Hello growth seeker,

The question of why some individuals achieve financial success beyond their wildest dreams and why others struggle to make ends meet has puzzled many for decades. So, in this blog, I am to share some of the secrets to becoming financially wealthy and unveil the eight reasons some people get rich, backed by science and expertise.

I learned much about money from my parents, who were successful restaurateurs and land owners. We produced most of the fruit and vegetables we used for ourselves and in our restaurant on our farm. Before school, I would sell any surplus left to the local Albanian, Turkish, Macedonian, and Gipsy communities. On Tuesdays, I would accompany my grandfather Akik to the farmer’s market and learn the tricks of the stock trade. He made a great living from buying stock, keeping them for a few months, and reselling them at a profit.

Growing up on a farm in what is now known as North Macedonia, I actively contributed to the family budget in any form I could.

The same happened during my school holidays, as I spent them working in my parent’s restaurant in Zenica, Bosnia & Herzegovina.

I am with my dad Shaqir and my brother Selim in this picture.

In Zenica, I learned to cook, speak multiple languages, and master my stock-taking and financial accounting skills.

Little did I know that one day, those wealth-building skills I learned from my family would become so valuable decades later.

When the Yugoslav Civil War broke out in 1990, life as I knew it changed drastically.

Tony Jeton Selimi in the Yugoslav Army during the civil war. Victim of forced military conscription.

Army Days in the Yugoslav Civil War in 1990

When the civil war fell upon us, I was unwillingly conscripted from university by the Yugoslav army to fight in a civil war I despised.

My dream to graduate from one of the top engineering universities in Zagreb, Croatia, climb the corporate ladder, and one day have my own tech company were shattered to pieces. My parents lost almost everything they worked over five decades to create.

I went through experiences no teenager ever should. Eventually, my life was saved, and I ended up homeless in London.

The truth is, many of us only think about money in the long term once life circumstances for us.

It is the pain of losing it all that also forces us to do something about it. What I learned from a very young age helped me get up and do something about my dreadful situation. My parent’s voice to never chase money but to focus on finding ways to solve problems for others helped me start making money.

Fast forward, after three decades of overcoming challenge after challenge, winning battle after battle, and investing a lot of time, energy, and money in the cross-disciplinary study, research and experience of helping others generate more than a Billion pounds, I left my 9 to 5 senior information technology and started my entrepreneurial journey.

I published four multi-award-winning and #1 internationally best-selling books, some of which I have delved deep into this subject so others can become financially free.

On this equally harrowing and life-transforming journey, I discovered eight compelling reasons why some people get rich and others don’t. In this week’s Unfakeably Influence the World newsletter, I will present these reasons, supported by scientific evidence, real-life examples, and my expertise, along with how my wealth transformation coaching and book recommendations can empower you to become financially healthy.

Reason 1: Mindset and Beliefs

The power of the mind cannot be underestimated when it comes to financial success. Scientific research has shown that individuals with a growth mindset, those who believe they can improve their skills and abilities, tend to be more successful in accumulating wealth. On the other hand, those with a fixed mindset, thinking that their abilities are fixed, often struggle. By developing a growth mindset and adopting empowering beliefs about money, individuals can unlock their potential for financial success.

Take the case of my client John, who grew up with limited financial resources. Despite the challenges, over a year, through each coaching session, he cultivated a belief that he could achieve financial abundance. Furthermore, sharing my story gave him hope that if I could come to the UK as a teenage refugee of war who did not speak the language and build success, for which I am incredibly grateful, he could do it too. With this mindset, he started a successful business that enriched his life and positively impacted those around him.

Reason 2: Financial Education and Knowledge

Did you know that most lottery winners eventually end up broke? The reason is that with money comes enormous power and responsibility. Financial literacy plays a crucial role in wealth accumulation. Studies have highlighted that individuals knowledgeable about personal finance, investments, and money management tend to make more informed decisions that lead to financial prosperity. The good news is that financial education is accessible to everyone, and by investing time in learning the fundamental principles, individuals can pave the way towards financial health.

During covid, my client Sarah, a young professional, booked here self to do my Wealth Breakthrough Coaching Program as she recognised the importance of financial education early on. She dedicated herself to understanding how her beliefs and what was going on in her subconscious were impacting her money decisions. We worked on her investment strategies, money-making and saving techniques, and debt management. Armed with knowledge, she made wise financial choices, leading her to build a secure financial foundation.

Reason 3: Goal Setting and Planning

Every successful teacher I have ever worked with had a clear vision of their financial goals and created actionable plans. It inspired me to do the same, and now I use all the knowledge gained to teach others to do it. Research has shown that individuals who set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-bound, empowering, and results-focused (SMARTER) goals are more likely to experience financial success. Anyone can increase their chances of long-term economic prosperity by aligning their authentic values with their daily actions with measurable goals and implementing effective planning strategies.

In January this year, I started to coach Mark, a seasoned entrepreneur who recently shared that he credits his success to helping him neutralise his fears and grow his confidence and ability to set ambitious, achievable financial goals. His meticulous planning and consistent efforts in each coaching session and the time in between enabled him to build a multimillion-dollar business empire and secure his financial future.

Reason 4: Persistence and Resilience

The path to financial success could be smoother. Individuals who achieve wealth understand the importance of persistence and resilience. Research suggests that those who bounce back from failures, learn from setbacks, and keep going despite challenges are more likely to reach their financial goals. It is what I did after my future and identity were taken from me. Through struggle and continuous study, I learned to develop resilience and embrace failure as a stepping stone towards success. Those who commit their time, energy, and money to work with a qualified coach or a mentor can yield transformative results on the journey to financial wealth.

I met my client Thomas after I published The Unfakeable Code® book in 2021. Due to COVID, he faced multiple business failures before reaching unprecedented success. Despite the setbacks, he never gave up. He used each of the five-day Vital Planning advanced Life Mastery Program he attended to help him address and turn every failure into an opportunity to learn and grow, ultimately leading to his breakthrough moment.

Winning Reader’s Favourite Book Award for The Unfakeable Code®

Reason 5: Embracing Risk and Seizing Opportunities

Wealth accumulation often involves taking calculated risks and recognising opportunities others might overlook. Research indicates that individuals willing to step out of their comfort zones, carefully analyse risks, and capitalise on favourable opportunities are more likely to experience financial rewards. By developing a mindset that embraces calculated risks and staying open to new possibilities, individuals can unlock doors to wealth.

For example, Emma, a long-term friend who became a client in 2016 after attending the launch of my book #Loneliness, is an investor with a keen eye for opportunities. After watching my TEDx talk, Technological Armageddon: A Wake-Up Call, she started to work with me. In just a few weeks, we identified an emerging market trend. She took a calculated risk by investing in a groundbreaking technology startup, which yielded substantial returns and significantly boosted her financial status. Today, she is a multi-millionaire who spends her time with her family and doing philanthropic work.

Reason 6: Building a Network and Collaborating

Successful individuals understand the power of connections and collaborations. Research has shown that building a solid network of like-minded individuals provides access to valuable resources, mentorship, and growth opportunities. As an individual, you can tap into a vast wealth of knowledge and support by actively seeking out connections, networking, and collaborating with others.

When Alex booked a session with me, he was at crossroads. He was an aspiring entrepreneur, but his fear of not having a monthly cheque held him back. In one of our sessions, I suggested joining a business networking group. Through this network, he formed partnerships, gained valuable insights from experienced entrepreneurs, and leveraged the collective wisdom to help him start and grow his business faster than he ever thought possible.

Reason 7: Continuous Learning and Adaptability

Continuous learning and adaptability are essential for financial success in a rapidly changing world. Studies have highlighted that individuals who invest in personal and professional growth, stay updated on industry trends, and adapt to evolving market conditions are more likely to thrive financially. By embracing the lifelong learning philosophy embedded in me from a very young age, I ensured I stayed ahead of the curve and seized new opportunities as they came along.

My client Olivia, a corporate executive, recognised the importance of continuous learning. She enrolled in courses, attended conferences, and sought knowledge in her field. At some point last year, a friend recommended reading my book, A Path to Excellence. After she read it, she approached me and asked me for some executive coaching sessions. This commitment to ongoing learning enabled her to climb the corporate ladder and attain high financial success.

Reason 8: Taking Action and Seeking Expert Guidance

The most critical factor in achieving financial wealth is taking action. With implementation, even the best strategies and knowledge are rendered effective. As an individual, you can make tangible progress by taking consistent, focused action towards your financial goals. Additionally, seeking expert guidance, such as through coaching or reading books from trusted sources, provides valuable insights and support for financial success.

My client Michael, a young professional, realised he needed guidance to navigate the complexities of personal finance. He sought my human behaviour and transformational coaching expertise to provide personalised strategies and advice and keep him accountable. This guidance propelled him towards lasting financial health.

In conclusion, understanding why some people get rich while others don’t can empower individuals to take charge of their financial destinies. Anyone can embark on a journey towards financial wealth by embracing the right mindset, seeking financial education, setting goals, developing resilience, seizing opportunities, building networks, continuously learning, and seeking coaching expert guidance.

I trust that what I have shared has been of great value. To take your financial journey to the next level, I invite you to get in touch and book a coaching consultation with me. Together, we can tailor a personalised plan to unlock your full potential and guide you towards financial abundance. Also, I recommend delving into the wealth of knowledge in my books, where I share practical advice and insights on achieving financial health. To become financially wealthy, take action today by identifying one small financial goal and committing to achieving it. Whether starting a savings plan, investing in yourself, or seeking financial education, this small action can set you on a financially abundant future.

Remember, as an expert in the field, I firmly believe that financial wealth is within anyone’s reach. You can build a solid foundation for financial success with the right strategies, mindset, and guidance.

As I always say, “Financial wealth isn’t just a dream; it’s a reality waiting for you to unlock its potential.”

Get in touch today, and let’s embark on a journey towards your extraordinary financial future!

Love and Wisdom,

Tony J. Selimi

Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Life and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour and Maximising Human Potential.

Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur, the EXPY, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year Award. Silver Winner of Literary Book Award, USA Book, Book Excellence, Top Shelf Magazine, Readers’ Favourite, Quilly®, The FAPA President’s Book, Firebird, Literary Titan Golden, San Francisco Book Festival, The 2023 International Book, Reader’s Choice, Pacific Book, NYC Big Book and Maincreast Media Book Award for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and A Path to Excellence in the following categories: Personal Growth and Development, Self Improvement, Self Help, New-Age, Inspirational, Motivational, Entrepreneurship, and Business and Leadership

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Hi there, fellow growth seeker and change-maker!

Thirty-two years ago, following the atrocities of the civil, miraculously, my life was saved, and I find myself homeless on the streets of London. If someone told me back then that I would go on and accomplish all I have done since then, I would have never believed them.

But here I am, at the Beverly Hilton in Beverly Hills, Los Angeles, receiving the World Recognized Quilly® Award for hitting eight Amazon Best-Seller lists for The Unfakeable Code® must-read book guaranteed to inspire you to ditch the average persona and be an authentic leader. But don’t take my word for it. The award is presented to authors for being named to a nationally recognized bestseller list. I now join Peter Diamandis, Tom Hopkins and Mark Victor Hansen as a Quilly® Award recipients.

Trust me; it’s not my good looks or charming personality. My life commitment and unshakeable belief are that I am called to in the world. Hopefully, I will bestow upon as many of you as I can what has helped me heal, grow, and accomplish my wildest dreams.

More than ever, achieving personal and spiritual growth and unleashing your most significant potential is on everyone’s agenda. Regardless of what goal you want to achieve or what results you want to create, you need credibility, investment, and authority to make it happen.

No matter whom I coach, high achievers, leaders, business owners, celebrities, or CEOs of fortune 500 organizations, one thing they all have in common with any of you growth seekers is they too want to fulfil their ever-evolving voids, and ambitions, earn more, be excellent at what they do, make a significant difference, and enjoy the fruits of their success.

Before I share more, let me thank you for choosing to be part of the tribe that loves to Unfakeably Influence The World. I trust my previous LinkedIn newsletter topic, The Secrets to Achieving Wealth Breakthroughs, was valuable for you and your family, relationship, entrepreneurial, career, business, and financial success.

Having an incredible view over Beverly Hills is an excellent reminder of how continuous investment in my personal and professional growth and growing my authority, influence, and credibility gave me the ability to live a life of abundance, freedom, and recognition.

But not all people know how to achieve life-changing breakthroughs, and that’s why so many people remain stuck in poverty and limited mindset. I wrote The Unfakeable Code® multi-award winning book to show you how to transform the disempowered part of yourself that makes you give in to the transient “scarcity and biased persona” and let doubts, fears, uncertainty, and judgments control your choices in life.

On the 27th of September, I received the Quilly Award® in Hollywood, California, for my book hitting eight bestseller lists and being acknowledged as a world-renowned author and personal and professional development authority amongst other famous global experts.

In this book, I elaborate on my five-step formula for successfully breaking through the mental and emotional obstacles that, if not addressed, can lead to greater physical exhaustion, procrastination, and stress. You will learn how to handle judgment and rejections better and successfully recognize repeated patterns that keep you feeling stuck and what you can do about it.

This book has plenty of actionable advice for anyone to implement who wishes to establish themselves as an “authentic leader and go-to expert” in their field. An authentic life involves establishing core values and combining personal, relationship, spiritual, and professional development. Achieving “unfakeable” status takes sacrifice and continuously growing and overcoming challenges. There are eight life cycles you will continuously face, each of which comes with challenges. I wrote A Path to Excellence book to share the Octagon of Excellence Method you can use to grow into your fullest possible potential.

At The Quilly Awards®, as an executive producer of The Truth About Reading documentary, I had the occasion to network with John Corcoran, the founder of the John Corcoran Foundation ™, which aims to change the conversation around literacy by highlighting illiteracy, sub-literacy, and learning disabilities es, including dyslexia. Furthermore, fought up with Thomas Kenny (speaker and veteran), and Chriss Voss, an American former FBI hostage negotiator who later became an entrepreneur, speaker and author. Voss is best known for his instant classic ‘Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. Nick Nanton (many times Emmy Award-winning director), and many more guests of honour. I loved networking and sharing ideas and working with some of the greatest minds in business, with entrepreneurs, leaders, writers from all over the world and other like-minded individuals.

The National Academy of Best-Selling Authors founded the Quilly Awards® to commemorate the author’s achievements. It entails being awarded a 14-inch gold statue by the same craftsmen who sculpted the Oscars and Emmy Awards. The 2022 Annual ThoughtLeader® Summit and the EXPY & Quilly® Awards took place at the Beverly Hilton, located in Hollywood and a short car ride to the Walk of Fame, this being the location where presidents and celebrities have frequently visited. The event consisted of the Best-Sellers Reception, ThoughtLeader® Summit & PowerTalk Presentations, the award ceremony, photo shootings, interviews and many more.

Also, besides being over twenty times best-selling and award-winning Author of A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Codee® and A Path to Excellence, I am a Serial Entrepreneur, Filmmaker, International Speaker and Transformational Life and Business Coach specializing in Human Behaviour and Maximizing Human Potential, Power and Purpose. To take your self-mastery and business-mastery journey to a whole new level, become an “authority in your field of expertise”, a globally known brand or an entrepreneur who solves global problems and wants to succeed in every critical area of life, you need someone you can trust and is experienced and credible to get you there.

Suppose it’s time to unmask your perceived flaws and grow to your fullest potential. In that case, we are a good fit. We will work on growing your mindset and emotional intelligence. As you ditch the transient persona’s ‘masks’ you show to the world from fear of judgment and rejection, you will start to embrace more of who you are, an unfakeable individual capable of anything you set your heart to. With every session of Vital Planning Life and Business Mastery training, you’ll return to authentic and meaningful living, purposeful leading, and prudently loving. On this journey, I aim for your old wounds to be healed and your greatness to be unveiled.

The truth is…

Modern life comes with many expectations and stress: career, work, business, social expectations, finances, relationships, health, you name it. While we sleep, our brains and bodies work hard to heal past wounds. But here is a question you may want to ponder: why should you be the victim of your history and past pains and expectations of others when you can invest in educating your mind and rest and rejuvenate while awake?

By combining over 30 years of research, the cutting-edge power of neuroscience, engineering, cognition, and emotional intelligence with an inspiring testimony, and timeless wisdom, my integrated and holistic breakthrough coaching and training will show you how to grow your authentic power and develop your self-governance and leadership skills needed to empower every critical area of life so you can be a better and more successful leader, grow your wealth and purpose and live freely on your terms.

Those of you who may not be financially ready to invest in your advanced coaching, you can either book one of the sessions, a twelve weeks rapid transformation coaching program, or grab a copy of any of my books. Whatever choices you make, you will learn the methods, principles, and tools you can use to break free from the fake-it-till-you-make-it culture, reinvent your life, grow your business and become the master of your destiny.

The Unfakeable Codee® is a well-researched, skilfully written book redefining the healthy body-mind-soul connection. It is filled with lessons on authenticity, growth, inner freedom, work, and much more.

A reader’s Favourite book critic had to say: “The author writes confidently and in crisp and upbeat prose, connecting with readers through a conversational tone and sharing real-life examples and experiences that drive the message home to readers in a compelling manner.

Tony Jeton Selimi has a compelling message for contemporary readers; it is hard to ignore the confident voice and the convincing statement of the book. The Unfakeable Code©: Take Back Control, Lead Authentically and Live Freely on Your Terms is one of those rare books that transform lives —easy to read and packed with insights you want to read repeatedly.”

The book is ideal for those who want to discover how to:

•          Handle Judgments and Rejections Easily and Learn To Be Comfortable In Your Skin

•          Stop Being a People-pleaser, Breakthrough Self-deception, and Start Honouring Your Truth

•          Take Back Control of Your Reactions to Stressful Situations and Learn to Use Your Emotions Intelligently

•          Manage Negative Self-Talk (and Turn Fear Into a Powerful Motivator)

•          Infuse Your Life With a Limitless Sense of Freedom, Purpose, and Untapped Potential

And More!

Here’s What Experts Have To Say About The Book:

“A life manual that gives you valuable insights into the science of changing your mindset that will transform your existence.” – Marie Diamond, a star from The Secret

“An inspiring, enjoyable, fast-moving book that shows you how to unlock your full power for unlimited success.” – Brian Tracy, Author, Chairman, and CEO of Brian Tracy International

“The worldview developed here transcends science, dogma, and belief, giving readers a new code to reconnect with their true, authentic individual and the Divine within that knows how to take back control, lead authentically and live freely on your terms.” Dr John Demartini, World Renown Human Behavior Expert, Philosopher, and Founder of the Demartini Institute

“Genius Writing and Beautiful Offering to the World. Every sentence is worthy of a workshop, a month to memorize, and can be. Tod, as a guide to look at your life, use this book as a measuring tool about love, overcoming, becoming whole, and conquering what is typical, instead of living in shame, fear, and with unnecessary insecurities that our fake personas show others. Tony has done it again with his latest book, The Unfakeable Code®, and his offering to the world in this one is truly a love-inspired way of looking at what we present to the world and who we are in our divinity. He writes about five major principles in this book, and each is life-changing if used. Thank you, Tony J. Selimi, for offering this to all of us. We are better for it!” Tammy De Mirza, Author

You can read more about what Five Star Reader’s Favorite reviewers had to say about “The Unfakeable Code®” by clicking HERE!

Conclusion

At the end of the day, it’s not just about the acknowledgements you will receive along the life journey that helps you be more of an authentic individual you were born to be, and build authority and credibility. It’s about the difference you will make, the service you deliver, and the evolving purpose you’ll create that adds priceless value to other people’s lives. It’s something that many of my clients say to others when they recommend my services: “To be coached by Tony is a priceless and privileged experience that inspires and awakens in you the wisdom to create your best life.”

To help many more of you in your pursuit of personal and professional excellence, I just released my latest book in a series of self-mastery and self-improvement books called A Path to Excellence.

It explores what enables you to face your doubts, fears, and financial limits through every step in life, become great at what you do and perform at the highest levels of personal and professional excellence as you go through the eight inevitable cycles of life. Empowering you to go beyond perceived limits, face your excuses, and overcome what causes you to feel unproductive at home and work.

My client Troy, the founder of several global businesses, described it as “the blueprint to becoming confident, certain, and extremely committed and resilient as you face the challenges of the infinite eight transitional cycles of life.”

On every page of this inspired book, you will find the key elements you need to incorporate into your daily lives to achieve personal excellence and grow your confidence, wealth, credibility, reputation and potential.

I trust you got much inspiration and value from this week’s article. For those of you who want to create a personal, relationship, career, business, leadership, team and financial breakthroughs, as your coaching partner, my focus is to work together on finding out exactly the root cause of your blocks and effectively and efficiently create the mindset and the plan on accelerating your journey to abundance, excellence, influence, success, fulfilment and inspiration.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Life and Business Coach Specializing in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur 2020 award, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year 2021 Award, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award 2021, and Maincreast Media Book Award 2021 for A Path to Wisdom, Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code®, and A Path to Excellence, Winner of Book Excellence Award 2022!

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#1… Book a Breakthrough Consultation Session by sending an e-mail to info@tonyselimi.com. I invite those of you who are high achievers and change-makers to spend five or ten incredible days transforming what pains you into what inspires you by being privately coached and trained by me—taking place in beautiful locations worldwide. Booking yourself on Vital Planning Business and Life Mastery Training will assist you in learning new and more productive ways and proven methods, tools, and principles that can help you upgrade your psychology and achieve your wildest dreams. Together, we can help you deliver the ever-evolving purpose you want to share with the world.

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