At times of unprecedented uncertainty created by the outbreak of the Coronavirus pandemic, many of you are sitting at home wondering when will this all end? What is the prolonged impact on your life, and what will the future hold for you.

Here is the Good News!

As a human being, you are equipped with powerful tools. One is your ability to adapt, change, and find solutions to challenges presented to you. But, what most of you and companies struggle with is knowing how to apply those God-given abilities with integrity.

Why?

Because you can’t fake integrity! Building a reputation of integrity takes years, but it takes only a second to lose. With time passing by, people don’t remember your successes of failure, or what you did or did not do for them. They’ll remember you by how well you treated them and how you made them feel.

I often teach my clients; success comes and goes. Building a reputation of integrity is what changes, saves and transforms your life for better and forever. It is wise never to allow yourself to do anything that would damage your honesty, for it creates negative karma that destroys the results of all the hard work you may have put all your life.

Your dishonesty is what breaks partnerships that can transform your life, and damages all of your relationships, especially the one you have with your body, mind, heart and soul. The consequences of your lack of integrity are far-reaching. They will show up in your life as physical health problems, business failures, loneliness, rejection, lack of meaningful relationship, separation from the people who helped you get where you are, financial problems, relationship conflicts, and being seen as fake.

In the last few weeks, I have had an increase in clients booking Skype sessions looking to overcome fears, doubts, and clarify what it is they must do now to transform their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. Many of them experienced emotional charges associated with the current crisis, conspiracy theories, and the loss of identity and income. Others were searching for ways to re-invent and better adapt their business in the new conditions and help them put in place a stage plan for when all of this will be over.

Most of these people who booked are confident, strongminded, and success-driven CEO’s of prominent corporations, business owners, professional people and entrepreneurs who put growth, wealth and integrity high on their priority of values.

But, as I started to question particular actions, choices and decisions they call came to acknowledge the lack of integrity within their values. It showed up in their way of being, doing, and thinking about the long term cost of not upholding their values.

Here are the top five behaviours I observe over and over in my clients, businesses I have consulted, and the people I meet daily that are guaranteed to damage your integrity and alter your long term achievements and success in life:

1. Telling lies to mask your insecurities, intentions, and toxic behaviours.
2. Crossing personal, professional and business boundaries and manipulating others to get what you want.
3. Going silent when you are not honouring your promises and contractual agreements.
4. Ignoring people’s messages, calls, and personal or professional responsibilities.
5. You talk the talk, but you don’t walk the walk.

Before sharing the five reasons on how integrity can transform your life, let’s look at what integrity means. Integrity stems from the Latin word ‘integer’ which means whole and complete. So integrity requires for you to develop an inner sense of ‘wholeness’ and consistency of character.

In my upcoming book “The Unfakeable Code” I share how people can visibly see your integrity through your actions, words, decisions, methods, and outcomes. When you are ‘whole’ and consistent, there is only one you show to the world. You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance.

You don’t put on a mask to feed your disempowered persona’s you may have developed since childhood. You don’t leave parts of yourself behind. You don’t have a ‘dating you’, a ‘family you,’ a ‘social you’ and a ‘work you.’ You are YOUR UNFAKEABLE AUTHENTIC YOU all the time.

Given the real definition of integrity, you may recognise that it is challenging to be in honesty 100% of the time. This is why so many of my clients have taken the stay at home opportunity to focus them on doing the inner work focused on mindset and spiritual transformation.

And here are five reasons why integrity can change, save and transform your business, personal and professional life.

1. Your masked personas can mess up all of your critical areas of life by justifying your actions and behaviours using the “I am honouring my values” excuse. But your true, unfakeable, and authentic being by default aspires to be in integrity with what you and others value. It makes every effort to communicate in other peoples values and create win-win-win situations for all concerned.
2. It is a scientific fact that emotions get the best of you, can cause physical, emotional and mental illness. You feel unable to manage your behaviours, actions intentionally, and don’t permit yourself to be your true self out of fear of what others may think. Being in integrity with yourself helps you master your emotions and truly ‘integrate’ the various parts of yourself into ONE, complete WHOLE person you show to the world.
3. No matter if you are someone working for a company, a solopreneur, business owner, or a leader of a country, people don’t collaborate, engage, or trust those who lack integrity. Showing up with integrity consistently at times of crisis and blessings will lead to being known as someone they can rely on, trust, and go to for advice, service or shoulder to lean on.
4. How others view, you can close many doors or open many opportunities. It’s one thing to ponder how you think you’re perceived, but quite another to know for sure. Talk to your spouse, friends, coach, manager, employees and network contacts outside of the company about what you don’t and do well. Make it a priority in daily living with integrity, and it is what people take into consideration how they view you. Do actions that restore broken relationships and trust.
5. Living with integrity improves your ability to live and lead authentically. How honest or accurate are your behaviours, activities, and words with other people that you interact or influence depend on your intentionality and thought? I consulted recently with a CEO who on our initial session told me how much he cares deeply about values. Yet on further questioning, he realised he is out of integrity because there is a lack of honesty and authenticity in how he behaves in his everyday life. While he said that he cares about his relationship, he communicates aggressively when challenged and spends very little time with his family. While he said he cares about teamwork, he doesn’t listen to others and gets defensive when challenged with different views. He kept preaching about creating a culture of love but publicly criticises and demeans employees he had no time or respect.

Integrity is about being the same regardless of the situation. If your mood changes by the day and make rash decisions on certain days, yet calm and engaging on other days, then you are inconsistent with your actions, values and outcomes.

To remain in integrity is a conscious choice that you are capable of making every single day, even when the situation or environment is not great. You will recognise a person with integrity no matter what the environment is, being with family, friends, church, or at a boardroom. You will observe the consistency in their behaviour, actions, and words.

Working on living a life with integrity not only develops your character and wholeness but also determines how successful you become in life. You can build your integrity through various means, such as reading, getting coached, listening to the counsel of others, going to personal and leadership development courses, and reflecting daily on what is. It is not working in all of the critical areas of life.
The more you live with integrity, the more you enrol others to be on the same journey, the more others are drawn to you, the more opportunities you attract, and the more you inspire others to be on the same route of a lifelong pursuit of ‘wholeness’ and ultimately, INTEGRITY.

With love and wisdom
Tony J. Selimi

P>S. Don’t suffer alone, during the Corona Virus lockdown and stays at home period, I work on a virtual basis with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of their business, personal and professional goals. To book a real-time Crisis Management Sessions and solve your immediate problems via Skype, providing there is a compelling fit of values and vision, please email my PA at info@tonyselimi.com for payment information and arrange your Skype session.

There comes a moment in our lives where no matter what we do, we don’t seem to see an end to our troubles. We end up feeling emotional, down, and hopeless. We lose faith in our abilities, we start to ride a never ending emotional rollercoaster, and we end up feeling vulnerable to the external stimulants that have the power to create an emotional storm.

When this happens, just like the many of the clients I see daily, many of you too end up closing down, withdrawing, and pushing away the people who may be there in your reality to help you grow. It is during this time that you can understand better the reasons you feel that way and get the clarity required for you to go from feeling hopeless to being inspired and stepping into your greatness.

It is rather strange, that it is also in such moments that we stumble across people who feel amazing, are successful, and are living inspired lives. They radiate confidence, kindness, and have a very smart appeal that deep down within ourselves we tend to resent them for and equally find them irresistibly attractive.

They tend to be funny, loving, trustworthy and most of all passionate in what they do. If you make a choice you too can change the destination called hopelessness. No, this is not a blog post to tell you all about somebody who has high self-worth, self-esteem, or self-confidence so that you feel even worse about yourself.

This is not a post to talk about how everything in other people’s life is going perfectly and so can everything in your life. Also, this is not a post that is going to tell you that the world is actually less complicated, less difficult and less challenging than it actually is. This is a post to awaken you, to remind you that no matter what you are going through in your life, you have a voice. And you are important.

Whilst the world may not be perfect and you may feel hopeless at times, one important thing to remember is that you are not alone and things will get better… but you have to use your reasoning, your choice, and your voice.

Recently I delivered a speech at The Inspired Stage on the value of the instrument you all play-your voice. Your voice is your own. It is your own personal projection of the way you are inside. It is the voice of your opinions, of your thoughts, of your emotions.

It is the way in which you inform and communicate to the world about your aspirations, the struggles, the achievements, the good things and the bad things you go through. By using your voice, you are able to express yourself to the world in a way that only you can do.

My talk with the audience at The Inspired Stage was about the importance of using our voice by first telling the audience that I know what it is like to be a refugee, depressed, and homeless. I know the deep, dark despair found in the Syrian refugees that are being uprooted from their homes is the feeling of homeless, hopeless, and fearful.

Once I was a person who thought of me as kind, smart, funny and loving, I slipped into a depression, helplessness, and my self made inner prison during the times when after the civil war in former Yugoslavia broke out, I ended up homeless in the streets of London.

The fact that I was only 19, alone with no family, friends or roof over my head I went through very severe bullying as a refugee and someone who sought safe haven in UK from the atrocities of civil war.

I became very depressed and very suicidal and actually attempted suicide as back then I thought there was nothing more to lose.

While I was in the lowest point of my life, I also began to question myself and my identity. I began to question why I am here, how come many of my comrades died and I survived, and what is it I can do to take back the direction my life was going. I questioned everything about my life, my ability to speak, to be happy, be great and even to live a purposeful life.

But I know I was rescued by the many people that fortune put on my path. It is in their kindness, compassion, and love that I found the strength to overcome the post war depression, the fears from living my life in a limbo, and from not knowing if I will ever see my family again.

Despite feeling hopeless, despite feeling as if I was not valuable, worthy, and despite feeling like I didn’t want to live on this planet anymore, deep down I felt a connection with something greater than I have ever experienced before. It is this inner voice that spoke up to me, it is the love that many people showered me with that became the light that started to shine my path from the darkness that had enveloped my heart.

I knew then I had to listen to my inner voice and the many people that God put on my path or I would end up losing the life that I was born to live. The point here is that I was not strong enough to use my voice, so the many people who fortune put on my path became my voice that slowly started to take me into hope, gratitude, and access my greatness.

I was strong enough to tell few of the people I had developed trusts of my suicidal thoughts, but I was not strong enough to ask for help outright. By making the choice to listen to this inner voice, I saved my life.

If you are someone going through feeling hopeless, acknowledge within yourself the voice that knows that no matter what you are going through, you have a voice and you are important. You too can connect to your authentic voice, listen to your cry for help that can help you prevent from potentially feeling overwhelmed, depressed, and in the worst case scenario commit suicide.

Thus, the importance of using your voice, have coach, or a mentor to help you through this journey is priceless. It could save your life or even the life of a friend. We have all heard it before the saying “There is a light at the end of that tunnel.” The truth is that back then, at the age of twenty, with no family, no income, and no friends my tunnel was black, and so was the many people I came across on my frequent trips to the Home Office in Croydon.

Remember, no matter what you are going through in your life, you are a voice, an authentic being, and you are important. Use your voice. It is the only thing that is uniquely yours that can help you communicate the greatness that lives in every cell of your body. It could save your life. It could save the life of a friend, and it could save your relationship too. Either way, when you’re feeling helpless you need to listen to your voice and the ALARMs that your body is sending you and make sure you communicate them to someone. That is the only way anybody will ever know you need help, that you need support. It’s okay to need that, it’s not okay to not voice your need.

To unleash your greatness be ready to act on those emotions that can put you in the prison of your creation and do what the greatest achievers do in order to rise to be the best in world in their work and personal lives.

To help those who get a thrill in wanting to make the choice to go from hopelessness to greatness in their own lives, in their way of being, as well as create lives they adore I created TJS Evolutionary Method: The ALARM and TJS Meditation Solutions that you can learn this powerful tool that you can use to achieve greatness in all of the eight key areas of life: Spiritual, mental, Emotional, Physical, Business, finances, relationships and money.

Meditation is scientifically proven to aid your healing process, you can download them directly from ITunes, you can get your copy of the book and find the links to these powerful meditations by going to http://www.apathtowisdom.com

And I know you totally get that your days (and mine) are numbered. So this day’s the right day to start living FULL ON…

With this outcome in mind, I spent many hours reflecting on and then writing 5 of my best ideas for living in a way that will cause you to be in your greatness and make history…

May these 5 insights fuel your rise. And transform your inner game…‎

#1. ‎Dream up a vision so brave it makes all around you roll with laughter. Or reply with ridicule.

#2. Care a lot more about how many people you help than how helpless you feel inside.

#3. Become the master of your craft. The undisputed titan of your field. And–quite simply–the best there ever was.

#4. Protect your pristine reputation. It’s an asset of priceless value. And each day, make your good name worth even more by doing acts of excellence, work that astonishes and gestures that inspire.

#5. When you feel helpless, feel the pain. And then make a choice to stand up. You were born for victory. Use failure as your fuel to propel you to your greatness.

If you are ready to balance your emotions, overcome procrastination, and get deeper within your consciousness to find the root cause of you feeling hopeless, take the next step and book yourself a two hour clarity coaching consultation and let me help you in your journey to unleashing your greatness. To book click Here!

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Ok. That’s it for today. Worked hard on this post. Hope it is super valuable, inspirational, and the following five steps are actionable! Until next time, let me take this opportunity to say a big thank you and I love you to all the wonderful team at The Inspired Stage for creating a platform for speakers to Inspire People from all walks of life to be their greatness. In my next book #Loneliness The Virus of The Modern Age I go into much deeper on the global issues that we are all facing now and in the many years to come.

Believe in the call on your life to do amazing things…make today, that day you listen to your call to Greatness!

Be great, awesome, and healthy,