought there was nothing more to lose.

While I was in the lowest point of my life, I also began to question myself and my identity. I began to question why I am here, how come many of my comrades died and I survived, and what is it I can do to take back the direction my life was going. I questioned everything about my life, my ability to speak, to be happy, be great and even to live a purposeful life.

But I know I was rescued by the many people that fortune put on my path. It is in their kindness, compassion, and love that I found the strength to overcome the post war depression, the fears from living my life in a limbo, and from not knowing if I will ever see my family again.

Despite feeling hopeless, despite feeling as if I was not valuable, worthy, and despite feeling like I didn’t want to live on this planet anymore, deep down I felt a connection with something greater than I have ever experienced before. It is this inner voice that spoke up to me, it is the love that many people showered me with that became the light that started to shine my path from the darkness that had enveloped my heart.

I knew then I had to listen to my inner voice and the many people that God put on my path or I would end up losing the life that I was born to live. The point here is that I was not strong enough to use my voice, so the many people who fortune put on my path became my voice that slowly started to take me into hope, gratitude, and access my greatness.

I was strong enough to tell few of the people I had developed trusts of my suicidal thoughts, but I was not strong enough to ask for help outright. By making the choice to listen to this inner voice, I saved my life.

If you are someone going through feeling hopeless, acknowledge within yourself the voice that knows that no matter what you are going through, you have a voice and you are important. You too can connect to your authentic voice, listen to your cry for help that can help you prevent from potentially feeling overwhelmed, depressed, and in the worst case scenario commit suicide.

Thus, the importance of using your voice, have coach, or a mentor to help you through this journey is priceless. It could save your life or even the life of a friend. We have all heard it before the saying “There is a light at the end of that tunnel.” The truth is that back then, at the age of twenty, with no family, no income, and no friends my tunnel was black, and so was the many people I came across on my frequent trips to the Home Office in Croydon.

Remember, no matter what you are going through in your life, you are a voice, an authentic being, and you are important. Use your voice. It is the only thing that is uniquely yours that can help you communicate the greatness that lives in every cell of your body. It could save your life. It could save the life of a friend, and it could save your relationship too. Either way, when you’re feeling helpless you need to listen to your voice and the ALARMs that your body is sending you and make sure you communicate them to someone. That is the only way anybody will ever know you need help, that you need support. It’s okay to need that, it’s not okay to not voice your need.

To unleash your greatness be ready to act on those emotions that can put you in the prison of your creation and do what the greatest achievers do in order to rise to be the best in world in their work and personal lives.

To help those who get a thrill in wanting to make the choice to go from hopelessness to greatness in their own lives, in their way of being, as well as create lives they adore I created TJS Evolutionary Method: The ALARM and TJS Meditation Solutions that you can learn this powerful tool that you can use to achieve greatness in all of the eight key areas of life: Spiritual, mental, Emotional, Physical, Business, finances, relationships and money.

Meditation is scientifically proven to aid your healing process, you can download them directly from ITunes, you can get your copy of the book and find the links to these powerful meditations by going to http://www.apathtowisdom.com

And I know you totally get that your days (and mine) are numbered. So this day’s the right day to start living FULL ON…

With this outcome in mind, I spent many hours reflecting on and then writing 5 of my best ideas for living in a way that will cause you to be in your greatness and make history…

May these 5 insights fuel your rise. And transform your inner game…‎

#1. ‎Dream up a vision so brave it makes all around you roll with laughter. Or reply with ridicule.

#2. Care a lot more about how many people you help than how helpless you feel inside.

#3. Become the master of your craft. The undisputed titan of your field. And–quite simply–the best there ever was.

#4. Protect your pristine reputation. It’s an asset of priceless value. And each day, make your good name worth even more by doing acts of excellence, work that astonishes and gestures that inspire.

#5. When you feel helpless, feel the pain. And then make a choice to stand up. You were born for victory. Use failure as your fuel to propel you to your greatness.

If you are ready to balance your emotions, overcome procrastination, and get deeper within your consciousness to find the root cause of you feeling hopeless, take the next step and book yourself a two hour clarity coaching consultation and let me help you in your journey to unleashing your greatness. To book click Here!

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Ok. That’s it for today. Worked hard on this post. Hope it is super valuable, inspirational, and the following five steps are actionable! Until next time, let me take this opportunity to say a big thank you and I love you to all the wonderful team at The Inspired Stage for creating a platform for speakers to Inspire People from all walks of life to be their greatness. In my next book #Loneliness The Virus of The Modern Age I go into much deeper on the global issues that we are all facing now and in the many years to come.

Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things…make today, that day you listen to your call to Greatness!

Be great, awesome, and healthy,