At times of unprecedented uncertainty created by the outbreak of the Coronavirus pandemic, many of you are sitting at home wondering when will this all end? What is the prolonged impact on your life, and what will the future hold for you.

Here is the Good News!

As a human being, you are equipped with powerful tools. One is your ability to adapt, change, and find solutions to challenges presented to you. But, what most of you and companies struggle with is knowing how to apply those God-given abilities with integrity.

Why?

Because you can’t fake integrity! Building a reputation of integrity takes years, but it takes only a second to lose. With time passing by, people don’t remember your successes of failure, or what you did or did not do for them. They’ll remember you by how well you treated them and how you made them feel.

I often teach my clients; success comes and goes. Building a reputation of integrity is what changes, saves and transforms your life for better and forever. It is wise never to allow yourself to do anything that would damage your honesty, for it creates negative karma that destroys the results of all the hard work you may have put all your life.

Your dishonesty is what breaks partnerships that can transform your life, and damages all of your relationships, especially the one you have with your body, mind, heart and soul. The consequences of your lack of integrity are far-reaching. They will show up in your life as physical health problems, business failures, loneliness, rejection, lack of meaningful relationship, separation from the people who helped you get where you are, financial problems, relationship conflicts, and being seen as fake.

In the last few weeks, I have had an increase in clients booking Skype sessions looking to overcome fears, doubts, and clarify what it is they must do now to transform their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. Many of them experienced emotional charges associated with the current crisis, conspiracy theories, and the loss of identity and income. Others were searching for ways to re-invent and better adapt their business in the new conditions and help them put in place a stage plan for when all of this will be over.

Most of these people who booked are confident, strongminded, and success-driven CEO’s of prominent corporations, business owners, professional people and entrepreneurs who put growth, wealth and integrity high on their priority of values.

But, as I started to question particular actions, choices and decisions they call came to acknowledge the lack of integrity within their values. It showed up in their way of being, doing, and thinking about the long term cost of not upholding their values.

Here are the top five behaviours I observe over and over in my clients, businesses I have consulted, and the people I meet daily that are guaranteed to damage your integrity and alter your long term achievements and success in life:

1. Telling lies to mask your insecurities, intentions, and toxic behaviours.
2. Crossing personal, professional and business boundaries and manipulating others to get what you want.
3. Going silent when you are not honouring your promises and contractual agreements.
4. Ignoring people’s messages, calls, and personal or professional responsibilities.
5. You talk the talk, but you don’t walk the walk.

Before sharing the five reasons on how integrity can transform your life, let’s look at what integrity means. Integrity stems from the Latin word ‘integer’ which means whole and complete. So integrity requires for you to develop an inner sense of ‘wholeness’ and consistency of character.

In my upcoming book “The Unfakeable Code” I share how people can visibly see your integrity through your actions, words, decisions, methods, and outcomes. When you are ‘whole’ and consistent, there is only one you show to the world. You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance.

You don’t put on a mask to feed your disempowered persona’s you may have developed since childhood. You don’t leave parts of yourself behind. You don’t have a ‘dating you’, a ‘family you,’ a ‘social you’ and a ‘work you.’ You are YOUR UNFAKEABLE AUTHENTIC YOU all the time.

Given the real definition of integrity, you may recognise that it is challenging to be in honesty 100% of the time. This is why so many of my clients have taken the stay at home opportunity to focus them on doing the inner work focused on mindset and spiritual transformation.

And here are five reasons why integrity can change, save and transform your business, personal and professional life.

1. Your masked personas can mess up all of your critical areas of life by justifying your actions and behaviours using the “I am honouring my values” excuse. But your true, unfakeable, and authentic being by default aspires to be in integrity with what you and others value. It makes every effort to communicate in other peoples values and create win-win-win situations for all concerned.
2. It is a scientific fact that emotions get the best of you, can cause physical, emotional and mental illness. You feel unable to manage your behaviours, actions intentionally, and don’t permit yourself to be your true self out of fear of what others may think. Being in integrity with yourself helps you master your emotions and truly ‘integrate’ the various parts of yourself into ONE, complete WHOLE person you show to the world.
3. No matter if you are someone working for a company, a solopreneur, business owner, or a leader of a country, people don’t collaborate, engage, or trust those who lack integrity. Showing up with integrity consistently at times of crisis and blessings will lead to being known as someone they can rely on, trust, and go to for advice, service or shoulder to lean on.
4. How others view, you can close many doors or open many opportunities. It’s one thing to ponder how you think you’re perceived, but quite another to know for sure. Talk to your spouse, friends, coach, manager, employees and network contacts outside of the company about what you don’t and do well. Make it a priority in daily living with integrity, and it is what people take into consideration how they view you. Do actions that restore broken relationships and trust.
5. Living with integrity improves your ability to live and lead authentically. How honest or accurate are your behaviours, activities, and words with other people that you interact or influence depend on your intentionality and thought? I consulted recently with a CEO who on our initial session told me how much he cares deeply about values. Yet on further questioning, he realised he is out of integrity because there is a lack of honesty and authenticity in how he behaves in his everyday life. While he said that he cares about his relationship, he communicates aggressively when challenged and spends very little time with his family. While he said he cares about teamwork, he doesn’t listen to others and gets defensive when challenged with different views. He kept preaching about creating a culture of love but publicly criticises and demeans employees he had no time or respect.

Integrity is about being the same regardless of the situation. If your mood changes by the day and make rash decisions on certain days, yet calm and engaging on other days, then you are inconsistent with your actions, values and outcomes.

To remain in integrity is a conscious choice that you are capable of making every single day, even when the situation or environment is not great. You will recognise a person with integrity no matter what the environment is, being with family, friends, church, or at a boardroom. You will observe the consistency in their behaviour, actions, and words.

Working on living a life with integrity not only develops your character and wholeness but also determines how successful you become in life. You can build your integrity through various means, such as reading, getting coached, listening to the counsel of others, going to personal and leadership development courses, and reflecting daily on what is. It is not working in all of the critical areas of life.
The more you live with integrity, the more you enrol others to be on the same journey, the more others are drawn to you, the more opportunities you attract, and the more you inspire others to be on the same route of a lifelong pursuit of ‘wholeness’ and ultimately, INTEGRITY.

With love and wisdom
Tony J. Selimi

P>S. Don’t suffer alone, during the Corona Virus lockdown and stays at home period, I work on a virtual basis with clients all over the globe, facilitating the realisation and accomplishment of their business, personal and professional goals. To book a real-time Crisis Management Sessions and solve your immediate problems via Skype, providing there is a compelling fit of values and vision, please email my PA at info@tonyselimi.com for payment information and arrange your Skype session.

I just spent five extraordinary days at the Amsterdam International Film Festival 2018 with directors, filmmakers, scriptwriters, actors, and distributors from around the world.

The festival itself was founded by Carl Tooney to give independent film and script authors an opportunity to showcase their work, network with peers and submit themselves in competition for international filmmaker awards.

The festival is held in different locations around the world including London, Nice, Madrid, Milan and Amsterdam. It is a place where you can “seize the day” as you immerse yourself in the experience of watching films and documentaries across many genres and styles. It is a place where you can also meet amazing people, forge great friendships, find people to collaborate with on future projects and if lucky be nominated for an award and walk away with a trophy.

The phrase Carpe Diem was first used by the Roman poet Horace to express the idea that one should enjoy life while one can. This is the attitude that my client and co-creator of Living My Illusion Documentary Series Joel Van der Molen and me had throughout the festival.

In between films and every evening we got to know many film directors, scriptwriters, and the entire team behind this festival including Ray Davies, the co-founder of Film Industry Network, a platform designed to share film advice.

As someone who loves to know people, I took the opportunity to interview few of the film directors, music writers, and the marketing director of the festival Steve Grossmith, who kindly shared a lot of useful tips that every attendee of the festival could benefit.

In an age where domestic violence, addictions, loneliness, and depression is on the increase, Living My Illusion E1 – The Truth Hurts was co-created to shine a light on the toxic effects of suppressing your inner truth has on your mental, emotional, familial, physical, business, and financial health. The feedback we got from the festival goers was encouraging, humbling, and inspiring.

The Q & A that followed after the screening of our documentary was a testament to the importance of creating this timely documentary. It offers a mirror from which millions of people who find themselves in difficult situations can self-reflect and address the lies they tell themselves and the impact they have on their leadership style, family life, and the way they show up in the world. Little did we know that we would walk away with a trophy, be acknowledged in front of hundreds of amazing film directors from around the world and be selected as one of the winners.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank Carl and his team for organising such a wonderful event, to Adam Tinnion, Dan Hickford, Roy Abbots, Chelsey Baker, Mark Doree, Brad Blain, Neil McEwan, Paul Eyres, everyone who has supported us on this life-changing journey, all the people who attended this event and the judges who selected Living My Illusion – The Truth Hurts as the Winner in the Best Story Category of this prestigious Film Maker Award.

As someone who has helped thousands of people achieve a quantum leap in their personal, professional and business growth, I know that to be successful in business and every area in your life, it is essential for you to learn how to seize the day no matter what you do in life.

To help you unlock the opportunities that are presented to you in every moment in your life, I would like to share these three principles I teach my clients that you can use every day to help you take your business to the next level

Principle One: It’s not all about you

One of the problems I noticed in many of the filmmakers, scriptwriters and the great people I met at this event is that every time they engaged in a conversation with one another their focus was on them, their film, their work, and not on the person they were having a dialogue with. This way of communicating not only closes the doors that potentially your film may have created about you but also unintentionally you are creating the wrong image about you in other people’s mind. What you could do instead is to learn to communicate in a way that awakens the curiosity in others. After all, we all have a kid inside of us.

Principle Two: Give before you take

When engaging in a dialogue with an attitude of what I can get from you, the person you may be speaking to knows this. This way of speaking to people not only makes them disengaged, bored, and uninterested, but it also makes you look extremely egotistical. Instead, you can adopt an attitude of what I can help this person with. For instance, I noticed how Steve, the marketing director of the festival was interviewing so many people, but no one thought of interviewing him. I kindly asked him if he would like to be interviewed and share his wisdom with the hundreds of thousands of my facebook followers, some of whom happen to be in the film and documentary making industry. One of the great advice Steve shared with my audience is to “treat others as you would like to be treated.” It is what I refer as “A Winning Attitude” in my four times International #1 Amazon Best-selling Book A Path to Wisdom.

Principle Three: Know how to pitch

Many of the filmmakers and screenwriters I met consider themselves as artists and found it difficult to pitch their films. Whether you are a filmmaker, scriptwriter, distributor, event organiser, or a business owner, never underestimate the power of knowing how to pitch correctly. I see many people going to amazing events such as this one and walk away feeling disappointed, resentful and not getting what they want. Having successfully secured millions of pounds in business by using the power of the pitch, I started to teach all of my clients how to create a powerful pitch. Learning how to deliver a good pitch can close or open many doors, especially if you are a filmmaker seeking a distribution partner or an investor.

Remember, no matter where you are, whom you are with, and whatever you may find yourself doing you can train your awareness to be of service to others and seize the day.

With Love and Wisdom,

Tony J. Selimi – Helping You Accelerate, Maximise, and Unleash the Freedom in Your Potential

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In my recent TV interview with Zërijeta Jajaga for her show @Open I was asked:

Why would people not want to invest in the greatest asset -you? What is it that holds people back to have a coach or a mentor? What can coaches do for you?

There are many reasons why people may not use a coach. Some to mention are having lack of financial resources, not having personal development high on their highest values, time rstrictions, and in many cases simply not knowing what a great life coach can do for them.

I went on to explain to her audience that a Life Coach is someone who through powerful questioning is ale to be the mirror the client needs to reflect back at themselves the clarity, certainty, and credibility needed to make better life choices, decisions, and create the healthy habits designed to create their dream life.

Throughout centuries the greatest rulers of all times used trusted advisers to help them direct their kingdom and win wars. In the recent real life coaching Hollywood and Los Angeles Award Winning documentary “Living My Illusion,” that I co-created with my elite coaching clients Joel and Timea Van der Molen, it highlights how having a coach it is not a new age thing. In contrary, it is the advisory services of the great philosopher Aristotle that helped the world-conqueror Alexander the Great win battles and conquer new lands.

Many of you reading this article may know my story…

In 27 years I went from living homeless on the streets of London feeling depressed, anxious, lost, lonely, and rejected to climbing the corporate ladder, running multimillion/billion IT programs, being made redundant, and becoming successful entrepreneur, coach, author, and speaker who grew his business so dramatically it’s still hard to believe sometimes.

I went from serving a small number of private clients to serving a network of change makers, writing two books that became No:1 Amazon best sellers, and recently featuring in a ground breaking real life coaching documentary titled Living My Illusion. With my books, speaking, TV and Radio interviews as well as through this documentary I am now reaching out to people from almost every country on earth. Isn’t that incredible?

Three things that made the biggest difference…

Becoming a Key Person of Influence, creating Joint Ventures (JV), and consistently create products and services that resolve meaningful problems for people and business owners.

That’s why I’m so enthusiastic about recommending this strategy and spiritual intelligence path for you.

And it’s why I’m so enthusiastic about encouraging you to invest in you, as it is this investment in me that led to creating and attracting opportunities the results that I now enjoy having in my life.

As far as I know, TJS Evolutionary Method® is the most highly effective and comprehensive method that you can use to maximise your human potential, become a magnet for opportunites, and create JV that bring into existence your unique product and service.

No matter what niche you serve, you’ll find that building spiritual intelligence not only will help you remain balanced in all of the key areas of life, but also it will draw to you your ideal partners you wish to connect, collaborate, and co-create.

It is my twenty-seven years of overcoming life’s greatest adversity, learning from some of the best spiritual teachers, and consistently thrive to learn more that brought to fruition the two books that opened up the doors to many JV’s. The one I love most is with the founders of Vandercom, a telecommunication and IT service provider company, who invested in co-creating Living My Illusion Documentary Series.

The kind of spiritual intelligence that my clients gain through reading my books, working with me privately on one to one and one to many basis is not the one where you escape to silent retreats, take ayahuasca, or other drugs that make you hallucinate, it is one that helps you activate your most precious asset-YOU.

Here are three things you can do to help you attract what you want in your life by investing in you spiritual intelligence journey:

1. Stay away from any form of drugs. You have all the faculties required for you to create spiritual experiences naturally with no side effects. Whilst shortcuts may be very tempting, it also can create ireversible brain damage that I have seen in many people who use drugs as ways to grow spiritually.
2. Daily adopt one action that activates your ability to love. Gratitude is one of the many keys that opens your heart’s wisdom. Use it daily to be grateful for the things you have and don’t have in your life. Most people use gratitude for the things they have, in my experience to embrace the wholeness of life and be in sync with the laws of nature, it is essential to say thank you and I love you to both, the things we have and the things we don’t.
3. Create win-win joint ventures with people who believe in you, in your work, vision, and prefereably are already your clients who are doing your work. It is this that helped me create trustworthy joint ventures and partnerships with many of my clients from various sectors, markets, and industries.

To accelerate your results and successfully use these three points shared, hire a coach or a mentor who can help you get to where you want to be and with whom you wish to do JV’s.

As my vision expanded to reach one billion people, I hired a mentor who already is doing that and I partnered up with many people who love what I do. In doing so you not only going to open the doors to new opportunities and partnerships, but also meet amazing people through their network of clients.

I introduce all of my elite coaching clients to one another, because they are all growing inside out, they tend to get along extremly well as they share common values and end up forging great JV’s with one another. I also love to take them with me to amazing places to expose them to various learning environments where they can practice the effectiveness of the twenty-five conscious engineering steps of the TJS Evolutionary Method®, meet new people, and use spiritual intelligence to grow their business and enrich their lives.

If you want to be part of something bigger, then reach out to people, connect with them, and keep learning and investing in you. To get the same transformation my clients have when they started their journey with me, create joint ventures with inspired thought leaders, and evolve your soul, I invite you to book a private consultation with me and see what I can do to help you grow every area of your life and create JV that bring mutual growth, success, and connection.

My yearly coaching programms are customised to help you gain spiritual intelligence, life and business skills, and the wisdom required to build a gobal business and JV’s that help you reach as many people as possible with your important work.

To start your journey, please do get in touch with Alma by e-mailing  info@tonyselimi.com to learn how to activate your human potential, attract the perfect clients for you, and create the dream life that I now live and you deep down you know you deserve.