In my recent TV interview with Zërijeta Jajaga for her show @Open I was asked:

Why would people not want to invest in the greatest asset -you? What is it that holds people back to have a coach or a mentor? What can coaches do for you?

There are many reasons why people may not use a coach. Some to mention are having lack of financial resources, not having personal development high on their highest values, time rstrictions, and in many cases simply not knowing what a great life coach can do for them.

I went on to explain to her audience that a Life Coach is someone who through powerful questioning is ale to be the mirror the client needs to reflect back at themselves the clarity, certainty, and credibility needed to make better life choices, decisions, and create the healthy habits designed to create their dream life.

Throughout centuries the greatest rulers of all times used trusted advisers to help them direct their kingdom and win wars. In the recent real life coaching Hollywood and Los Angeles Award Winning documentary “Living My Illusion,” that I co-created with my elite coaching clients Joel and Timea Van der Molen, it highlights how having a coach it is not a new age thing. In contrary, it is the advisory services of the great philosopher Aristotle that helped the world-conqueror Alexander the Great win battles and conquer new lands.

Just like cars, your body too if maintained, regularly checked, and is finely tuned can operate at its maximum capacity.

The problem is, most of us have never been taught to look after our bodies and often we ignore our body’s until it is too late to do something about it. One of the reasons we don’t operate at our maximum capacity is that we’re not aligning what we do on a day to day basis with who we really are.

Ask yourself the following questions and write down your answers in your journal:

What do I truly love doing?
What am I gifted at doing?
What gives me the greatest satisfaction?
What is not work to me?
What do I naturally gravitate towards?
What do others consistently tell me I am good at?

You too can start your journey to operating at you maximum capacity, all you need is clarity on who you are, what you love doing and why you love doing what you do.

Your answers to these questions will begin to unveil your strengths. Identify your strengths and then strengthen those strengths through practice. Happiness and peace occur every time you’re operating in your strengths.

Birds have wings – they fly. Fish have gills – they swim. Humans have strengths – the things they dream of, they love doing and are naturally talented to do, or find themselves gravitating to all the time. This is where they must live if they are to ever reach their maximum capacity.

But know this – that you have a lifetime to discover these. Never fear trying – for it is in trying and even in failing that you will learn and clarify what are your strengths, and where you should expend your energies.

So, what are you waiting for? Get busy strengthening, wake up each day and do something that brings you closer to what you gravitate towards. Live and let love lead your path.

If you want to go on a deeper journey, learn a unique methodology that can help you listen to your soul’s voice and align your life with your purpose then i highly recommend to book a two hour consultation session by clicking here, or to download a copy of “ A Path to Wisdom. How to live a balanced, healthy and peaceful life.”

Love, light and be blessed!
Tony J Selimi
Elite Life Coach and Master Healer

I decided to write this blog in the early hours of Monday morning after having a conversation with an old friend of mine whom I was meant to meet today but we did not as he felt ashamed to meet due to being broke and feeling uncomforteable to speak his truth.

Before I go into the details on how fear of success can show up and impact your life, let me tell you a story about this guy. This friend is someone I love and respect very much, despite all the time and efforts he has put to attend many personal development workshops, publishing a book, and starting a life coaching company he is not making any money.

Many entrepreneurs that I have coached, mentored and helped to create and develop their business go through this stage where no matter how much effort they put they simply do not make money. What’s been interesting to observe with hundreds of clients is that some people manage to get out of this space of lack easily, and others get stack in this space where they find it difficult to manifest money for years until they decide to do something about it.

Are you also someone who no matter what you do you feel stuck?

The Good News!

You’re a not alone in this situation, what you ought to remember is that you are a doer. You’ve got the brains and the potential to move mountains. But you’ve also got this pesky habit of wanting to avoid the spotlight no matter what. In meetings, you’d rather say silent than voice out your amazing idea.

You fear power and leadership, because you’ve seen others hurt by it. You know you could earn more money, but you’re paralyzed by self-doubt and procrastination. When you think about your past, there may be one or two incidents where your friends or family members were jealous of you and your accomplishments.

This fear just like any other fear doesn’t affect you all the time, but it can still do some damage when you least expect it. Watch out for it, and try to make a mental note of the scenarios in which it creeps up on you.

What happens when you’re affected by the fear of success?

• If you’re affected by this fear, you may very well be a doer. You’ve got the brains and the potential to move mountains. But you’ve also got this pesky habit of wanting to avoid the spotlight no matter what.
• In meetings, you’d rather say silent than voice out your amazing idea. You fear power and leadership, because you’ve seen others hurt by it.
• You know you could earn more money, but you’re paralyzed by self-doubt and procrastination.
• And when you think about your past, there may be one or two incidents where your friends or family members were jealous of you and your accomplishments.

What happens when you’re unaffected by the fear of success?

• Your self-confidence will skyrocket, and you’ll start speaking out and accomplishing more at work and in social situations.
• You’ll be compelled to share your unique gift with others, and they’ll reciprocate by giving more of themselves to you too.
• You’ll become a magnet for people and opportunities that grow you and take your life and career to the next level.

What can you do about overcoming the fear of success?

You can do these simple exercises to help you overcome the fear of success, here are five things you can do to overcome the fear of success:

• Identify what makes you feel anxious when you think of success, this could be your deep rooted subconscious believes that keep you stuck in the rat
• Make a list of your limited beliefs and create your personalised positive affirmations, you can download from my website a free e-book on how to do this
• Look within, start to meditate and learn to tap to universal abundance
• Focus, get clear to what your self-worth is, as you do the universe will reward you accordingly
• Trust your inner guidance to help you raise your vibrational state so that you can tap into the abundance energy

If you are still struggling and want to learn more about how to transform from “Fear of Successes to Freedom and Making Money” you may want to attend any of my workshop or send your details to book@healoneself.co.uk to be kept informed about my forthcoming book “A Path to Wisdom” due to be released in Spring 2014 as it might be just the solution you have been looking for.

The book will be available on sale from Amazon, kindle, iPad, and the major retailers.

You can also book a two hour Fear2Success Elite Life Coaching Consultation and learn to say good by to Fear and say Hello to your new found Freedom and Success you wish to create.

In my next article i am going to talk to you about what happens when you’re affected by the ‘Fear of Failure’.

Helping you become healthy, wealthy and wise.

Tony J Selimi

No matter what subconscious fear you’re experiencing, it almost always falls into one of 7 categories that you are soon going to discover. So far, in my previous blogs I spoke about the ‘Fear of Unworthiness’, and the ‘Fear of Identity’. Before reading about the next one the ‘Fear of Change’, take a few moments to read the previous two blogs and see if any of these have popped up in your life.

Science tells us everything changes, and you know change is necessary for your personal growth, many of the clients who come to my workshops, see me for Life Coaching, Crystal Light Bed Therapy or Bio Energy healing experience this fear.

Often they can’t help but shy away from it in favor of the choices you’re familiar with. At work, you’re known as the one who plays it safe. You may have a reputation for being reliable, but you’re rarely the one who comes up with game-changing ideas.

You crave security and love the consistency of your routine, you are trapped in your own fortress and the idea of getting out can be terrifying. At home, your friends and family might even call you stubborn for always sticking to your ways. If you are someone affected by this fear you’re not very fond of surprises.

This fear just like any other fear doesn’t affect you all the time, but it can still do some damage when you least expect it. Watch out for it, and try to make a mental note of the scenarios in which it creeps up on you.

What happens when you’re affected by the fear of change?

• If you’re affected by this fear, you already know that change is necessary for your personal growth – but you often can’t help but shy away from it in favor of the choices you’re familiar with. Simply put you make a lot of excuses of why remaining where you are is the best thing for you.
• At work, you’re known as the one who plays it safe. You may have a reputation for being reliable, but you’re rarely the one who comes up with game-changing ideas. You hide your emotions and personality and most likely you lack confidence in speaking your mind.
• And at home, your friends and family might even call you stubborn for always sticking to your ways. You do the same things over and over routine is your favourite game.
• You crave security and love the consistency of your daily routine – and you may feel discomfort whenever you’re forced to shy away from this routine.
• Oh, and you’re not very fond of surprises.

What happens when you’re unaffected by the fear of change?

• You’ll be more eager to dive into new experiences and meeting new people. You easily blend in new social environments and make new friends.
• Your newfound openness will lead to more career and financial opportunities. You speak your mind, are direct in your communication and not afraid to ask to be promoted for the hard work you know you have done that deserves that promotion, bonus or even salary increase.
• You’ll develop the ability to see things in a different light, which leads to more creativity and intuition at work.
• You follow your passion, you do what you love and you do it with pride
• You embrace life fully and start to create new experiences

What can you do about it?

• Make a list and identify which fear is affecting you
• Acknowledge the feeling and each specific fear and let it pass through your body
• Each day challenge yourself to do something different, start changing small things i.e. take a new
• Remember, its only a perception and that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real

If you want to learn more about how to transform from “Fear of Change” you may want to send your details to < ahref="mailto:book@healoneself.co.uk">book@healoneself.co.uk to be kept in touch of my forthcoming book “A Path to Wisdom” due to be released in Spring 2014 as it might be just the solution you have been looking for.

The book will be available on sale from Amazon, kindle, iPad, and the major retailers. You can also book a two hour Fear2FReedom Coaching Consultation and learn to say good by to Fear and say Hello to your new found Freedom.
In my next article i am going to talk to you about what happens when you’re affected by the ‘Fear of Success’.

Helping you become healthy, wealthy and wise.

To your joy, success and happiness,

Tony J Selimi