What thoughts go through your mind when you hear the word “coma”? Do you joke about it, or do you take it seriously? At difficult times in your life, do you find yourself asking the question why am I in this situation?

If the answer is YES, then you are ready to wake-up your truth, from living an illusion and being in a “technological coma” that is stripping you off your true identity, your freedom, happiness, and most importantly the time you have left in this world.

Truth is, for many of you, the word “coma” is associated with someone who has had some kind of accident or life-threatening illness that stops them from responding to any outside stimulus such as touch, voices, other sounds, or any sort of activity going on nearby. Some of you may even jokingly use the word “coma” to describe people who don’t pay attention, are sleeping deeply, or not fulfilling their true potential.

But the kind of “coma2 I am talking about has nothing to do with effects of a physical injury. It has to do with:

The psychological, behavioural, and habitual changes that are happening at a speed of light due to rapid social, technological, and economic advancements are forcing many of us to be glued and married to our phones, ipads, and countless applications designed to rob us off or priceless time and give us an instant dopamine fix.

Recall the last situation that you were in. Where you on a date, with a friend having dinner, in a social gathering, family event, or at an important meeting at work? Now, see if you can recall how many times did you or the people you were with checked and did some kind of activity on their phones?

Do you or did anyone you were with took the time to switch-off from technology and the associated applications that increase your cortisol levels thus inducing more stress and anxiety in your life?

Did you know that by not doing so, the message you are subconsciously sending to the other person when you constantly check your phone for facebook updates, what’s up messages and Instagram likes is that of “ I have something more important to do, I value something else, I don’t value your time, etc.” The bottom line is, the other person may come to their own conclusion that being with you is a total waste of time and you don’t truly value their time and them.

Perhaps you have a friend who on moments notice cancels that movie-date, exhibition you were looking forward to seeing, or simply catching with them over a coffee and decides to honour another engagement. If you do, then you may want to look deeper within you the reasons this person is still in your life.

Over time I have let go many people whose behaviours and values were different to mines and the kind of meaningful, trustworthy and loving relationship I love enjoying in my daily life.

The countless dopamine fix behaviours we have developed are not only destroying the social fabric of a healthy society, business success and the relationships we have built over a lifetime, but they are also fuelling the global problems that mankind is facing and is looking to solve.

Some to mention are the threat of terrorist attacks, extremism, extreme levels of poverty, unfair wealth distribution, the spread of HIV/AIDS and other infectious diseases, supply of clean water, providing universal primary, secondary, and university education, managing cultural, generational and gender differences, dealing with high divorce rates and instilling the morals and ethics in the “millennials” that may save humanity from destroying itself.

In my multi-award winning book # Loneliness, I call this new phenomenon, the virus of the modern age. If not caught, stopped, and cleaned in the now, it will continue to spread globally at uncontrollable rates infecting everyone with behaviours, beliefs, and actions that may take mankind into an irreversible trajectory of self-destruction.

This new gold rush for dopamine fix is also affecting every family, every relationship, and every business across the world. Many business leaders and CEO’s that seek my help to address various personal, leadership and people problems felt that many of their workers are asleep.

Some event felt that the “millennials” are to blame because they are a generation of entitlement, narcissist, self-focused, and lazy people. Unless this problem is addressed and alleviated in the now, many people will lose their jobs, some businesses will stop to exist, and those who survive will deploy Artificial Intelligence (AI).

Perhaps now is the time to wake-up humanity from this coma that pushes us to seek friendship in social networks with people we never met, create and buy AI pets, sex, sales, police and soldier robots to satisfy our endless needs.

Recently I gave a TEDx talk titled “Technological Armageddon: A Wake-Up Call” based from a chapter in my book #Loneliness that so far hundred thousands of people have watched and shared it across various social media channels. In a nutshell, this talk is a global call for us to remember what makes us human being and not human doings that we are more and more forced to become.

You are here because you are curious, because you are born to be a dreamer, and because you are seeking the art of creating your dream life. But, we all know that the process of making our dreams come true process is no different to the one of planting the seeds for the fruit and vegetables we want to have in our garden.

If we want the seeds we plant to grow so that one day we can harvest the fruit and vegetables that nurture our body-mind, then we all know that once the seeds are planted, we ought to spend the time that is required to consistently nurture those seeds.

The art of creating your dream is no different to this process. Give it a go, and see how your destiny changes.

Eleanor Roosevelt, the longest-serving First Lady of the United States once said:

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Deep inside your mind, heart and soul you know you have a dream you believe in, an inspired purpose, vision and a calling that you would love to bring into reality and into the world.

But, as the societal indoctrination takes hold, many of us stop believing in our abilities; we doubt ourselves, and become afraid to dream big. And I mean really big.

According to the Scranton University research, did you know that a staggering 92% of people that set New Year’s goals never actually achieve them and 98% of people die without fulfilling their dreams.

That is billions of people who are killing trillions of dreams.

I’ve done it many times, and if you’re like me — a driven, type-A entrepreneur — failing to meet goals can set you back and leave you discouraged and frustrated.

My aim for this blog is to share three principles I have used to not only make my own dreams come true but also the dreams of the many of my clients from all around the world.

One of these clients that I helped make their dream come true is Joel Van der Molen, the MD of Vandercom, with whom we recently launched into the world “Living My Illusion”, a real life, thought provoking, and mind blowing coaching documentary series. Once a childhood dream it now became Joel’s reality.

It is only you who can take the same decision as Joel did two years ago that can put you on a path to realize your dreams.

Here is a fraction of the journey that led me to discover the art of creating my dream life. Let me share with you just one of my dreams that it took over forty years to realize, but I did it, and I know you can too.

I was born in a ghetto area of Gostivar, a small town in western Macedonia, and as a boy, I dreamed about three things: becoming a heart surgeon, an engineer who travels the world and works for the betterment of humanity. I dreamt that one day I will speak at the United Nations about the importance of preserving the sanctity of a human life.

My parents who were restaurant owners instilled in me the importance of education and listening to my heart played a significant role in achieving my dreams. By the age of ten, I already knew how to cook, work the land, and sell homemade farm produce to the local gypsy community.

Even then, I knew that someday my dreams would lead me to travel the world and work for the betterment of humanity. I felt it so deep in my soul. At the age of twelve, following an illness that kept me bed ridden in a hospital for over two years, I knew I will write a life manual, like people make manuals for fixing TV and Radio sets.

Then, in my late teens, the horror of civil war fell upon us – to save my life, my mother put me on a one-way flight to London; however, with very little money in my pocket, I had to live homelessly on the streets.

On this journey, I faced some of the worst adversity that life can throw at you. I experienced injustice, bullying, war horrors, homelessness and many disappointments, fears, rejections, and the feeling of abandonment.

But misfortune is often the catalyst that leads to powerful change, that’s what happened to me. I went from feeling alone, desperate, and hopeless to graduating with honors, successfully leading multi-billion pound IT programs, writing two best-selling books, travel globally and take people on a journey to boldly go where alone they are afraid to go.

Overcoming many of my life’s adversities also gave me the knowledge, tools, and the wisdom that kept pushing me against seemingly impenetrable boundaries and I believe that’s possible for you, too – for every one of us.

It is what I dedicate my life to, assisting others to breakthrough perceived limits and realizes their dreams, whatever they may be.

To help you on your journey, here are the three transformational principles you can use to master the art of making your dreams come true:

1. Exercise the power of choice; deep down you know you can choose to break through what’s blocking your path.
   2. Thrive to daily educate your mind. It is why you landed on this blog. It is what can help you efficiently learn how to use your time.
   3. You are the most important person in your life. Learn to love the unlovable in you, make a list of all the things you dislike about you and do something about it. It is what will synchronize your body, mind and heart.

Once these three core principles become habitual for you, you start to master the art of creating your dreams.

It took me forty years of consistently pushing through every adversity but also learning, training, and educating my mind. I went from being homeless to writing two bestselling and award-winning books. It is what gave birth to A Path to Wisdom and a year down the line to #Loneliness and what contributed towards being invited to speak at the United Nations in New York.

I am feeling so excited that my other dream, to be a TEDx speaker, is about to come true. I am among 37 speakers from 3 countries including Australia, British Virgin Islands and the United Kingdom and 14 states including California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Texas, Utah and Virginia who will be giving 35 talks which are guaranteed to change, inspire, and enrich your life..

I would love you to join me, be part of this amazing conference, and meet inspirational speakers. Click HERE to grab your tickets now and be one of those I helped and made their dreams come true.

Opportunities related to your dreams will be secured in any endeavor you choose to dedicate yourself to. Because, I believe, it is your commitment, consistency, and a grateful heart that lights up your path and makes you a shining star.

Remember, Creating Your Dream is Not a Choice-It is Your Destiny.

I thank you and love you.

P.S. If you are ready to create the alignment required to become a healthy, wealthy, successful, inspired and purposeful leader, then do get in touch. Your first step is to book a two-hour clarity coaching consultation and find out what my range of custom made coaching programs and the principles of TJS Evolutionary Method® that I use daily to help leaders, celebrities, and successful business owners from all market sectors resolve their problems can do for you.

As your trusted coach I can ensure that you have an epic 2017 and beyond by helping you learn principles that can accelerate your personal, professional and business growth.