In my recent TV interview with Zërijeta Jajaga for her show @Open I was asked:

Why would people not want to invest in the greatest asset -you? What is it that holds people back to have a coach or a mentor? What can coaches do for you?

There are many reasons why people may not use a coach. Some to mention are having lack of financial resources, not having personal development high on their highest values, time rstrictions, and in many cases simply not knowing what a great life coach can do for them.

I went on to explain to her audience that a Life Coach is someone who through powerful questioning is ale to be the mirror the client needs to reflect back at themselves the clarity, certainty, and credibility needed to make better life choices, decisions, and create the healthy habits designed to create their dream life.

Throughout centuries the greatest rulers of all times used trusted advisers to help them direct their kingdom and win wars. In the recent real life coaching Hollywood and Los Angeles Award Winning documentary “Living My Illusion,” that I co-created with my elite coaching clients Joel and Timea Van der Molen, it highlights how having a coach it is not a new age thing. In contrary, it is the advisory services of the great philosopher Aristotle that helped the world-conqueror Alexander the Great win battles and conquer new lands.

If you agree that Mastery is an inner process of transformation from the inside out then you have come to the right place.

You are not alone…Many people around the world including celebrities such as George Clooney, President Obama, Hillary Clinton, Angelina Jolie, Oprah, even the new president elect Donald Trump experience the feeling of being stuck, isolated, and becoming uncertain about their future.

This also was the case with me six years ago when I faced redundancy. Looking back, I had to face the fears, the shame, and the loneliness that came as I embarked on a never ending emotional roller coaster that each passing day dragged me deeper in the caves of solitude being tied up with unbreakable chains that kept me imprisoned in the prison of my own creation.

As I hit rock bottom, I decided to purchase every personal development program out there. I also started to attend talks, seminars, and workshops in the hope to take ownership of the direction my life was going. I continued to work with my coach, mentor, and the various healers to help me heal from within.

It was also during this time that I came across Dr John Demartini whose programs, guidance and mentorships alongside the KPI Program (Business Accelerator Nine Months Program) helped me create the breakthroughs that lead me to create a very successful coaching, training, and speaking business that I now enjoy and love.

Having travelled the world with coaching successful private clients, I got to understand how I and most people on this planet operated from the victim/rescuer/observer role. It is this that places us on an emotional roller coaster that only the unhealthy part of our ego enjoys.

This got me thinking and took me on another inner self discovery journey. I went to see my spiritual teacher John of God in Brazil and spend three weeks meditating at the casa asking God, the spirits, and the Universe to help me create a unique methodology that billions of people around the world can use to let go the victim mindset of their past and become masters of their destiny.

As part of my KPI program, to raise my profile and be able to reach more people I had to write a book. My first attempt was disastrous, I felt pushed and what I wrote did not resonate with my heart. Although many people told me the book was amazing, my heart new I had to write the manual for humanity that since childhood I have been thinking about.

Despite the investment in money, energy and time made so far, I decided to write the book that felt close to my heart. I hired my publisher Mindy Gibbins-Klein as my book coach to help me focus and keep me accountable throughout my writing process.

I started to write my first book A Path to Wisdom from my Pimlico flat, as I got hired to coach clients around the world, my writing continued in some amazing locations that many of my successful UK and international clients love to take me.

The book writing continued during the time I was coaching clients in the island of Hvar in Croatia, Essaouira and Marrakech in Morocco, Swiss Alps, Macedonia, Kosovo, Germany, and the final draft was finished in Brazil at the Casa Dom Ignazio just before Christmas 2013.

Little I knew back then that three years down the line I would become an international award-winning and best-selling author of not only my first book A Path to Wisdom but also my newly released book #Loneliness the Virus of The Modern Age.

As more people become aware to the truth that the outer world we experience is the external out-picturing of our internal thoughts, feelings and attitudes, the better our world becomes and the faster they become masters of their reality. It is this inner journey that is required for billions of people to take to become empowered to change their outer world experience of life whatever they may be.

The twenty five conscious engineering steps that I talk about in A Path to Wisdom are part of the TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use to help personal, professional, and the owners of 6,7,8 and now even 9 figure business owners find solutions to their problems.

The method is set up in a way that helps people change their inner world first. In my humble opinion, we are here to be all we can be, to learn, expand, and accelerate our human potential. From studying, observing, coaching, and being with some very successful people I know that there is no other way..

For sure you know it already……You always have the choice to stop playing the victim game but it takes a certain amount of courage to do so. It also takes for someone who has walked the talk to be a great mirror to help you polish your own mirror.

Here are the five vital steps you can use each day to Master Your Life.

1. See everything you experience as something that you created in order to grow spiritually from. Each and every day repeat to yourself this mantra I teach all of my clients: “I acknowledge that I am the master of my reality and equally embrace support and challenge.”
2. When challenged by a situation or a person, remember its their pain, shame, or fear that speaks. Chose to see the Christ/Love/Light/Mohamed/Buddha Spirit within everyone and adjust your response accordingly.
3. When you wake up ask yourself, how else can you serve the people you encounter each day. This will put you in a daily mode of practicing an attitude of gratitude.
4. Learn to Live in the NOW. Yes we all have things we want to have, achieve and create, it is the very same yearning to have things that stops you from living, being and loving the moment.
5. You are a miracle, to unleash the wisdom you have make sure you invest in a coach/mentor/healer, etc. It is the best investment that reaps countless rewards.

It is this consistent investment in me that I used to heal my body, balance my mind, master my emotions, and awaken my heart to the infinite wisdom of the love. It is what lead me become human behaviour expert globally known as The See-Through Coach who helps thousands of clients accelerate their personal and business growth.

It is my heart’s thirst to reach, educate, and heal the lives of one billion people that inspires me into action every awakening day. It is this mission and vision to be of service to humanity that recently got me to being interviewed in San Diego by legendary Brian Tracy and appear on ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox and their affiliate channels.

Now it’s up to you to use these Five Steps daily to grow in an ever-expanding spiral reality. This is really how the universe functions: Stars are like spirals of energy, we are those stars, so make sure repeat the cycle to learn, grow, and use the five vital steps shared all over again.

Be authentic, wealthy, and healthy,

Tony J. Selimi

P.S. Check out the events calendar to attend any of my talks and seminars in 2017. Get in touch to help you inspire your audience, book a consultation, or learn more about my work. You start reading, learning and growing by daily taking ACTION!

No matter how each one of us feels, no matter what we do or not do, the truth is every time we look up, we see the sun, the moon, the sky, and an infinite universe filled with stars that at night come alive and shine their light equally on us all. What could be possible if each one of us comes out of our cocoon and just like stars, every day we shine our love and light? What would change in your life if right now you decided to make a Dent in the universe?

What if, just like I did, you too can find a way to activate your inner genius, become focused, and connect with the right people that can help you on your journey. I trust what you are about to read is going to inspire you into action so that you reach for your star, create a clear vision, and take the steps required to help you deliver your highest vision and make a dent in the universe.

So how did a homeless man who twenty-six years ago fled the atrocities of civil war, could not speak English, had no money, no family or friends to turn too ended up on a British Airways Business Class to San Diego, staying at Hard Rock Hotel in a King Suite room, being interviewed by legendary Brian Tracey, connect with Nick Nanton from Celebrity Branding You, and appear on ABC, NBC, Fox, and CBS discussing about my work, award-winning books, and real life coaching documentaries created in partnership with the founders of Vandercom, Joel Van der Molen and Timea Van der Molen. Some of you may be wondering how did I go about creating a concourse of wisdom which is helping people access, activate, and accelerate their human and business potential.

Others may be thinking how did I attract clients from all professions, sectors, and markets including Dr Emanuele Garbelli with whom we are on a mission to transform healthcare globally, Philip Carvil, a space physiology scientist on a mission to create product and services for safe travel to space, and Paul McMonagle on a mission to help people globally heal their OCD and support them on their journey to perfect health? Pretty impressive, wouldn’t you agree?

For many people what I just shared sounds mission impossible, but for me, like a phoenix, I chose to rise triumphantly from the ashes of my misery, loneliness, and emotional pain and become Human Behaviour expert known internationally as The See-Through Coach who loves inspiring others find solutions to global problems that mankind is facing now and in the not far distant future.

Looking back at my life, I now see with clarity how the pain, the adversities, and the isolation I experienced were what shaped me to daily strive to become a better person, to help others heal, and on this path to learn how both pain and pleasure in equal measure were what helped me focus, create and deliver a vision that is now making a Dent in the universe.

In 2009, my life took a very different turn, without much of a warning I was subjected to corporate backstabbing games that led me feeling stressed, emotionally weak, and destabilised my entire life. I was surprised to learn that I was far from alone on this journey; it seems that many people up and down the country faced redundancy and unfair dismissals that triggered various fears, mental and emotional health related issues, as well as stress-related problems in their personal, professional, and business life.

I started to isolate myself by avoiding seeing friends and family because I didn’t want them to know; I was ashamed, fearful, and became insecure of my worth I knew I had inside. Luckily, I am not one to dwell in this kind of state. I quickly began searching for solutions, I spent a great deal of time evaluating different online programs, I bought The Sylva Method, Hands of Light, Sedona Method, and started to attend talks, seminars and hired few healers and coaches to help me get out of this state.

Each time I passed through Piccadilly, Leicester-square, and Charing Cross Road I found myself in Waterstones, Watkins Spiritual bookshop, and Foyles. I bought and started to read two to four books a week. All of this helped a little, but I was still a long way from that light at the end of the tunnel. If losing the job I loved wasn’t bad enough, I also experienced a major breakdown and had identity crisis that lead me to give power to the voices of my injected values, beliefs, and the unmet expectations of others. Over the months that followed, I studied Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and became qualified Transformational Life Coach.

I then signed up to attend a nine-month entrepreneurial program called “How to become a Key Person of Influence (KPI).” During these nine months, I met so many entrepreneurs on a similar journey to me. I focused my time, energy and money to work with a coach, attend Dr John Demartini’s talks and seminars, and learn how to apply to my business the five simple steps of the KPI Method that Daniel Priestly, the founder of KPI, uses to help entrepreneurs become a key person of influence.

During this nine-month program I learned how to perfect my pitch, create coaching products full of value, built an international profile, create TJS Evolutionary Method, publish my unique IP, and partner up with others to take this unique work ad make a Dent in the universe by reaching, educating, healing, and touching the hearts of one billion people.

Within months of publishing my book A Path to Wisdom, it reached Amazon Number One Best-selling list in Personal Development Category ahead of many global teachers like Louise Hay, Anthony Robbins, and many other respected figures in the personal, professional, business and spiritual development industry. I just kept re-investing everything I was earning from my coaching clients, healing sessions, and business consulting in my personal, professional, and business development. Working with Dr John Demartini helped me clarify my vision, mission, and purpose and be paid my worth.

The more integrated I became inside, the more I started to attract the right clients, opportunities and partnerships to help me deliver the fruits that many of my clients were experiencing to a global audience. The more clients I coached, the more I activated my inner genius and the bigger my vision became. Supporting so many clients resolve their personal, professional and business problems as well as from personal experience I felt called to write about loneliness. A global problem that is not going away, but instead it is increasing exponentially through the power of the internet and social media.

The desire to help people breakthrough their loneliness, find solutions to their mental, physical, emotional related health problems as well as relationship, business, financial and self-love issues, is what inspired me to focus my time, energy, and money to create a powerful five-step method that when applied daily it helps them find the switch that activates their inner light, healing power and infinite wisdom of love. so that they can live more fulfilling, connected, and purposeful lives

We are so connected technologically, yet feel very alone in our hearts, this is a growing problem, we are symbiotic by design, our survival depends on our connection and collaboration with each other. Knowing this I started to think about a solution to the segregation we experience worldwide that people can use daily to live more fulfilling, connected, and purposeful lives. It is this dream to connect people in ways

It is this dream to connect people in ways that help them create heart, mind and soul coherence that inspired me to write another book. It is this thirst for being of service to humanity that gave birth to another international award-winning book#Loneliness – The Virus of The Modern Age. I spend six months researching the subject of loneliness.

I learnt how loneliness impacts our genes, weakens our immune system, and is the root cause of the separation we experience globally. Using my trademarked methodology in human development, the TJS Evolutionary Method® (TJS Method) alongside TJS Meditation Solutions, the TJS Value Alignment, as well as Vital Planning for Elevated Living Five Day Seminar to help more clients achieve results I started to attract better clients and far greater opportunities that I ever thought possible.

It is this vision to create life manual to reach, educate, and inspire one billion people to live more fulfilling, connected, and purposeful lives that gave birth to my next book #Loneliness – The Virus of The Modern Age. I spent six months researching the subject of loneliness. I learnt how loneliness impacts our genes, weakens our immune system, and is the root cause of the separation we experience globally. Using my trademarked methodology in human development, the TJS Evolutionary Method® (TJS Method) alongside TJS Meditation Solutions, the TJS Value Alignment, as well as Vital Planning for Elevated Living Five Day Seminar to help more clients achieve results I started to attract better clients and far greater opportunities that I ever thought possible.

This lead to taking my business and my life to a whole new level, one that lead me to Nick Nanton, Brian Tracey, and with their support appear on ABC, NBC, Fox, and CBS TV channels to reach more people and make a Dent in the Universe. Here are Five Vital Steps to help you on your journey to unleash your value, create a business and products that solve global problems, and in turn support you on your journey to making a Dent in the universe.

1. Acknowledge Your Worth. What I mean by that is get clear on who you are, what is your credibility, and what value you do you have that the world needs.
2. Love the unlovable. Many of you reject things that are not loving to you, true master sees the balance in everything you experience, the good and the bad. Learn to see the other side of everything that you currently may perceive as unlovable.
3. Achieve inner equilibrium. Your physiology will thank you for balancing your skewed perception, the more balanced you feel within, the more you become in your outer world.
4. Results you want are your creation. Whatever the challenge may be, remember to get the results you want you must commit your time, love and energy. Make sure you know it is your responsibility to create the happiness you deserve.
5. A miracle is what you are by design, learn to activate, accelerate and advance this wisdom that is within you to create the miracles you desire in your life. Start by having a great conversation with your higher self. Go into the future, find the man you have become, and let him write a letter to your current self on how you went about in making a Dent in the universe.

Apply these five vital steps of the TJS Evolutionary Method on a daily basis, they will awaken your purpose, wisdom, and hearts intelligence. If what you have read rings true to your heart, then please make sure you leave your comments below and let me and my subscribers know your inspirational story. Don’t forget to start reading and learning the method and the steps shared in my books and to sign up to receive my inspirational newsletter packed with food for the mind and heart, follow me on twitter, fb public page, Instagram, and connect with me on LinkedIn.

You may also choose to start your coaching journey with me, if so, my recommendation is to book a two hour of clarity coaching consultation during which we will identify what you need to do in order for you to get clear on the next steps you need to make to shine your light and make a dent in the universe.

In the next blog, I am going to share what happens next as I go through the Celebrity Branding Experience with Nick, Brian, his team of expertise at the Hard Rock Hotel in San Diego, and the live interview with Brian Tracey.

Finally, thank you for stopping by, being a valued subscriber, a reader of my books, and a fan, valued client, and most importantly a fellow light friend, on this short life journey.

Love and wisdom

Tony J. Selimi